Long Distance Relationsips (LDR) Support Thread

[KaitouKitten]

I haven't been on Gaia in years, but having recently started a LDR, I was reminded of this thread so many years ago. I remember reading the arguments from people who believed LDRs never work, only for others to step in and explain how they can work, backing it up with success stories. Back then, I was always conflicted on the matter and was never actually sure if I could be in one.

My current SO and I have known each other (as friends) for 8 years. We met through an MMO and added each other on Facebook and chatted on and off throughout the years despite dropping the game. In the past couple of years, we started talking more and more frequently - pretty much daily. And after all the Skype calls and messages, I got to the point I couldn't stop thinking about him and I confessed to him this year at the end of February. He said yes!

We've only been an exclusive couple for two months, but currently he has plans to come and see me later this year. My goal is to save up and see him next year. The distance between us is very challenging. We live extremely far away from one another - I'm on the east coast of the USA and he's in Australia - 10,000+ miles away and making it a 24+ hour flight between us! Neither of us have been out of the country before so we're both kind of intimidated but we're looking forward to meeting each other in person, along with our friends and families. Personally, I'm also thrilled by achieving my goal of traveling, even though I don't think he's as thrilled by that. xp

Our communication is very good. We talk via Skype almost everyday and if we're not Skyping, we're Facebook messaging one another and leaving sweet little voice messages. We're hammering out the details and conflict on a few topics, but when you have no physical intimacy, I think you tend to make it up in emotional intimacy from talking about anything and everything under the sun. It's refreshing as well as somewhat intimidating. It's hard to think about so many things I'm uncertain of in the future when I just want to focus on seeing him in person first!

Besides talking and messaging, we play a lot of games together - Mario Kart and 100% Orange Juice come to mind, for example - and we also watch a lot of YouTube videos together. We share a lot of similar interests, so it's a lot of fun for us when we do get to talk. I still get butterflies when he calls me or tells me he loves me. It's quite nice.

I am a realist, though: This is our honeymoon phase, so we're super lovey-dovey, but I really hope things continue to go well. I hope our meeting plans go through and we come to terms with some things if we want to be super serious with one another coming down the line. Right now it seems a little intimidating and I don't have to really make major choices just yet - i.e. getting married, deciding what country to live in, if I want to have kids or not. However, I understand that these things and choices take time. I'm learning about things that you would think after 8 years of friendship I'd know about him, but nope! It's still an amazing experience.

I just wanted to give my shoutout and love to the people in this thread giving advice and sharing their experiences, plus keeping it alive after all these years. I signed into Gaia for the first time in several years today and this was one of the threads I wanted to find and give a piece of my mind.

So it just goes to show you: Even if you think an LDR may never be in your future, there's a chance that love can have a way of proving you wrong! I sure learned my lesson, but I'm a happier person for it. I'm very happy with my guy and I'm hoping for that to continue for a long time as we go on. heart

[IraMorti]

I am fairly recently out of an LDR where due to various factors, but mainly due to my ex not being capable of the patience required in order to make it work it, it fell apart with her breaking it off. It in general was a wonderful journey but not one I'd do again, at least any time soon (At least an international LDR, which was what mine was). In my case in particular there was too many personal issues that became apparent after the relationship that came from both sides that would have caused the downfall of the relationship even if she had been able to wait.

Some advice for those starting a LDR, whether it's within your own country or international. Patience is key, especially for couples who aren't financially set to do this. You must be willing to wait and forego the physical connection for long periods of time, and the time can be painful but if you truly love the person you have to be able to bear it, as it will be worth it in the end. You must also be willing to be flexible with your personal boundaries and be able to compromise on almost anything or at least agree to disagree and move on. Communication and trust are also incredibly important and if you don't maintain either one or both parties will become stressed.

Of course these are qualities important to any relationship, but I feel with Long distance relationships and especially those that are international (due to time and financial requirements of immigration) these factors are magnified to an insane degree. Never lose sight of these if you want your relationship to last. I wish you all luck in your LDRs. smile

[Erihar_Dragonclaw]

Paradoxical Soul

I am fairly recently out of an LDR where due to various factors, but mainly due to my ex not being capable of the patience required in order to make it work it, it fell apart with her breaking it off. It in general was a wonderful journey but not one I'd do again, at least any time soon (At least an international LDR, which was what mine was). In my case in particular there was too many personal issues that became apparent after the relationship that came from both sides that would have caused the downfall of the relationship even if she had been able to wait.

