TTC and Adoption Support O5.29.2O15

What about you?

I'm trying to conceive!	15.2%	[ 96 ]
I have a baby!	7.0%	[ 44 ]
I'm TTC #2+!	3.3%	[ 21 ]
I don't want kids	22.2%	[ 140 ]
I'm pregnant!	7.8%	[ 49 ]
I'm infertile	5.1%	[ 32 ]
I'm just voting~	39.5%	[ 249 ]
Total Votes:			[ 631 ]

[Pink Peppercorn]

II a r c II

Wow, that's awesome. I don't temp yet so my chart is pretty bland. That and I don't have the VIP membership. I will probably start charting my BBT either this month or next. Once I get a good pattern going, I will definitely post/link it.

I forgot to mention earlier, you can add me to the TTC list if you want.

[PKMN Breeder Mandy]

A Redhead Angel

5, that is awful. I dont know if I could do it. I swore I wasn't going to get pregnant again after our son, but that didn't last long. Soon I was counting down the weeks until I could get pregnant again. My husband has had a really bad time. He was pretty traumatized by the whole labor. My water broke at home. It happened really fast. By the time I got to the hospital his legs were outside of the cervix. I lost a lot of blood and had to have transfusions when I got to the hospital. I labored at the hospital for 2 and half hours before they took him csection. My husband had to watch all of it. He was holding him when his heart crashed. He had to clean up the mess at home.

I have also heard other women say their husbands had a hard time with miscarriages or loss of a baby. I think it has to do with their loss of control.

Your story is awful and I am sorry. Have you done IVF? I have a friend who is on her second round. None of the embryos have taken.

Yeah, my story is awful but it doesn't even compare to yours. Miscarrying before you hear the heart beat, see the baby, it's hard. But I didn't even know if it was a boy or a girl. I never felt it kick, I didn't carry it any long period of time. Your story is heartbreaking.

I think for husbands it is a loss of control. They have literally no control of the situation at all. They feel so helpless because they can't do anything at all. They just sit there horrified and watch as they come close to losing their wives or girlfriends that they love more than anything and then watch her suffer and have nothing come out of it. Then they have to watch this life that they helped make pass. They think of all the things that could have been and what they would have looked like and how none of it will happen. It's taken away. A living little piece of them slips away. If it dies in their arms it's even harder. That's the last image he has of your son. And after all of that he had to clean up the mess? And you had to see it after all that, weak and tired, and be reminded of it? That's insane. That would kill me. I wouldn't be able to even stay in my house. The whole time he was probably thinking he could be holding his son, putting him in his crib. You guys went through all that. The labor. Everything. I couldn't even imagine. Laboring for two hours, having to get cut open and sewed back up. I can't even imagine how awful that was to go through or how you feel. You are incredibly strong to be able to function at all let alone try for another. I really hope it works out this time.

Sorry for the late reply. Ugh work has been so crazy. ): I have to work again today too. Pulling in 60 hours this week.

No I haven't done IVF. I have to see a specialist but I don't have the insurance or the money. I just saved for my STNA course and start that in Sept. I will be jobless so my money will be tight until I pass the test and find a new job. I was interested in ovarian drilling and IUF and possibly looking into a trigger shot.

Here's the thing. I have no clue why the ******** I'm not ovulating. It's frustrating to the point of throwing myself out a window. I have been on met for over a month and still no signs of a period. I have to get off of met since I was so sick Friday they almost sent me home. I didn't meet production. I got in trouble. I had to work over 2 hours to make up for it monday. I can't work there on this med. It's a factory and we get in trouble for taking too many bathroom breaks.

I don't know where to go from here. I need to find some way to get insurance before I get a new job. I don't know if my husband and I can handle not doing anything at all until October or November.

