biancaswrath
Lil Kai: I won't consider anything you say stupid. I would hate for you to be afraid to post here. I promise I'll be nice.
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calamatest:
eek I can't really read what you wrote... um... can you work on your grammar a little?
sweatdrop But I'll do my best to reply: There are three general levels of submissiveness. They are: submissive, slave, and pet. These are all very different things. A slave gives more power to his/her Master/Mistress than a sub does to his/her Dom/me, and a pet gives his/her Master/Mistress almost complete control over all of their decisions and actions. All of this is decided at the beginning of the relationship through a "contract" between the partners. It's very important that you discuss these limits before entering into a bdsm relationship. That being said, if you have given your Dom power over you, he can tell you to put on a collar and then leash you and walk you through Walmart (which is why I found myself on a leash at 3 am). Part of being submissive is being willing to test new things such as this when your Dom commands it of you.
As far as how a Dom acts in front of "normal" people, that's up to him. My Dom personally will still dominate me in front of my friends, but they know what we do and don't mind. Even in front of people who don't know, he still snaps for my attention. Not that I mind. This is the kind of relationship I want.
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I'm not altogether sure what you said was going on with your friend and her Dom, but my suggestion would be to talk to them about it and let them know that it makes you uncomfortable and if they continue to do it, you won't hang out with them anymore. That puts the ball in their court, and forces them to decide how they will act around you. What exactly do they do that makes you uncomfortable?
how sorry about that ill work on the grammar from now on. like i said see people in a btsm relationship gave me flash back of the time i was be abused by my first boy friend. when i try to tell tham about this her dum though it was fun and start being more controlling. one time i was at the mail what tham and just becouse i was talk to her to make he made her stop talk for the rest of the day she could not make a sound any sound. so im at a mail what her dum how scary the hell out of me and i scary of people i don't know just less then i am of hem. so i can talk to anyone and he will not tank me home.( i had gone what tham in hes car and had no other way of getting home.) so i was scary out of my mind and i just could not handily that and to hem me franking out was fun. then ever time he could he would be even more controlling and scary. pulling her to the ground by her hair and thing like that.
he look mad and scary. ( so i never see my friend anymore becouse of hem .
i know she like thing that way but hem be so controlling all the time just to gave me nightmares about my past was just wrong.)
but i just wanted to know if all sub think it OK for there dum to sub tham in front of other people or just when there alone ?
( you told me to a person by person thing. so now i under stand.)
( i just think he should hay back done on the btsm when i ask so i could spend time what my friend and not have to relive my past to do it.)
P.S. I know that all dum are not like that . you just ask what it was that up site me so i told you. i just wanted to know if all sub are OK what there dum controlling tham in front of other people.)