Some advice for those starting a LDR, whether it's within your own country or international. Patience is key, especially for couples who aren't financially set to do this. You must be willing to wait and forego the physical connection for long periods of time, and the time can be painful but if you truly love the person you have to be able to bear it, as it will be worth it in the end. You must also be willing to be flexible with your personal boundaries and be able to compromise on almost anything or at least agree to disagree and move on. Communication and trust are also incredibly important and if you don't maintain either one or both parties will become stressed.

Of course these are qualities important to any relationship, but I feel with Long distance relationships and especially those that are international (due to time and financial requirements of immigration) these factors are magnified to an insane degree. Never lose sight of these if you want your relationship to last. I wish you all luck in your LDRs. smile

international relationships are indeed very difficult. You basically summer it up perfectly, but with the qualities you just spoke of they most definitely can work, and my relationship is proof wink I'm now married and pregnant with our first child and my relationship started out with him in Denmark and me in the USA, we have been married for two years now, and it was a very long road to get there, and our road isn't at an end yet, we are still working on his immigration papers for permanent residency.

[IraMorti]

Erihar_Dragonclaw

Paradoxical Soul

I am fairly recently out of an LDR where due to various factors, but mainly due to my ex not being capable of the patience required in order to make it work it, it fell apart with her breaking it off. It in general was a wonderful journey but not one I'd do again, at least any time soon (At least an international LDR, which was what mine was). In my case in particular there was too many personal issues that became apparent after the relationship that came from both sides that would have caused the downfall of the relationship even if she had been able to wait.

Some advice for those starting a LDR, whether it's within your own country or international. Patience is key, especially for couples who aren't financially set to do this. You must be willing to wait and forego the physical connection for long periods of time, and the time can be painful but if you truly love the person you have to be able to bear it, as it will be worth it in the end. You must also be willing to be flexible with your personal boundaries and be able to compromise on almost anything or at least agree to disagree and move on. Communication and trust are also incredibly important and if you don't maintain either one or both parties will become stressed.

Of course these are qualities important to any relationship, but I feel with Long distance relationships and especially those that are international (due to time and financial requirements of immigration) these factors are magnified to an insane degree. Never lose sight of these if you want your relationship to last. I wish you all luck in your LDRs. smile

international relationships are indeed very difficult. You basically summer it up perfectly, but with the qualities you just spoke of they most definitely can work, and my relationship is proof wink I'm now married and pregnant with our first child and my relationship started out with him in Denmark and me in the USA, we have been married for two years now, and it was a very long road to get there, and our road isn't at an end yet, we are still working on his immigration papers for permanent residency.

Happy for you! Hope his immigration goes smoothly. It's good some people can make it work. I don't know if I could ever do international again though, myself. I don't feel it's worth the hassle.

[Erihar_Dragonclaw]

Paradoxical Soul

Erihar_Dragonclaw

Paradoxical Soul

I am fairly recently out of an LDR where due to various factors, but mainly due to my ex not being capable of the patience required in order to make it work it, it fell apart with her breaking it off. It in general was a wonderful journey but not one I'd do again, at least any time soon (At least an international LDR, which was what mine was). In my case in particular there was too many personal issues that became apparent after the relationship that came from both sides that would have caused the downfall of the relationship even if she had been able to wait.

Some advice for those starting a LDR, whether it's within your own country or international. Patience is key, especially for couples who aren't financially set to do this. You must be willing to wait and forego the physical connection for long periods of time, and the time can be painful but if you truly love the person you have to be able to bear it, as it will be worth it in the end. You must also be willing to be flexible with your personal boundaries and be able to compromise on almost anything or at least agree to disagree and move on. Communication and trust are also incredibly important and if you don't maintain either one or both parties will become stressed.

