Hooray! Transtastic will hopefully once more by back to it's fabulous-ness!
I feel like since I never introduced myself in the first thread, I should do it here. ^^;;
My name is Manda-chan in my everyday life, but my name around these parts is Uke. I don't mind being called either one, or if you want to make up your own for me, I really am cool with that too. ^^
I am not transgendered, though sometimes I wonder if I wouldn't have decided I was a trans-man if I hadn't met my girl and become partners with her. I am a cis-woman. I'm 21, in college for becoming a Sociology professor, and have a girl who is rather undoubtedly the love of my life and will remain that way through the rest of our journey.
I have always had a tug and pull relationship with gender. My parents expected a baby boy on March 10th 1989. I was Christopher Robert to them and until that was changed they were very excited for me to be their baby boy. Sadly to them, I wasn't so they stuck the name Amanda on me and walked out the hospital disappointed. Always when I was young I was fascinated by my dad's stuff. I wore his shoes, sweater. I played with his polishing kit, I loved being around him because we played sports together and had fun. My mom would nag on me, tell me I wasn't normal, and that I needed to be a little girl.
I even pretended I was a boy sometimes, it took away from the pain I got in elementary, I was over weight, had not many friends, and was generally unhappy. Especially when 5th grade hit, I was already a B cup bra. I refused to a bra, I was mortified what I was going through and I hated my body.
I felt this way throughout high school, and I first heard about transgendered. I looked it up, I felt close to it, but never came out or even really declared myself as trans. Something kept me back.
Finally in college I took a sex class, still felt close to gender and how I felt uncomfortable as myself. I started getting closer to my girlfriend as a friend, I was falling for her at this point, and was jealous of the girl she had come to want to ask to be with. I had a girlfriend at this point who was much the same with gender, though I didn't realize I was in a mentally unstable and even abusive in the later years relationship with her. I was self-deemed Poly at that point... but in truth I never was. I was jealous, I didn't like sharing my partner, but I loved that girl at that point enough to get over myself and my problems.
I was really close to deciding that I was a trans-man. I started a fight with my girl, and before I confessed my feelings to her, I had even asked her if she would accept a girl who was really trans as her lover. She was a stubborn, stubborn girl back then. >: x She hadn't come out as her fabulous self yet.
She agreed to be my 'boyfriend' on my other partner's and mines 1st year anniversary. I was happy, I finally felt Poly.
God was our relationship so rough and strange in the beginning. It was very eye opening. I still think about thanking her for how much she pushed me and made me a better person. I had finally started backing down from thinking I was a trans-man and really looking at myself. Finally, I took Brenda's soc class, I feel in love with the field and Brenda immediately. This was my calling, and she was boat into the passage way.
Colette's and mine relationship was at a high tension peak. It finally took something horrible to happen to make us finally realize how much we truly loved one another and were willing to stick by each other no matter what. I still cry thinking about it, it was so hard, but what came out was stronger people and stronger love.
I remember it like it was yesterday, after a wonderful weekend at our con, and getting my girl a picture as a little present from a good web artist, she came out. I had never felt more love, compassion for anyone at that moment. I knew that it was coming to it, but when it finally came out, I loved her just as much if not more. I was ready to hear that, and honestly, a couple days later, I finally knew I wasn't a man. I just finally looked at myself, in some new clothes I had gotten for myself and said, "You're a pretty woman, with a pretty girlfriend." And smiled and felt great.
It's been a hard journey still with my precious girl. A little after that, I had hit a huge peak with my other girlfriend, my first one and finally began to realize there was mental abuse going on. In December I broke up with her. In February or around then, I stopped trying to be friends with her completely.
It's still rough. We're having huge problems with family and we're finally starting to get money issues solved and still have to move out. But, we're finally leaping forward, I hope soon to see my girl off to her first therapy session with a neat gender therapist she found. ^^ I'm so excited for my girl, and so happy to be able to start helping get therapy, and soon enough hormones. I'd pretty much give up everything and anything to give her the happiness and help she needs. I'm just so happy to be her girl.
I love transgendered individuals. Especially you all here you're wonderful, you're real and you're all beautiful. Gender has always been a big plot point in my life, and its so fitting that I have my life partner as a strong, gorgeous trans-woman. So I support and am willing to help everyone here, because you guys have become a second family to me. <3
And... that's my story. ^^;; ... I'm sure Sana can back it up.
She's a regular around here, and I'm sure she'll be posting in the new thread soon. ^^ She is a wonderful and beautiful girl. Treat her nice, because I love her to death, she's a lot of my everything. ... So be nice. >: | ... XD While I'm serious, I don't need to make an ugly face. XP I look forward to a new a fabulous thread with the old and newcomers. :3 <3 Love you guys~