Desideraht
I have a question for the thread, even though this thread is seriously dead.
I am all for breathing life into this thread.
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What if I want to cut? I feel sort of addicted. I kind of like it. And I don't know if that means I'm like other cutters or not. Usually cutters are like, "omg this is so horrible I can't stop!" and with me, it's more like, "I kind of like this, but I don't want people to see it at work". And I din;t want to cut on my thighs or whatever. I like the notches in my arms and I'm trying to think of a good way to hide it 'cos I can't wear long sleeves at work...
I have been in and out of the self harm support community since I was in middle school, and I have ran into numerous people who saw no problem in the fact that they were self harming, or/and they had no intention of stopping any time soon. You may not be like the self harmers who view their actions as harmful, bad, horrible, etc. but you are not alone in the thoughts of not wanting to stop, and liking it.
I also think people should stop when they are ready as well.
If you wish to continue, that is a choice, although it is usually a choice that is clouded by mental health issues, stress, etc. I am not even sure that the word "choice" is a good word to use, but I am failing to find another word that suits my needs (at the moment). Perhaps another person can help me out here.
What exactly is your line of work? I ask this because covering it up would be important if you work around food or dangerous chemicals.
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I don't think I'll do it a lot, but after I cut with a razor yesterday, it's just kind of like... wow, I kinda liked that. I'm not sure what to think about that. I just get this weird little excitement thinking about doing it again, just for no reason. Not due to sadness, stress or being upset. I just want to see more cuts on my arm, left over sore scabs.
Are you self harming in response to unwelcome emotions, which is not always sadness, stress, or being upset, or in response to a situation that you do not want to be apart of for whatever reason? Have you noticed any pattern to the self harm urges that have made you think, even just briefly, "Do I cut myself because of this?"
It is not uncommon for self harmers to not know why they self harm. Sometimes people know why they self harm sometimes, and other times they have no clue.
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I'm definitely not trying to mock anyone here, and my issue is probably very different than most. I know a lot of people want to stop... and I encourage you to. I think it sucks to cut because you're in pain, and most o the time, that IS why I cut. But recently... it's got this new, weird twist on it. Some people are telling me it's turned into masochism and that I've got a blood fetish. I think I might, which is probably not a great thing to combine with cutting.
Ah, so you have self harmed because you are in pain. Which means that in some cases you do know, or at least have an idea.
Are you getting any physical or sexual pleasure out of cutting yourself? There are people who do harm themselves on purpose, not because they are using it as a coping mechanism, but because they enjoy it.
I can see why this is worrying.
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Can a person who self-harms from depression grow to "like" cutting? Is it just a way of coping with cutting, or might I genuinely like it?
Sure. I have seen it happen in the self harm support community as well as in my personal life dealing with people close to me who self harm.
The act of harming yourself, intentionally or accidently, does release endorphins. A lot of people will put themselves in extreme recreational or dangerous situations to feel that rush, while others may feel it when they break a bone.
So, could it be that maybe the endorphin rush is what you like?
People have suggested that you are getting a blood fetish, or that you simply like causing pain (to yourself). In the act, is it the blood that fascinates you, the pain, the cuts, or is it a mixture of all or some of these?
Just throwing this out there, but if I am wrong, feel free to point me in another direction or tell me to stop.
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I see a lot of emo kids do it for the "thrill" or whatever. Or for attention. But I don't even want attention from it. I'd love to hide it. It's like my own little guilty pleasure. I don't want to show it off.
And that is fine. Everyone has their own opinions, thoughts, feelings, and reasons.