Of course these are qualities important to any relationship, but I feel with Long distance relationships and especially those that are international (due to time and financial requirements of immigration) these factors are magnified to an insane degree. Never lose sight of these if you want your relationship to last. I wish you all luck in your LDRs. smile

international relationships are indeed very difficult. You basically summer it up perfectly, but with the qualities you just spoke of they most definitely can work, and my relationship is proof wink I'm now married and pregnant with our first child and my relationship started out with him in Denmark and me in the USA, we have been married for two years now, and it was a very long road to get there, and our road isn't at an end yet, we are still working on his immigration papers for permanent residency.

Happy for you! Hope his immigration goes smoothly. It's good some people can make it work. I don't know if I could ever do international again though, myself. I don't feel it's worth the hassle.

not a single bit of it has been easy lol, every moment has been a hassle, but it's all been worth it for the man I love smile

It's a long difficult road for anyone, and I totally understand people not thinking it's worth it, for me if things hadn't worked out, I likely never would have tried it again either a

[HowlWhiteWind]

Never in my life did I think a goodbye would be the single most painful thing. I got home late Saturday from seeing my (NOW BOYFRIEND heart heart ) and I haven't been sleeping correctly. I miss him too much. I have no idea how to handle or express seperation in this mannor. (mostly because the seperation I have dealt with in the past was always negative with a negative ending) We spend the weekend holding hands, hugging, cuddling, snuggling and kissing. We talked and shared a milk shake together and we build a bear, which we adopted together. He's amazing and I miss him so much. We even decided to make it official and become a couple.

[Erihar_Dragonclaw]

HowlWhiteWind

Never in my life did I think a goodbye would be the single most painful thing. I got home late Saturday from seeing my (NOW BOYFRIEND heart heart ) and I haven't been sleeping correctly. I miss him too much. I have no idea how to handle or express seperation in this mannor. (mostly because the seperation I have dealt with in the past was always negative with a negative ending) We spend the weekend holding hands, hugging, cuddling, snuggling and kissing. We talked and shared a milk shake together and we build a bear, which we adopted together. He's amazing and I miss him so much. We even decided to make it official and become a couple.

the goodbye is always the hardest part, but it makes the next hello even more special. Just hold that in your heart that you'll have another hello smile

[Mystique Ranchan]

HowlWhiteWind

Never in my life did I think a goodbye would be the single most painful thing. I got home late Saturday from seeing my (NOW BOYFRIEND heart heart ) and I haven't been sleeping correctly. I miss him too much. I have no idea how to handle or express seperation in this mannor. (mostly because the seperation I have dealt with in the past was always negative with a negative ending) We spend the weekend holding hands, hugging, cuddling, snuggling and kissing. We talked and shared a milk shake together and we build a bear, which we adopted together. He's amazing and I miss him so much. We even decided to make it official and become a couple.

Goodbyes are the hardest. It was tough in the first year of my relationship with my boyfriend (Though we were a 3 hour drive away, it was still hard as travelling was difficult for me). But we've been together for almost 5 years and a half and we're still going strong and still LD. We see each other once a month. The visits were more frequent when we were in university. Now that we work full time, it's usually once or twice a month. Though good news is that he might be moving to my area due to a location transfer at work. So hang in there and stay strong smile

[Fearless Demon child]

I know that i don't post here very often, though i do check in on it pretty normally.

I'm super exited right now. Even though my boyfriend and I have been together for 2+ years i get to see him today! He's flying in to spend a week and a half here for his birthday and to go to an anime convention. It's not like it's the first time we've met, but everytime even after 2 years it feels like it' been ages.

Anyone else have that feeling when they get to see their LDR partner again after a time? For me it happens both when he comes to see me and I go to see him.

[I Think I Tried]

I can't wait to see my LDR partner, he left for the country to go back to his and study there- I'm soon to be a college student and he's gone back home( Serbia) to study there, so I'm just praying for the best to happen to us. He'll be coming back later on this year whilst I probably will not go to Serbia for a while because I am still pretty much my parents' kid and I still live with them, plus I have no job yet- I'm fresh out of high school. xd
Anyway I'm hoping for the best for us but when I think about the distance it hurts way too much- I tend to cry a lot about it.
But I trust him very much, I have no doubts about my partner and that's one thing that makes me feel at ease.

