All and Sundry
In your opinion. Leaving bruises
Long term affects of repeated bruising seem to be
spider veins in older age as well as permanent sub-dermal hematoma (permanent broken capillaries) leading to redness and lumpiness at the site. Also, the type of bruising matters, and the person if they have preexisting conditions which lead to easy bruising matters. Someone with cancer for instance may require more than a "just let them heal" approach to bruises. It seem like bruise is a symptom, and not a disease.
Bruise Source 1
Bruise Source 2
Scars are caused by abrasion and cutting the skin. My worst scar is from a cat scratch I got when I was in my teens. I picked at the thing, causing it to scar more. Anyway, back to BDSM, if you aren't abrading the skin, there are no scars. Blood play, is an extreme form of BDSM, one I don't like (I don't like seeing blood) and I can safely say that its not often attempted by many people. If it is, I express deeply they know how to clean and take care of open wounds as that is proper aftercare.
Is rather dangerous. There are several well written articles for and against the use of erotic and/or auto-erotic asphyxiation out there. I know, and have read, several times, a few by Jay Wiseman. He has paramedic training background as well as he is an expert witness for the courts with cases involving BDSM. I am not linking those, as those may get me banned. But if you google around you can find them.
After reading and judging for myself the facts, I include very minor forms of asphyxiation into my kink. Never shutting off air completely. Just a hand on the throat and minor airway constrictions. I restrict my airflow more when I do breathing mediations, or swimming laps.
All and Sundry
There's a good bit of people in the community around here who I believe desperately need therapy.
I agree. The incidence of mental health issues in the kink community is that of general population. I think the general population of humanity has a buttload of unaddressed psychiatric issues. Given the BDSM community has gen pop level psychiatric disturbances, it goes to assume they have gen. pop. levels of under treatment.
"Although psychoanalytic literature suggests that high levels of certain types of psychopathology should be prevalent among BDSM practitioners, this sample failed to produce widespread, high levels of psychopathology on psychometric measures of depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsion, psychological sadism, psychological masochism, or PTSD. In fact, on measures of clinical psychopathology and severe personality pathology, this sample appeared to be comparable to both published test norms and to DSMIV-TR estimates for the general population."
Connolly, P. H. (2006). Psychological Functioning of Bondage/Domination/Sado-Masochism (BDSM) Practitioners. Journal Of Psychology & Human Sexuality, 18(1), 79-120.
All and Sundry
The therapy I took definitely helped on getting rid of one unhealthy kink.
I hope the therapy you received was well founded in current psychiatric care. I am glad you feel you are healthier. I am curious what your experience was, and what you deem a "kink" but you don't have to tell me if you don't want to. I have a strong feeling you are using terminology for what you experienced, in a very wrong manner.
All and Sundry
To each their own. If you love being abused, then good for you. Each person has their own opinion on what abuse is. Some people love it. Some people avoid it.
Abuse is not BDSM. Abuse has a solid definition so we sadly cannot have our own opinion on what abuse is. In our community it goes as follows. It is from the National Leather Associations focus group on Domestic Violence and Partner Abuse
BDSM activities are ALWAYS Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Abuse is NEVER safe, NEVER sane, and NEVER consensual.
BDSM follows established rules. Abuse has no rules.
BDSM is negotiated for the safety of both partners. Abuse is NEVER negotiated.
BDSM activities are used for mutual pleasure. Abuse is used to terrorize, frighten and control.
In BDSM, safewords can be used to stop any activity. If someone is being abused they cannot stop what is happening to them.
BDSM activities are about pleasure and being connected. Abuse is about power and control.
Conclusion: I think your assumptions are wrong and you either need to research and cite your sources on your assertions, or withdraw your unsupported comments.
Edit: I have a feeling you blocked me. That is a shame. I was totally willing to have a conversation with you about why I really think you are mistaken and misusing terms. Yep, you are totally blocking me.
Damn shame really. I put in some actual research into your questions. You brought up a good point, what is the long term affects of continued bruising. Well, at least I know now. And it doesn't bode well for my continued bashing of my shin on the coffee table
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