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i was trying to find this in an earlier journal entry, but i could not find it, so here it is
my excuses:
This info seems to fit here Though this thread seems pretty dead now
I was thinking about why women cheat: boredom/excitement testing what they can get not happy with what they have because they are evil one man is not enough because we are told not to because we are told to
Personally: I don't evaluate guys, so I end up in a loveless relationship, and I am to afraid of the effect the break up would cause, so I just keep adding to the problem.
(so basically every reason listed above is why I cheat)
I am back to my old habit of cheating, actually I basically never stopped. But now it just doesn't hurt. A guy friend of mine said we can casually date, which means we can still see other people and each other, but I usually do not let others know about him, though I think I care for him the most
so is that considered cheating if the main boyfriend knows that you are dating other guys? would that still be cheating the other guys?
One of the reasons I "cheat" is because my guy friend told me to, he is the one that told me to go out and date around, (he was actually pushing me to do more sleeping around, but that would make me feel like a complete slut) he does not seem to follow what some others perceive as moral guidelines he does what he thinks is right and suggests I do the same
but my problem is that I do what ever he tells me to, though I do not think it is right to date multiple guys, I have already chosen a second boyfriend,
(maybe the reason my guy wants me to date other people is for more experience)
I don't know what to do and this is where the problem comes in on why I cheat: I can not say no I am a passive person I don't go out looking for guys I have neither the ambition nor the self esteem for that I allow them to come to me I did ask a guy out once because it was suggested to me, he turned me down and I gave up If a guy asks me out I have a tough time turning them down I have a hared time turning anything down I don't know if it is greed or just not wanting to make them feel the rejection, basically not making myself feel like the bad person I have not had too much experience with guys, so it is not like I am talking about a large pool of people here it is just enough to get annoying
either way this type of selecting boyfriends is a failure I never get the guy I want I would have to make an effort to get them but with all these unevaluated guys, I just want to hang out for a while then break up, but being close is addictive, and I am afraid of break-ups, so I end up piling up loveless relationships, with no point to them. I usually try to annoy them into breaking up with me (never works-it is worse then how to lose a guy in ten days, they just will not let go)
But the guy I do like I have trouble expressing compassion for, which makes me angry and irritable.
This is where I get my quote from: "Though love will never break, the compassion will always be fake."
So I guess I date multiple guys for the companionship, and because I can not figure out what to do or how to find/what is the right guy. It also helps with finding ways to express myself
Sorry about the length, I just felt like putting an insight into my perspective as a "cheater"
earlier in that same forum:
Fay Da Way Rail_Kainer Fay Da Way It is hard to understand why people cheat unless you have been in that position yourself, and even then it is almost impossible to explain. I am slightly ashamed to say that I have been on both ends, the one who cheated and the one who had been cheated on, and I still do not completely understand why. I think it is mostly just because people like to explore what else is out there that they could have. or afraid of commitment or need attention or just crazy it could be any number of reasons. and most likely you will cheat again I do not think I could, it was very straining I am not heartless when I cheated, when I had two boyfriends it felt like my heart was wripping in two, I cried every night because I could not decide. They were both such nice people. I finally decided it was not right of me, that I do not deserve either of them, so I tried to get rid of both of them. I tried to break it off with one, I cried the whole time and they were stone cold. I hate breaking up with people. the pain of it just made me hate them both It wasn't my fault they had both asked me out within the same week, I had just gone through a month of basically solitary confinement. and I did not think that either relationship would last long. why do guys have to like commitment so much?