[Belethine]

I need some advice here :c
Well here's some background info:

I'm in a LDR for almost a year so we're well past the honeymoon stage. We met on an MMO where he was constantly bugging me and there where I am at ingame and even off he would msg me and tried to Skype call me. So I gave it a chance and it started off really well, we have some bumps here and there. Fast forward to a couple of weeks of the nearby present where I wanted to start working and have my own income since I'm still studying for my degree I don't want to be dependent on my parents. So he decided to do that too and we both landed jobs but because of work he would msg me less and less and calls go maybe once to twice a week when it used to be everyday. Of course that change kind of hit me in a bad way like I'm trying to make time for him still leaving sweet good night/morning messages, we're only 3hrs apart in time difference. When I confronted him about it he would say that he's tired from work but somehow he has time to chat with other people before bed. Which was what I don't understand. When we been on call for like first time in 2 weeks he would just stay quiet when I'm talking or watch videos on his phone while still in call with me. I feel very neglected by his behavior from drastic change of being always there and comforting to now of just not very caring. I try to be more understanding that he just wanted space and doesn't want to be bothered after work, he has school also. I'm not constantly checking my phone every now and then anymore to see if he replied back I just try to keep myself busy so I wouldn't have time to check if that makes sense lmao.
We used to play games together a lot too but not anymore he would let me know that he sees me on when we're playing League with a "." or "<_<" not exactly a how's your day type of response I know. A lot of things we used to do we don't and sometimes I don't even feel like I have a boyfriend. That makes it seem like I should break things off but we promised to work things out, we talked about the future and moving to each other when we gotten our degrees and become economically stable. We do have good calls once in awhile and that reassures me, makes me stick to him even if he can be an inconsiderate jerk. =-=
It's like a cat and mouse game I feel like we're drifting apart but he keeps pulling me back.

Anyways problem is that

he works at a restaurant (not really the main problem) so apparently 3days ago there was a birthday party. What he told me was that it's his's boss's son's friend's daughters' birthday. <-<
Well anyways, he said that the two girls were checking him out when they came in and giggling whenever they stared at him looking him up and down. That's what he said was how he knew they were checking him out. So he went over to his friends working at the sushi bar saying they were checking him out. And his friends were telling him to go hit that and ditch them. And he was saying that's wrong because they're 15, he's 18. So his friends kept saying dirty stuff about them for over 30mins.

What hurts was that he could've told them that he had a girlfriend? So they wouldn't be telling him all that stuff to go bang them. I'm not sure if guys still say those stuff to each other while in a relationship whenever they see some girl checking them out. ._.

Continuing on so the parents of the girls (boss's son's friend's daughters) were asking him to go take pictures with the girls. He went with it (not sure why e-e) so they were all taking pictures with his arms around them and selfies with him. And said how the parents were pushing him to dating the girls constantly during that time they were there. Even at work the next day the dad asked him if he wanted to go fishing with him, and he can bring the girls too.

I just don't understand why he didn't declined....or say no because it's a family event something polite like that maybe even mentioning he's in a relationship would've dropped all that commotion.

So when I confronted him about it he got really angry saying it was just pictures, everyone does that in a restaurant and they were 15 so it shouldn't matter but he's 18. I'm just astounded because does that make it ok for me to do that with random guys that thinks I'm attractive? That age gap isn't that large I would've understood if it were 10 year olds. Even if it's in a workplace. I would've said it's against working policy to be soliciting with customers or mention that my boyfriend wouldn't like it. Then he was telling me to stop starting sh** over nothing and to stop making a big deal over it. He said it wasn't like he asked for their numbers or anything and that's the reason why he doesn't tell me anything. That really hurt I didn't think there was more incidents like this that occurred. We used to tell each other everything. He was also saying how it was the parents asking him to take pictures with him not the girls (what about those selfies with each of them?) and that he barely said 3 words to them during the whole time they were there. So one of the girls left her card on the table so he went and give it to them but that just started taking more pictures again... and during the whole time he was telling me the story he was laughing about it saying it was awkward that whole incidence. Apparently he bragged about it to everyone and told them what happened, he told me the day after because he forgot to tell me.

