Laenis
It's not inviting abuse, but one thing leads to another. If a person advertises the fact they are agressive and domineering, you should maybe consider the possibility they are agressive towards people they are in relationships with.
As I said, not all dometic abuse is committed by bad boy types - hell a lot of it is committed by women, although some like to pretend it isn't. On the other hand it's far more likely to come from people who do openly act like that.
Just because someone advertises themselves as being thusly, doesn't mean they will be with you. I have a friend (yes, we're still friends) that I was dating for a while who, to most, would be viewed as the "bad boy" (okay, he really was, he got into fights a lot and did stupid s**t), but that's not who I knew him as. Note, We were friends for
years before getting involved with each other, so I
do know him on a different level than most. But he went through a hard time and we stopped dating then. Still friends to this day though.
Anyway, what I'm getting as is that sometimes you can't judge someone by how they act in social situations, because sometimes they actually
are a different person when alone with you. And I don't think there's a correlation between public aggression and domestic abuse. I mean if you even go around and survey people who have been in abusive relationships, I don't think the majority of them will tell you "He was always an aggressive guy", I have a feeling the majority of them will say "He was always sweet, everyone loved him, and then suddenly he just
changed" because to be blunt, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. It's easier to keep controll over someone who has witnessed first hand, your kindness, even when you're being unkind, than to keep someone who's witnessed your apathy and rudeness when you're treating them even worse.
However, I'm not saying that every girl should go out and date a "bad boy" because a lot of them are just plain a** holes and won't change, not even for you.