[A Redhead Angel]

PKMN Breeder Mandy

A Redhead Angel

5, that is awful. I dont know if I could do it. I swore I wasn't going to get pregnant again after our son, but that didn't last long. Soon I was counting down the weeks until I could get pregnant again. My husband has had a really bad time. He was pretty traumatized by the whole labor. My water broke at home. It happened really fast. By the time I got to the hospital his legs were outside of the cervix. I lost a lot of blood and had to have transfusions when I got to the hospital. I labored at the hospital for 2 and half hours before they took him csection. My husband had to watch all of it. He was holding him when his heart crashed. He had to clean up the mess at home.

I have also heard other women say their husbands had a hard time with miscarriages or loss of a baby. I think it has to do with their loss of control.

Your story is awful and I am sorry. Have you done IVF? I have a friend who is on her second round. None of the embryos have taken.

Yeah, my story is awful but it doesn't even compare to yours. Miscarrying before you hear the heart beat, see the baby, it's hard. But I didn't even know if it was a boy or a girl. I never felt it kick, I didn't carry it any long period of time. Your story is heartbreaking.

I think for husbands it is a loss of control. They have literally no control of the situation at all. They feel so helpless because they can't do anything at all. They just sit there horrified and watch as they come close to losing their wives or girlfriends that they love more than anything and then watch her suffer and have nothing come out of it. Then they have to watch this life that they helped make pass. They think of all the things that could have been and what they would have looked like and how none of it will happen. It's taken away. A living little piece of them slips away. If it dies in their arms it's even harder. That's the last image he has of your son. And after all of that he had to clean up the mess? And you had to see it after all that, weak and tired, and be reminded of it? That's insane. That would kill me. I wouldn't be able to even stay in my house. The whole time he was probably thinking he could be holding his son, putting him in his crib. You guys went through all that. The labor. Everything. I couldn't even imagine. Laboring for two hours, having to get cut open and sewed back up. I can't even imagine how awful that was to go through or how you feel. You are incredibly strong to be able to function at all let alone try for another. I really hope it works out this time.

Sorry for the late reply. Ugh work has been so crazy. ): I have to work again today too. Pulling in 60 hours this week.

No I haven't done IVF. I have to see a specialist but I don't have the insurance or the money. I just saved for my STNA course and start that in Sept. I will be jobless so my money will be tight until I pass the test and find a new job. I was interested in ovarian drilling and IUF and possibly looking into a trigger shot.

Here's the thing. I have no clue why the ******** I'm not ovulating. It's frustrating to the point of throwing myself out a window. I have been on met for over a month and still no signs of a period. I have to get off of met since I was so sick Friday they almost sent me home. I didn't meet production. I got in trouble. I had to work over 2 hours to make up for it monday. I can't work there on this med. It's a factory and we get in trouble for taking too many bathroom breaks.

I don't know where to go from here. I need to find some way to get insurance before I get a new job. I don't know if my husband and I can handle not doing anything at all until October or November.

Thank you. It is awful and really is hard to function. We were both diagnosed with PTSD. We go to therapy.

The Drs haven't figured out why you do't ovulate? Has it always been like this, even as a teen? That is beyond frustrating. You need to find a more understanding work place. I know it is easier said than done.

[PKMN Breeder Mandy]

A Redhead Angel

Thank you. It is awful and really is hard to function. We were both diagnosed with PTSD. We go to therapy.

The Drs haven't figured out why you do't ovulate? Has it always been like this, even as a teen? That is beyond frustrating. You need to find a more understanding work place. I know it is easier said than done.

No doubt. Today I totally got rammed into my machine by a forklift being careless and bumping into my basket of parts that weigh a ton. I would not work there while pregnant.

No the doctors haven't figured it out. One reason why I'm frustrated with my current doc. I don't have insurance so I've paid out of pocket for everything. I spent over 100 dollars for an ultrasound after a negative blood test on my first round of clomid. He said I wasn't pregnant based on the ultrasound. Then he said he didn't know what to do other than get another blood test for pregnancy. I was like "are you serious?" He has no clue why.

