Salmenella
Chieftain Twilight
Salmenella
Hi so um..I'm kind of new this this whole non-monogamy bit.
I've been seeing a chick for a few months but we're not in a relationship of sorts. We're basically FWB, which is fine and I'm ok with this. No emotions have really been involved. I like spending time with her and we do go on dates but eh..I wouldn't consider it to be an actual relationship.
However, I just went on a date with another chick today. We have our second date on Tuesday. Difference with this is she's married. I met her husband tonight and he was actually the one to push to her pursue other partners since she mainly only dated girls before dating him and knows she still really wants it. I guess she put it off for a while and finally gave in last year but nothing has come of it. But..we hit it off a lot. I got along with her dog. Her husband and I seem to get along which is obviously important. So I see something happening with this and a bit excited/nervous about it all and what it entails.
So yah..figured I'd spy around here seeing as this is an entirely new world to me.
ooh, the scariest thing in relationships is walking into a new world.
xp I basically felt like you do now about Poly, about exclusivity when I entered into that.
I can only say, you have a very big and supportive welcoming committee, here.
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It's kind of bad. We spent New Years Eve together. Had a life changing experience with some of my friends that night and her and I felt very close and intimate. We thought it was the drugs, but it's almost a week and the feelings are still there. We're moving really fast. We're in a relationship now, even said the *gasp* "L" word! (though from my own experiences I've learned to not hide back on how I'm feeling because you never know if you'll see them again. Live like every moment together is your last)
She joked that it's a good thing she's married or else we'd be Uhalling already like stereotypical lesbians. But..there's truth to it.
So far a poly relationship has saved me from going TOO too fast.
Ironically, I'd warn against fast relationships. they have always been my bane, so I have tried to pace myself. case in point, I moved
way too quickly with Star, and now... well, we're not a couple anymore...
sweatdrop but I still have a date with her tomorrow that I can't seem to fall asleep for.
xp
but I getcha. it's confusing. how do you reconcile accepting how you feel with the risks that come with it being so? my best answer is, just recognize that
not letting go of an illusion doesn't make the illusion real.
