Shanovale
Ah, But you're avoiding the most important part of my comment....Forcing help on people who won't accept it. If someone isn't willing to accept help, You can't make them, And in constantly pressuring them with your desire to 'Help' isn't going to help ANYTHING. I'd rather not be happy with my life, Then have some random guy coming up to me and saying "You're not normal, You need help, I'm here to help you."
The first thing i'd do in that instance is get in my car and run the guy over till he's the one asking for help. I would understand his good intentions, But would you react differently? Especially if you believe there is nothing wrong with you? Is it not the job of that person's FAMILY to care for their family member, And none of your buisness? Please, Correct me if i'm wrong.
Yeah, I understand.
It's not so much that it's none of their business. But rather that they're overestimating how much they know about the situation. I think the solution isn't to get mad at people who try to help, but rather to learn as much as you can about the disability and the sort of support you
do need so that you can confidently and straightforwardly tell them what to do.
Granted, I had this problem with my aunt, and she didn't stop thinking she knew better than me even when she read books I gave her or when I swore to her face. In cases like those I think it's fair to cut those people out of your life, because it gets to the point of being abusive and it shows that they have problems of their own.
But the
vast majority of people I deal with are just aware that my ADHD makes me forgetful and poorly organized and that that's not going to change - it's just a small part of me that sometimes gets in the way. So they deal with it in other ways. My doctor knows I won't remember to get my blood taken after a month, so she arranges for her assistant to phone me and remind me even though that's not standard procedure. My professors know my handwriting is slow and barely legible, so they let me use a computer (disconnected from the internet) to write exams.
In a lot of cases, it's like this because I fully explained to them what it means. And it helps them to not get frustrated or confused when something happens because of it, because they knew ahead of time.
I understand that there are people who don't want help, and to some extent I can relate, because I was only diagnosed a couple years ago and before that I was so, so sure that there was nothing wrong. But I wasn't happy - I was in denial. And that's an important distinction.