All I wanted to know was why he didn't just say those things I wasn't even mad or jealous just wanted to know the reason how did he think his actions was alright with me. Like was I even considered when he just went with it. I'm not sure if it's because he doesn't want people to know the fact he's taken or is just living it up like he's single. And yet he was the one that was chasing me, he tried very hard to get me but by his actions I don't know what to say. He was telling me to "stop breathing down my f***ing neck over it" his words sorry for vulgar language. And telling me to stop making a big deal over nothing because I'm insecure and always start crap over nothing.
I asked a friend of mine who's also in a LDR she said I wasn't overreacting and asked me if any of his friends/family even know I existed. Tbh I don't know but my friends and family do... though.
I don't think we'll be talking anytime soon whenever I say something he doesn't like he gets mad and rages on me. :l

What do you think I should do? Was I overreacting and shouldn't even ask those questions? Was I wrong on my part? Should I apologize for making a fuss over this?
Maybe the faults with me because I just don't know what I can or cannot do in a relationship. Not really sure how to continue on with this relationship.
I just don't know anymore. :/

[DizzySnowFire]

Belethine

I need some advice here :c
Well here's some background info:

I'm in a LDR for almost a year so we're well past the honeymoon stage. We met on an MMO where he was constantly bugging me and there where I am at ingame and even off he would msg me and tried to Skype call me. So I gave it a chance and it started off really well, we have some bumps here and there. Fast forward to a couple of weeks of the nearby present where I wanted to start working and have my own income since I'm still studying for my degree I don't want to be dependent on my parents. So he decided to do that too and we both landed jobs but because of work he would msg me less and less and calls go maybe once to twice a week when it used to be everyday. Of course that change kind of hit me in a bad way like I'm trying to make time for him still leaving sweet good night/morning messages, we're only 3hrs apart in time difference. When I confronted him about it he would say that he's tired from work but somehow he has time to chat with other people before bed. Which was what I don't understand. When we been on call for like first time in 2 weeks he would just stay quiet when I'm talking or watch videos on his phone while still in call with me. I feel very neglected by his behavior from drastic change of being always there and comforting to now of just not very caring. I try to be more understanding that he just wanted space and doesn't want to be bothered after work, he has school also. I'm not constantly checking my phone every now and then anymore to see if he replied back I just try to keep myself busy so I wouldn't have time to check if that makes sense lmao.
We used to play games together a lot too but not anymore he would let me know that he sees me on when we're playing League with a "." or "<_<" not exactly a how's your day type of response I know. A lot of things we used to do we don't and sometimes I don't even feel like I have a boyfriend. That makes it seem like I should break things off but we promised to work things out, we talked about the future and moving to each other when we gotten our degrees and become economically stable. We do have good calls once in awhile and that reassures me, makes me stick to him even if he can be an inconsiderate jerk. =-=
It's like a cat and mouse game I feel like we're drifting apart but he keeps pulling me back.

Anyways problem is that

he works at a restaurant (not really the main problem) so apparently 3days ago there was a birthday party. What he told me was that it's his's boss's son's friend's daughters' birthday. <-<
Well anyways, he said that the two girls were checking him out when they came in and giggling whenever they stared at him looking him up and down. That's what he said was how he knew they were checking him out. So he went over to his friends working at the sushi bar saying they were checking him out. And his friends were telling him to go hit that and ditch them. And he was saying that's wrong because they're 15, he's 18. So his friends kept saying dirty stuff about them for over 30mins.

What hurts was that he could've told them that he had a girlfriend? So they wouldn't be telling him all that stuff to go bang them. I'm not sure if guys still say those stuff to each other while in a relationship whenever they see some girl checking them out. ._.

Continuing on so the parents of the girls (boss's son's friend's daughters) were asking him to go take pictures with the girls. He went with it (not sure why e-e) so they were all taking pictures with his arms around them and selfies with him. And said how the parents were pushing him to dating the girls constantly during that time they were there. Even at work the next day the dad asked him if he wanted to go fishing with him, and he can bring the girls too.

I just don't understand why he didn't declined....or say no because it's a family event something polite like that maybe even mentioning he's in a relationship would've dropped all that commotion.

