Satil
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- Posted: Mon, 16 Jul 2012 02:11:43 +0000
Stretch marks- If you're going to get them, you're going to get them. Stretch marks are all about how your skin reacts to stretching. If your skin is naturally very, very stretchy then you may skip them. If it's not, then you will. If your skin marks or scars easily, then you'll get them. My skin marks really easily and I got a ton of marks right at the end of my pregnancy when he started dropping and when I started swelling like mad. How young and healthy you are have no effect. And I gained 50 pounds in my pregnancy and I ate well and continued my regular level of activity. By the time he was a week old I had lost 20 pounds without trying, and I've lost 5 or 6 more since he was born with breastfeeding and light exercise. I already look much, much like my old self and my stretch marks are going from purple to pink. They'll likely be silver by next month. They just happen. They aren't THAT bad and they'll fade eventually.
Parenting advice- Parenting gives you a backbone. You have to be able to tell people to ******** off and remain confident in your own opinions on things. I try to parent the way I have lived my life- to take in what I see, evaluate the options, and do what's right for me. For example, Dexter has used a pacifier since he was 3 days old, I pump already, and he's had a few bottles of pumped breast milk so I could have more than 1 or 2 drinks and so I could go out with my husband a time or 2. A lot of people would think I was a terrible, awful person for that but ******** them. My son is happy and healthy, and we are happy and healthy. If you can't stand firm in your decisions you'll turn into a nervous wreck. And trying to parent your child, that you know in the situation that YOU live in the way some outsider tells you too will make you ******** nuts as you can't really use a shotgun approach to parenting. Every child, parent, and family dynamic is different. What works for one person will not work for another. JUst take the ideas with a grain of salt and let the ones that don't work for you go.
Amnios- I didn't get one, or a CVS and I opted for all non-invasive genetic testing as I wanted to know if there was something wrong because even though it's not a popular opinion I WOULD have chose abortion for a severely disabled child that would have died after birth or required massive, massive amounts of medical care to live, and live with a very poor quality of life. I would never tell a woman that she should or should have had an abortion, but that is what is right for me. I may have had an amnio if the other tests identified any issues, but they didn't and if you have no risk factors and the prelim tests show NOTHING then to me an invasive test is an unnecessary risk to take.
Dexter is smiling and singing to me every day now. smile
Parenting advice- Parenting gives you a backbone. You have to be able to tell people to ******** off and remain confident in your own opinions on things. I try to parent the way I have lived my life- to take in what I see, evaluate the options, and do what's right for me. For example, Dexter has used a pacifier since he was 3 days old, I pump already, and he's had a few bottles of pumped breast milk so I could have more than 1 or 2 drinks and so I could go out with my husband a time or 2. A lot of people would think I was a terrible, awful person for that but ******** them. My son is happy and healthy, and we are happy and healthy. If you can't stand firm in your decisions you'll turn into a nervous wreck. And trying to parent your child, that you know in the situation that YOU live in the way some outsider tells you too will make you ******** nuts as you can't really use a shotgun approach to parenting. Every child, parent, and family dynamic is different. What works for one person will not work for another. JUst take the ideas with a grain of salt and let the ones that don't work for you go.
Amnios- I didn't get one, or a CVS and I opted for all non-invasive genetic testing as I wanted to know if there was something wrong because even though it's not a popular opinion I WOULD have chose abortion for a severely disabled child that would have died after birth or required massive, massive amounts of medical care to live, and live with a very poor quality of life. I would never tell a woman that she should or should have had an abortion, but that is what is right for me. I may have had an amnio if the other tests identified any issues, but they didn't and if you have no risk factors and the prelim tests show NOTHING then to me an invasive test is an unnecessary risk to take.
Dexter is smiling and singing to me every day now. smile
