Whispering Embers
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- Posted: Thu, 14 Nov 2013 02:28:32 +0000
Ando Panda
Ando says:
Username: Ando Panda
Title of Story: How to save a life
Story:
I lost my cousin to suicide on September 20th. It really has devastated my family since, leaving us to accept that we won't be able to live life normally for a long time. I've been dealing with it by letting myself move on and knowing that he'd want me to live happily even without him.
A few days ago there was someone who came in to the Starbucks that I work at and sat down at a table. He was a boy in his mid-20's and was with his friend. While cleaning the glass next to his table, I overhead the girl telling him, "You can't kill yourself. Do you know what that would do to your family and friends?" and he responded, "I can't. I can't get rid of this awful feeling. I consistently doubt that anyone does care even when it's right in front of me". At that moment, I felt compelled to say something...so I did. So, I walked to their table and took a deep breath, preparing myself so I wouldn't cry,
"I'm sorry to interrupt. I don't know you, but I accidentally heard what you just said...and I care. I don't know you, and I care. Your friend cares. Your mother, your father, your friend, girlfriend or boyfriend, your brother, your sister, your family, your coworkers - all these people care about you. I lost my cousin over a month ago and I'm still trying to pick up the pieces. Your life does matter, and if you keep living, you'll see that it does, and that things will change. So please, don't do it."
His friend got up and hugged me for saying what I did. And so did he. I asked if he'd like a cup of coffee on me and we could talk. We spent the next hour talking. He told me everything troubling him, and it turns out that we have a lot in common. He's gay, like I am, in a family that is close-minded, old fashioned, and very religious. He has trust issues because he had an ex that abused him. By the end of it, he thanked me for reaching out to him. He said he'd come by in a few days so he can let me know how he's doing, and his last words to me that day were, "Thank you for saving me".
Maybe I couldn't save my cousin, no matter how much I want to go back and stop him from doing what he did. But this...this makes it feel okay.
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Thank you for that
Hearing this makes me believe in humanity again
You really did an amazing thing
Hearing this makes me believe in humanity again
You really did an amazing thing