So when I confronted him about it he got really angry saying it was just pictures, everyone does that in a restaurant and they were 15 so it shouldn't matter but he's 18. I'm just astounded because does that make it ok for me to do that with random guys that thinks I'm attractive? That age gap isn't that large I would've understood if it were 10 year olds. Even if it's in a workplace. I would've said it's against working policy to be soliciting with customers or mention that my boyfriend wouldn't like it. Then he was telling me to stop starting sh** over nothing and to stop making a big deal over it. He said it wasn't like he asked for their numbers or anything and that's the reason why he doesn't tell me anything. That really hurt I didn't think there was more incidents like this that occurred. We used to tell each other everything. He was also saying how it was the parents asking him to take pictures with him not the girls (what about those selfies with each of them?) and that he barely said 3 words to them during the whole time they were there. So one of the girls left her card on the table so he went and give it to them but that just started taking more pictures again... and during the whole time he was telling me the story he was laughing about it saying it was awkward that whole incidence. Apparently he bragged about it to everyone and told them what happened, he told me the day after because he forgot to tell me.

All I wanted to know was why he didn't just say those things I wasn't even mad or jealous just wanted to know the reason how did he think his actions was alright with me. Like was I even considered when he just went with it. I'm not sure if it's because he doesn't want people to know the fact he's taken or is just living it up like he's single. And yet he was the one that was chasing me, he tried very hard to get me but by his actions I don't know what to say. He was telling me to "stop breathing down my f***ing neck over it" his words sorry for vulgar language. And telling me to stop making a big deal over nothing because I'm insecure and always start crap over nothing.
I asked a friend of mine who's also in a LDR she said I wasn't overreacting and asked me if any of his friends/family even know I existed. Tbh I don't know but my friends and family do... though.
I don't think we'll be talking anytime soon whenever I say something he doesn't like he gets mad and rages on me. :l

What do you think I should do? Was I overreacting and shouldn't even ask those questions? Was I wrong on my part? Should I apologize for making a fuss over this?
Maybe the faults with me because I just don't know what I can or cannot do in a relationship. Not really sure how to continue on with this relationship.
I just don't know anymore. :/

You aren't overreacting
My boyfriend/fiancé works at a bar and he has told me that women hit on him and whatnot but he always shuts them down saying that he is taken or that he is engaged or something like that so well that they know he isn't available. It's very weird that he was so accusing of you....saying you were insecure and whatnot where I don't see that. Has he been stressed lately?

[NiennaSayyadina]

I was once in a LDR, that I should have done better by. I talked to him every single day for 6 months and then nada. I think the relationship has the power you both put into it. I put some, but now all and I regret that. I should have tried harder. LDRs can be as great as you make them.

[Belethine]

DizzySnowFire

Belethine

I need some advice here :c
Well here's some background info:

I'm in a LDR for almost a year so we're well past the honeymoon stage. We met on an MMO where he was constantly bugging me and there where I am at ingame and even off he would msg me and tried to Skype call me. So I gave it a chance and it started off really well, we have some bumps here and there. Fast forward to a couple of weeks of the nearby present where I wanted to start working and have my own income since I'm still studying for my degree I don't want to be dependent on my parents. So he decided to do that too and we both landed jobs but because of work he would msg me less and less and calls go maybe once to twice a week when it used to be everyday. Of course that change kind of hit me in a bad way like I'm trying to make time for him still leaving sweet good night/morning messages, we're only 3hrs apart in time difference. When I confronted him about it he would say that he's tired from work but somehow he has time to chat with other people before bed. Which was what I don't understand. When we been on call for like first time in 2 weeks he would just stay quiet when I'm talking or watch videos on his phone while still in call with me. I feel very neglected by his behavior from drastic change of being always there and comforting to now of just not very caring. I try to be more understanding that he just wanted space and doesn't want to be bothered after work, he has school also. I'm not constantly checking my phone every now and then anymore to see if he replied back I just try to keep myself busy so I wouldn't have time to check if that makes sense lmao.
We used to play games together a lot too but not anymore he would let me know that he sees me on when we're playing League with a "." or "<_<" not exactly a how's your day type of response I know. A lot of things we used to do we don't and sometimes I don't even feel like I have a boyfriend. That makes it seem like I should break things off but we promised to work things out, we talked about the future and moving to each other when we gotten our degrees and become economically stable. We do have good calls once in awhile and that reassures me, makes me stick to him even if he can be an inconsiderate jerk. =-=
It's like a cat and mouse game I feel like we're drifting apart but he keeps pulling me back.