It has always been this way. I had my cysts on my ovaries rupture once when I was a teen and bled for several months. However, all the real periods that I've had in my life have been forced by medication and I do not ovulate afterwards. Not even with clomid. Clomid overstimulates my ovaries but no egg is actually released or matured.

This is why I want a specialist. There is supposedly a really good one an hour from me but they require insurance and there's a lot of paperwork before you can see them. It sucks because after all that s**t I'll have to go through the whole testing process and wait for results before any real progress can be made because they'll have to put me in the system and all that stuff.

Is the therapy helping at all? I think talking about it with a stranger would make it worse for me personally.

[II a r c II]

Hey everyone!

I just want you all to know that I do read all of your replies I just don't have a whole lot of time IRL to be posting very frequently.

<3 That you guys are keeping the thread a-goin!

Pink- I added you to the TTC list~.

If I'm missing anybody let me know~~ c:

Update on my TTC; still no positive O. Started to chart BBT and either I'm doing it wrong or I'm already having a spike and I missed my O day, which would be fine since we BD'd right before the spike (went from 96.83 to 97.4)

[Unconditional Heart]

Hello I wanted to offer my support, and let ya know, I know full well what you all are going through. I had an aunt that tried for years before having a beautiful girl that is in her teens.keep your husbands close, and lots of support, cause I know it's a struggle.

If you manage pregnancy! Awesome! If not, there are always an alternative, my hubby's cousin managed to adopt 2 siblings as babies from the same mother. It did take a long time, but it was the best feeling seeing my cousin in laws face light up when she got them. (she got the girl, and was called again to see if she wanted the freshly born baby boy when the girl turned two I believe.)

[A Redhead Angel]

PKMN Breeder Mandy

A Redhead Angel

Thank you. It is awful and really is hard to function. We were both diagnosed with PTSD. We go to therapy.

The Drs haven't figured out why you do't ovulate? Has it always been like this, even as a teen? That is beyond frustrating. You need to find a more understanding work place. I know it is easier said than done.

No doubt. Today I totally got rammed into my machine by a forklift being careless and bumping into my basket of parts that weigh a ton. I would not work there while pregnant.

No the doctors haven't figured it out. One reason why I'm frustrated with my current doc. I don't have insurance so I've paid out of pocket for everything. I spent over 100 dollars for an ultrasound after a negative blood test on my first round of clomid. He said I wasn't pregnant based on the ultrasound. Then he said he didn't know what to do other than get another blood test for pregnancy. I was like "are you serious?" He has no clue why.

It has always been this way. I had my cysts on my ovaries rupture once when I was a teen and bled for several months. However, all the real periods that I've had in my life have been forced by medication and I do not ovulate afterwards. Not even with clomid. Clomid overstimulates my ovaries but no egg is actually released or matured.

This is why I want a specialist. There is supposedly a really good one an hour from me but they require insurance and there's a lot of paperwork before you can see them. It sucks because after all that s**t I'll have to go through the whole testing process and wait for results before any real progress can be made because they'll have to put me in the system and all that stuff.

Is the therapy helping at all? I think talking about it with a stranger would make it worse for me personally.

I thought therapy would suck too, but I like it. We have had two therapist. We canned the first one. She was very young and seemed unseasoned. :/ The one we go to now is really goo. She helps remind me that I am not crazy. My friends try to be understanding, but then they get mad at me for being so negative. I've even had one ask "why are you depressed? You have lost so much weight?" Stupid people.

Your situation is beyond frustrating. You need to see a specialist, definitely. I have a friend whose uterus would not allow an egg to implant. She had to have her uterus scraped clean 5 times before having her son. There are some strange, but fixable things that can cause infertility. I hope you get it figured out soon.

[A Redhead Angel]

II a r c II

Hey everyone!

I just want you all to know that I do read all of your replies I just don't have a whole lot of time IRL to be posting very frequently.

<3 That you guys are keeping the thread a-goin!

Pink- I added you to the TTC list~.

