CH1YO
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- Posted: Mon, 08 Oct 2012 22:27:28 +0000
Shanovale
CH1YO
Shanovale
CH1YO
Shanovale
I would give you a proper reply, If i wasn't so sure you're only on this thread to be argumentative because you have nothing better to do...So i'll just say this. I accept other people's ideals, But does this mean i should follow them? Take Racism, Sexism, Or Homophobia as Ideals...I take it you accept their views as being their own personal opinions, But do you agree with them? Are you like a sheep that follows any belief that you are presented with? I'm saying that although i accept that people do it, And have good intentions in mind, I don't agree with that specific reaction to seeing those with disabilities and i'm in no way telling you to have the same views as i do on the subject.
If I'm only on this threat to be argumentative it would be specifically because I have something better to do, invariably.Negative attitudes are not ideals. That much should be obvious. I am willing and inclined to accept a person for the unique individual that they are and even to extend unconditional positive regard, pouring scorn upon a person's beliefs is not useful and to condemn them for trying to help should be severely punishable.
Does this mean that you are fine with things such as woman beating, Racism, Sexism, Homophobia, And applaud such people for being as such? What of rapists and *****, Do they also warrant your praise? Everyone is a unique individual, Wether you accept it or not isn't worth a damn, As it is a matter of fact. As for trying to help, What if the person in question does not NEED help...What if they have accepted whatever they may be afflicted with as a part of themselves, And all attempts to 'Help' the person that needs no help as there is nothing wrong with them, Result in upsetting the individual? Making them self concious, And destroying their confidence?
This is what i am referring to when i say i do not agree with it...Only in those situations. Trying to help those who need it, And openly accept it is one thing, But trying to help those who don't believe there is anything that they need help with is a different matter entirely...It's akin to trying to 'Help' a gay man, Because he's not straight...It is an act of discrimination, As accidental as it may be, And i can't abide it.
This is what i am referring to when i say i do not agree with it...Only in those situations. Trying to help those who need it, And openly accept it is one thing, But trying to help those who don't believe there is anything that they need help with is a different matter entirely...It's akin to trying to 'Help' a gay man, Because he's not straight...It is an act of discrimination, As accidental as it may be, And i can't abide it.
In the particular example of ****** I have helped people immensely through provision of unconditional positive regard. It is a good thing, always.
People often do not recognise that they need help until it is rather too late, why you would encourage such hardship is beyond me.
It is only a hardship if you're suffering for it...I'm referring to those who have accepted it as a part of who they are, And live happy lives, Unhindered by their so called disabilities...You wish to help those that need no help, That are happy and don't even consider their illnesses as anything abnormal. All those that seek to 'Help' those who are comfortable with their disabilities, Who are happy and need no help, Accomplish? Is practically telling them "There is something wrong with you, You have an illness, You're abnormal." When they are perfectly happy with who they are, And how they live their lives, And don't need self righteous fools telling them they need help. All it does is crushes their self confidence, And i don't believe you're even listening to what i'm saying. And on the example of ******? I think you're confusing those who actually commit the atrocity of child molestation with the victims of child molestation...Unless you're saying that child molestation is totally fine.
I think it probably best we cease this conversation, Considering you don't even know what you're trying to defend yourself against.
I think it probably best we cease this conversation, Considering you don't even know what you're trying to defend yourself against.
I don't think you understand the concept of positive regard, it does not involve regarding a person negatively.
I have helped molester and molestee in the same capacity, though never with individuals who have known one another as such. Why would I confuse the two?
I am not trying to defend myself here, I was not aware that I was supposed to.