Darth Kosher
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- Posted: Tue, 19 Aug 2014 03:48:41 +0000
I've met this AMAZING man. As of recent, we've dabbled with the idea of marriage.
Why are we still dabbling?
We don't know where to move. I have a stable career here, which is making me decent money to support myself. He lives in another city (about two hours away) where he supports himself. He has a house, I have an apartment. My suggestion was to get our own place - he c ould rent out his house, and I could move out at the end of my lease of my apartment.
However -- the difficult "argument' is where we're going to stay? We both don't want to give up our careers, and we both don't want to commute an hour away from work (if we were to meet in the middle).
I don't really know how to work around this argument. Any kind of suggestions or personal stories would be great. We're both very traditional and with those traditional values "the girl moves where-ever the guy has work", but in the same breath, I don't want to be that girl that makes himi do all of the work while I establish myself. I don't enjoy that idea.
I just don't know what to do or how people can even do this. To convince to leave our families...
His next option, which he has an AMAZING job offer, in Georgia... he'd be willing to work and easily could support EVERYTHING. I wouldn't allow that, and it'd be a dramatic change, but it'd be a nice, clean start for both of us. I just don't know.
Why are we still dabbling?
We don't know where to move. I have a stable career here, which is making me decent money to support myself. He lives in another city (about two hours away) where he supports himself. He has a house, I have an apartment. My suggestion was to get our own place - he c ould rent out his house, and I could move out at the end of my lease of my apartment.
However -- the difficult "argument' is where we're going to stay? We both don't want to give up our careers, and we both don't want to commute an hour away from work (if we were to meet in the middle).
I don't really know how to work around this argument. Any kind of suggestions or personal stories would be great. We're both very traditional and with those traditional values "the girl moves where-ever the guy has work", but in the same breath, I don't want to be that girl that makes himi do all of the work while I establish myself. I don't enjoy that idea.
I just don't know what to do or how people can even do this. To convince to leave our families...
His next option, which he has an AMAZING job offer, in Georgia... he'd be willing to work and easily could support EVERYTHING. I wouldn't allow that, and it'd be a dramatic change, but it'd be a nice, clean start for both of us. I just don't know.