If I'm missing anybody let me know~~ c:

Update on my TTC; still no positive O. Started to chart BBT and either I'm doing it wrong or I'm already having a spike and I missed my O day, which would be fine since we BD'd right before the spike (went from 96.83 to 97.4)

I found I wasn't very good with my temp. I went by mucus.

[II a r c II]

A Redhead Angel

II a r c II

Hey everyone!

I just want you all to know that I do read all of your replies I just don't have a whole lot of time IRL to be posting very frequently.

<3 That you guys are keeping the thread a-goin!

Pink- I added you to the TTC list~.

If I'm missing anybody let me know~~ c:

Update on my TTC; still no positive O. Started to chart BBT and either I'm doing it wrong or I'm already having a spike and I missed my O day, which would be fine since we BD'd right before the spike (went from 96.83 to 97.4)

I found I wasn't very good with my temp. I went by mucus.

Yeah I think I'm starting to realize I'm not very good at temping either, lol!

This morning I woke up with the thermometer in my hand, then tried to take my temp and I think I took it out before it beeped cause when I looked at it it said 95.95, then I went back to sleep and tried to look at the history but it didn't appear, so I took temp again and by then I was too awake because it came up as 97.7 >_<

I set up a preconception appointment for Sept. 9th. I'm nervous/excited!

[A Redhead Angel]

II a r c II

Yeah I think I'm starting to realize I'm not very good at temping either, lol!

This morning I woke up with the thermometer in my hand, then tried to take my temp and I think I took it out before it beeped cause when I looked at it it said 95.95, then I went back to sleep and tried to look at the history but it didn't appear, so I took temp again and by then I was too awake because it came up as 97.7 >_<

I set up a preconception appointment for Sept. 9th. I'm nervous/excited!

When I had egg white like mucus, we had sex. My husband and I got pregnant the first time, both pregnancies. I have been very, very lucky in that regard. I haven't had any conception problems.

What will they do at your appointment?

[II a r c II]

A Redhead Angel

My CM is almost always watery. :c

They are going to do a pap smear and a regular annual type check up for women, then I'm going to bring up my concerns about not having a period in a long time and go from there.

[thedizzybear]

Well, I found out why I was sick, dizzy, almost blacking out, and having weird menstrual symptoms.

Turns out I had a cyst that burst. Thankfully, no major damage, and I am fine now.
Had to go to a doctor yesterday, and everything looks normal except for a UTI.

[II a r c II]

thedizzybear

Well, I found out why I was sick, dizzy, almost blacking out, and having weird menstrual symptoms.

Turns out I had a cyst that burst. Thankfully, no major damage, and I am fine now.
Had to go to a doctor yesterday, and everything looks normal except for a UTI.

Ooooh ouch!! Luckily UTIs clear up fairly quickly in the list of possible infections c:

Hope ya feel better hon

[thedizzybear]

II a r c II

I am so happy it's just a UTI. I wasn't feeling well for a while, but there was no burning when I went to the bathroom. sweatdrop So, I wasn't sure what was wrong. Thankfully, everything else was perfectly normal. It was a free clinic. I'm so happy I found this place. They specialize in family planning, and they can do a lot of stuff with people trying to get pregnant. emotion_kirakira

After we're married, my fiance and I will be going down there. They were super nice!

Oh! I got my OPK and pregnancy test strips! Haven't had a positive OPK yet. I've done 3 over four days. I figure I'll have to wait til next cycle to use them since this one already seems too close to my period. Plus, with the infection and stuff, even if I was ovulating, it would probably hurt too much to do anything. emotion_0A0

[A Redhead Angel]

II a r c II

A Redhead Angel

My CM is almost always watery. :c

They are going to do a pap smear and a regular annual type check up for women, then I'm going to bring up my concerns about not having a period in a long time and go from there.

You want kind of sticky where you can pinch it between two fingers and when you pull it apart it won't break. Do you ever have that? It is only maybe 1-2 days during the month for me. I have never played with my own goo soooo much.

I am sure they will be interested in your missed periods. I see ultrasounds in your future.