Manther
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- Posted: Mon, 02 Jan 2012 06:50:04 +0000
Artemis Cain
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Artemis Cain
personally, I think LDRs are mad lame.
if you love someone, and you really want to be together, move heaven and earth to be with them.
otherwise, just be friends.
if you love someone, and you really want to be together, move heaven and earth to be with them.
otherwise, just be friends.
People get in long distance relationships BECAUSE they love eachother and want to be together so much. It the ultimate goal of every long distance couple to be together, but just because they aren't together yet doesn't mean they aren't trying. It's not as easy as you seem to think. People have jobs and school, and different financial situations. Also, immigration takes on average 2-3 years for those with SO's in another country. It takes TIME for it to happen, and a heck lot of effort. It is far wiser to take the time to prepare for the move to ensure that it will be a permanent one instead of rushing it without any planning and risk the possibility of having to move back when things fall through.
The girl I almost married lives halfway across the country. now. if she ever earnestly asks me to come home,
I'll be there. its simple. why make it complicated. if you're gonna work out reasons why you can't be together, you'll find em.
besides come hell or high water rushing in guns blazing, is always more exciting.
besides whose gonna have the better story,
I asked your father to come home, and he was in a different country at the time, but he walked, ran borrowed, stole, cheated, hitchhiked, flew swam, all those millions of miles to get to me.
(even if it doesn't work out, this is an hell of an experience.)
or I wanted to be with your father, and after 3-4 years of waiting his papers finally got through and thats that.
LAME. in perpsective, my grandfather lived a bout an hours drive, from my grandma, he didn't have a car, but he damnwell walked those miles in the snow sleet hail, wind and storm to court her.
and when he married her, she was pregnant, they didn't have a house.
so he did what most real men did, AND ******** BUILT HER A HOUSE.
damn you kids today, got no passion. the world used to be an adventure. now we got you guys and its all, oh hoh uhhh, welp, its out our hands. excuses excuses.
but maybe I'm just old fashioned.
This is how I see it. If I were to act out of passion, I would move straight down there with my boyfriend who lives with his parents. Because of their his parents' rules, I'd probably be sleeping on the couch my whole days there. Because of moving down there, I'd lose my job. I don't have a license, and he living in the suburbs, I'd probably not be able to get one until I get my license and a car. Therefore, I would default on my student loans. Or my boyfriend could help pay it off which I absolutely don't want to resort to. If we get annoyed with the living-with-his-parents thing, we'd get our own place living paycheck to paycheck. He'd probably not be able to afford his bills. We'd probably go back living with his parents again. (He's in the military so he can't really move to where I live.) And if it annoys me so much, I'd probably just tell him I'm moving back home till we can actually afford living on our own. So with that, I'd rather stay how we are right now until we actually can afford living on our own, and it doesn't really bother us much that we're long-distant.
