Blackrose_The_Knight
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- Posted: Wed, 28 Jan 2015 22:31:26 +0000
llamallamaducky
Silenced Nocturne
llamallamaducky
No woman should fantasize about being raped.
Anyone who has been sexually abused knows why.
We have names for women who do things for money.
If they enjoy it, they need some help.
People have died in these situations.
"Well they didn't use the safety word!" Sex doesn't seem like something I'm willing to risk my life for. Being a whore is not that serious.
Anyone who has been sexually abused knows why.
We have names for women who do things for money.
If they enjoy it, they need some help.
People have died in these situations.
"Well they didn't use the safety word!" Sex doesn't seem like something I'm willing to risk my life for. Being a whore is not that serious.
So, what exactly are you so against? Roleplaying? BDSM in general? Women enjoying sex in general?
I'm sorry, I can't tell from your post.
Sex is meant to be enjoyed, I'm not against that.
Roleplaying is up to the couple. If they want to swing from the chandeliers that's up to them.
I'm against the idea that women fantasize about being held down, tied up against their will to be engaged in sexual activity. Anyone who has truly been taken advantage of against their will knows how confusing/upsetting/emotionally damaging that is. I'm against encouraging men and women alike to practice taking advantage of one another. That should not be societally acceptable, and it's not. I don't care if they call it fun, it's nothing to be made fun of or to be taken lightly.
I assure you, any power I give a person, male or female, over me, when I submit, is earned. I don't submit to ERRYBODY, I submit to trusted individuals I know will care for me if I chose to giv give up power for a few hours. I am actively very assertive in my life and how I live. Its wonderful to stop being assertive and just be lazy for a bit.
Just like consensual sex isn't rape. Consensually giving power away (and eventually retaking that) isn't abuse because I retain everything I lost when I say so. Simply because it appears rapey, doesn't make it rapey. Consent is a strict, and abided rule in BDSM. My boyfriend, and Dom says "Rabidly, and fanatically consent oriented."
I am sorry if you had some sort of sexual assault. That should never happen, to anybody. Period. But what I participate in, is NOT sexual assault. Not in the least bit. Perhaps the motions have been used to assault others, but I am not being assaulted. I am experiencing a mutual, consensual, sexually fulfilling experience. And you are right, if I was taken against my will, and tied up without my consent (as apposed to with my consent) it would be an entirely different story. I am a fighter, I kick, bite, scratch, and scream. When startled I take a fighting stance.
Also, when you say "welp they didn't use the safeword they desrve it lulzlulz" You are implying the Dom is a shitty, inattentive, t**t, wailing on a sub. BDSM encourages, and enforces personal responsibility for your pleasure. Its the subs JOB to speak up if something is getting to hard. Its the Doms JOB to pay attention to the sub and make sure everything is okay. Why would I TRUST a lazy, half assed Dom with a flogger let alone a steak knife at dinner? Or do you think we are inept and mentally addled?
What you are inferring with your statement here is a gross lack of self awareness and self preservation. If you think this so, these same people should not be working out for they are too impaired (for some reason) to listen to their own bodies and know when to rest or when they have torn a muscle or sprained an ankle.
I encourage you to ask me questions about my submission. I find that is how people learn. I think you are very misinformed. Ask me anything. I am open. Feel free to PM me.
BDSM activities are ALWAYS Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Abuse is NEVER safe, NEVER sane, and NEVER consensual.
BDSM follows established rules. Abuse has no rules.
BDSM is negotiated for the safety of both partners. Abuse is NEVER negotiated.
BDSM activities are used for mutual pleasure. Abuse is used to terrorize, frighten and control.
In BDSM, safewords can be used to stop any activity. If someone is being abused they cannot stop what is happening to them.
BDSM activities are about pleasure and being connected. Abuse is about power and control.