Anyways problem is that

he works at a restaurant (not really the main problem) so apparently 3days ago there was a birthday party. What he told me was that it's his's boss's son's friend's daughters' birthday. <-<
Well anyways, he said that the two girls were checking him out when they came in and giggling whenever they stared at him looking him up and down. That's what he said was how he knew they were checking him out. So he went over to his friends working at the sushi bar saying they were checking him out. And his friends were telling him to go hit that and ditch them. And he was saying that's wrong because they're 15, he's 18. So his friends kept saying dirty stuff about them for over 30mins.

What hurts was that he could've told them that he had a girlfriend? So they wouldn't be telling him all that stuff to go bang them. I'm not sure if guys still say those stuff to each other while in a relationship whenever they see some girl checking them out. ._.

Continuing on so the parents of the girls (boss's son's friend's daughters) were asking him to go take pictures with the girls. He went with it (not sure why e-e) so they were all taking pictures with his arms around them and selfies with him. And said how the parents were pushing him to dating the girls constantly during that time they were there. Even at work the next day the dad asked him if he wanted to go fishing with him, and he can bring the girls too.

I just don't understand why he didn't declined....or say no because it's a family event something polite like that maybe even mentioning he's in a relationship would've dropped all that commotion.

So when I confronted him about it he got really angry saying it was just pictures, everyone does that in a restaurant and they were 15 so it shouldn't matter but he's 18. I'm just astounded because does that make it ok for me to do that with random guys that thinks I'm attractive? That age gap isn't that large I would've understood if it were 10 year olds. Even if it's in a workplace. I would've said it's against working policy to be soliciting with customers or mention that my boyfriend wouldn't like it. Then he was telling me to stop starting sh** over nothing and to stop making a big deal over it. He said it wasn't like he asked for their numbers or anything and that's the reason why he doesn't tell me anything. That really hurt I didn't think there was more incidents like this that occurred. We used to tell each other everything. He was also saying how it was the parents asking him to take pictures with him not the girls (what about those selfies with each of them?) and that he barely said 3 words to them during the whole time they were there. So one of the girls left her card on the table so he went and give it to them but that just started taking more pictures again... and during the whole time he was telling me the story he was laughing about it saying it was awkward that whole incidence. Apparently he bragged about it to everyone and told them what happened, he told me the day after because he forgot to tell me.

All I wanted to know was why he didn't just say those things I wasn't even mad or jealous just wanted to know the reason how did he think his actions was alright with me. Like was I even considered when he just went with it. I'm not sure if it's because he doesn't want people to know the fact he's taken or is just living it up like he's single. And yet he was the one that was chasing me, he tried very hard to get me but by his actions I don't know what to say. He was telling me to "stop breathing down my f***ing neck over it" his words sorry for vulgar language. And telling me to stop making a big deal over nothing because I'm insecure and always start crap over nothing.
I asked a friend of mine who's also in a LDR she said I wasn't overreacting and asked me if any of his friends/family even know I existed. Tbh I don't know but my friends and family do... though.
I don't think we'll be talking anytime soon whenever I say something he doesn't like he gets mad and rages on me. :l

What do you think I should do? Was I overreacting and shouldn't even ask those questions? Was I wrong on my part? Should I apologize for making a fuss over this?
Maybe the faults with me because I just don't know what I can or cannot do in a relationship. Not really sure how to continue on with this relationship.
I just don't know anymore. :/

You aren't overreacting
My boyfriend/fiancé works at a bar and he has told me that women hit on him and whatnot but he always shuts them down saying that he is taken or that he is engaged or something like that so well that they know he isn't available. It's very weird that he was so accusing of you....saying you were insecure and whatnot where I don't see that. Has he been stressed lately?

That's what I would've wanted him to do... guess that was asking him too much to do? No apparently not which is the weird part, my friends are saying he's hiding something because of how worked up he got