Kaneira the Great
So I'm new to this thread but I am due to have my first child July 22nd by c-section due to this being such a complicated pregnancy. I am excited as hell to finally get to hold my baby but I'm still concerned about a number of things.
1 - I'm known to get so nervous over just normal surgery that a begin puking the day before or the morning of. I'm afraid because they tell me I will be awake for the c-section. My mother had four so I know there will be a tarp and I won't feel the pain but I will feel the pressure of them moving my organs around. I'm afraid I'll have a panic attack or something considering they have your hands restrained. My doctors said if it's really that bad they can gas me but I feel like that would be bad for my baby.
2 - I won't get to have the skin to skin contact immediately after birth which I've been told is crucial for the baby's development.
1. The cool thing about Cesareans is that you have a
whole team of people in the room. Not just the doctor and the nurses assisting him, but also a nurse near your head, and the anesthesiologist, who's entire job is to make sure you're good and comfy. That means that if you start to barf mid-Cesarean (very
very common, and not dangerous or anything), he (or she!) will pump you full of anti-nauseants. Panicking? He's got meds for that too! Maybe you could ask your doctor for some anti-anxiety meds during the Cesarean just to take the edge off? Planned Cesareans have a whole different feel to 'surprise' or 'emergency' ones! A ton calmer, that's for sure.
My Cesarean was my very first surgery ever. And I was freaking out
bad. Hubby and I asked the nurse to please not narrate what was happening (I guess they will if you want them to!), and Hubby and I sat and chatted about super random things (I think talking about where we'd take a vacation to, and why) and before we knew it, we heard a baby crying! I didn't even know they'd started the surgery! My Cesarean was 22 minutes from first cut to completely done. Super fast.
2. It's not essential. It's not even crucial. It's
nice, and helps with bonding. But at the very end of the day, it's not going to make or break your relationship with baby, and isn't going to cause baby any serious harm to not have it immediately. If you're seriously worried and if baby's dad is still around - you can ask the hospital if Dad can do skin to skin care to begin with! It doesn't need to be mom's skin, just someone's, to get the benefits. But really, it's not going to cause any serious harm to not get it. Promise.