Chikara Kitsune Takashi
@ Syn:
I've tried, really. I've showed him more exciting stuff I'd like to try, I've told him about things I've read... he's just a really quiet guy. He's the deep, quiet, mysterious type, and while I normally love that about him when I try to change anything it's like running up against a brick wall. I mean, it's not really like I can say "you're boring, change yourself to be more interesting", can I?
Maybe part of the problem is that I'm normally shy about most things, so the fact that I'm trying to be assertive about all of this is scaring him? I dunno... Oh, and I'm not sure if this matters or not to the topic, but we just started having sex a month ago. It's more than the sex, though, it's that he doesn't act like we're together in public. He won't hold my hand because it "bugs him". Ok, I'm OCD, so I get that, but still... I feel like crying sometimes when I see other couples holding hands.
Ugh. I'm sorry to be blunt, but having been in a 'relationship' where I was kept quiet because he didn't want to be made fun of... any behaviour like that immediately sends up a red flag for me. I'm not saying that's the case with your boy, but if it is, he should have his balls taken off with something dull and rusty.
stressed
Anywho... again, you need to sit down and talk to him, obviously about more than just the bedroom stuff. Make a list if you have to to keep yourself on track, just to be sure you don't miss anything. Ultimately, if he still won't respond, then you'll have to decide if it's worth staying in.