Call Me Stephanie
Blood: No, you never have the right to control someone. That's not a healthy relationship. I didn't say he was faithful, I said you gave no inclination that he wasn't. I can only give advice based on information you originally gave. Do you know for certain he's been unfaithful to you in the past? You didn't say he did. If he's lying and hiding things then you need to sit and talk to him. See why he's acting like that. You can't just got through his stuff, that's an invasion of his privacy. It sounds like the two of you need some counseling. If he doesn't want to save your relationship as well, you can't force him. You both need to be on board.
Like I said, Im not trying to control him. No, I never said he had been unfaithful in the past. And granted, he shouldnt have to pay for an exs mistakes, and Im not trying to make him, but Ill give you a scenario from my previous relationship.
The guy I was dating before dating my current boyfriend was cheating me. I was suspicious with the way he was acting, if I asked to borrow his phone to text my mom (if my phone was dead, which sometimes it was), he would act all weird and go through his phone before finally giving it to me. Or he would text her himself. One day, he was sleeping, and he got a phone call. I let it go to voicemail, but then they started texting, so I answered so it didnt wake him up. Come to find out from her that it was his girlfriend. His other girlfriend. For months, I was worried about it, freaking out over it, talking about it and being lied to. And then finally found out he had been cheating nearly the whole time we had been together.
Point Im trying to make is, I know the signs. And between pictures, him acting as odd as he was about her, and knowing that they are close, it bothered me.
And as far as saving the relationship, I see it as this way. If you have to cheat, then why even be in the relationship in the first place? If you stay with them, and still cheat, then there is obviously a reason that you dont want to end the relationship that youre in. Whatever that reason may be, I dont know. But if he were to be cheating on me, and then still stay with me, there is obviously a reason he doesnt want to break it off. Be it because Im pregnant with his child, because he has no where else to live, I dont know. But either way, it doesnt really matter to me. All I want is honesty from him.
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