Sophisticated Simplicity
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- Posted: Sat, 22 Jun 2013 01:44:31 +0000
lividity girl
Siiiigh, I need a little LDR support.
My boyfriend and I have been together since December 3rd 2010; he is from Florida, I am from South Carolina. As far as distance can be, it isn't that bad. A seventeen hour train ride. The problem is that we had an unfortunate incident the last day I saw him in person (which was last December) and our relationship has been slightly strained since. It is important for us to see each other again in order to move on from it, or at least it is to me, but that is proving harder to do than we expected.
We had hoped to spend several weeks together this summer. However, that was before I took a job that has me working eight hours a day, six days a week and he learned he would have to have a surgery that has a recovery time of a month and a half. As soon as my hours decrease for work, he'll be having the surgery.
I am feeling very poorly about everything. It's already been six months since I've seen him, and with the snag in our trust, I feel like I need to see him even sooner. It just doesn't seem possible until months from now. I would take time off from work, but I wouldn't be able to get enough vacation time to actually justify spending hundreds on train/plane tickets to see him for such a short time. He would visit me as he recovers, but, inexplicably, the surgery is on his butt. Yep.
Thank you for reading this, if anyone does. I just miss him oodles, and I can't stand this being apart for months and months. sad
My boyfriend and I have been together since December 3rd 2010; he is from Florida, I am from South Carolina. As far as distance can be, it isn't that bad. A seventeen hour train ride. The problem is that we had an unfortunate incident the last day I saw him in person (which was last December) and our relationship has been slightly strained since. It is important for us to see each other again in order to move on from it, or at least it is to me, but that is proving harder to do than we expected.
We had hoped to spend several weeks together this summer. However, that was before I took a job that has me working eight hours a day, six days a week and he learned he would have to have a surgery that has a recovery time of a month and a half. As soon as my hours decrease for work, he'll be having the surgery.
I am feeling very poorly about everything. It's already been six months since I've seen him, and with the snag in our trust, I feel like I need to see him even sooner. It just doesn't seem possible until months from now. I would take time off from work, but I wouldn't be able to get enough vacation time to actually justify spending hundreds on train/plane tickets to see him for such a short time. He would visit me as he recovers, but, inexplicably, the surgery is on his butt. Yep.
Thank you for reading this, if anyone does. I just miss him oodles, and I can't stand this being apart for months and months. sad
Personally, I think if you could beg, plead, or otherwise scrap together around a week's time, it'd be worth it to go and see your boyfriend. Sure, it'll be short and all, but considering how your relationship is right now, it'd be better to fix that right now instead of waiting and dragging the problem out even longer. Especially if it's a trust problem. A relationship is not going to work without trust, and if you think you can't repair that trust if you don't see him, which as you said could be months, I have to wonder if the problem is even going to be fixable by then.