Negative-K Fay Da Way Negative-K Rail_Kainer Negative-K Most people who cheat are shallow packs of meat who don't deserve to be in any kind of relationship .-. But, again, it all depends on the situation at hand. bleh i just think there is no buts Said the man who has challenges with finding a good woman in the first place. D; I think there is a saying for that "nice guys finish last" or does that not apply?I'm a nice guy, but I finished first D;
Lonely Albel Negative-K Fay Da Way It doesnt mater because using logic is not logical, because most aplications of different logics do not work, they just cancel eachother out, so there really is no logic to be defied. xp But without logic my favorite concept wouldn't exist! The paradox. .-. Logic is to logical for anyone to comprehend, not even Jesus can understand, trust me... i know him... *mumbles* "b*****d owes me 10$" *mumbles* rofl
Lonely Albel Negative-K Lonely Albel Negative-K 'Tis not true! I throw my glove down at you! D< Does thine choose to throw you glove down! I shall throw my glove down, and we shall have a battle! You sir are a WITCH! I shall joust ye heretic! Thou shalt be slain! ]< Thou is unknowing of my jousting skills! Thine will die at the tip of my jousting pole, and will surrender at the last moment of torture.
Lonely Albel Fay Da Way Negative-K Fay Da Way Lonely Albel Its funny how girls are like "oh i want a kind generous yada yada yada, to lazy to list them all" and YET STILL "Nice guys finish last" Well let me tell you something, Nice guys finish last in everything, (Specially in bed *wink*) Especially finding a good woman. Wemon are hypocritical unself sufficiant bitchs who think its always the guys fault. "Should i bring my coat in it might be cold" "Bring it in then" "well if its not i dont wanna carry it around" "IF YOU DONT BRING IT IN AND ITS COLD YOUR GONNA MAKE ME GTFO AND GET IT." "I'll go w/o" 15 mins later "Im cold get my coat" "You chose not to go get it yourself." "I HATE YOU AND I HOPE YOU DIE" Now what have we learned? Always make the decisions about coats(guys) I would like it if my boyfriend made all of the decisions for me, I am used to people controling my life, but no! he makes me make decisions, I think he just likes to watch me squirm Ack D: I wouldn't like it if decisions would be made for me off the bat. Only if I asked. I would find it rude and inconsiderate of someone to make a decision for me without me knowing or having my consent. I just grew up in different conditions, so I have a different oppinion. 4laugh Eh, i suppose so eh?
Fay Da Way 4UrEyezOnly heart not all women cheats...i think women only cheat with their partner when she feels that his partner is having an affair with someone... heart that makes no sense, only cheating if you suspect the other is cheating, that is just trying to give reason to your action, excuses excuses usually when people are questioning others if they have cheated that means they have already cheated themselves or at least thought about cheating, so it is not the other person that has caused them to cheat and that is gender bias
I actually had this situation going on, withh the multiple guys but staying faiful to the one who knew about it all:
Lonely Albel Fay Da Way Lonely Albel 4UrEyezOnly heart not all women cheats...i think women only cheat with their partner when she feels that his partner is having an affair with someone... heart People always accuse the guy of cheating if he does anything to make it seem as though he sees another girl (sees as in saw as in looked at and or talked to) I know I have been a little protective of my guys but that is probably because I am a cheater so I expect them to be. Ah! shame on you lulz. I would be fine if my girlfriend cheated, as long as she let me to, and stayed faithful to me you know?
Joke:
Lonely Albel Fay Da Way Lonely Albel Reich87 Fist of Rahl TommyXGirl Really, that was quite offensive. Not all women cheat, ever. I just don't see why guys always pick those that do. neutral And all the women pick the men who treat them like crap. Okay thanks bye. yeah.. this whole damn situation is the reason i'm staying single Right there with ya dude. They take time and money, literally, you don't expect the girl to pay for everything eh? course not, you got to be her "sugar daddy", I was actually thinking of going out with a girl just to see what it is like, because guys complain about it so much. or maby I would just cheat on my boy friend while i still have him around, or even better lett him join, i like the idea of free love, go back to the 70's God dammit that hot! wish you were my gf hah
And for a final quote:
"Once a cheater, always a cheater."
trust? neutral > sad understanding myself love, what is that -_- crying boys word confusion[02/23/09 08:21am]
Fay Da Way · Sun Oct 11, 2009 @ 06:57am · 0 Comments |
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