First off I'd just like to say hey to everyone. I'll get to an introduction of myself shortly.
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Alright, so I am currently in a relationship with this girl who lives 500 miles away from me. To see her it would cost over $100 for a train ticket, and then $100+ a night for a hotel. We have lots in common, but I can see this falling apart really quickly, especially because I don't have a job..
She was the one who told me not to fall in love with her, but she's fallen harder than I have. She talks about our future together and she can't sleep unless she sees me.
I feel smothered already and we've only been dating for a month.
Help?
Couple of questions. How long have you two known each other for? Have you both discussed about meeting up and how to do so? (I mean, you're not working makes it just a tad difficult to pay the costs. And those aren't cheap). Thirdly, what does this girl mean to you?
Honesty here is the best policy. Discuss your thoughts and feelings. You're both young, it seems a tad early to be discussing any possible long term future together (especially after only a month of dating). It's nice to be able to hold the person you care about and do things that LDR limits, but it's not the only thing that makes a relationship. You've already said you have lots in common, so there is something right here. If, however, it really doesn't seem possible between you two, then it would do you both better to end the relationship now, rather than later down the line. Best of luck in what may or may not come for you.
Okay so, little bit about myself. My name is Liz, I'm 24 and from England. My girlfriend is from Canada. Huuuuuuuuge distance. Though I assume most are. XD
We met 11 years ago on a text-based roleplaying website. We've had ups and downs, lengths of absence, but we've always come through. We first started dating 5 years ago, we were together for two years. For personal reasons (which I do not wish to get into) we parted for some time. It was 3 years before I caught her again. It felt like we'd not missed a day of talking. That was back in June of this year. At the time I was in a sort-of relationship (long story for another time) which was not going well (was also LDR). He was very clingy (yes, I'm bi) and I was more a mother than a partner to him. His jealousy was what ended it for us.
So anyway, we got talking again, and although I had been hurt by our departure 3 years earlier, every emotion I had then was still there and came rushing back. We've been back together since July, but it hasn't been easy. She's been going through a lot of personal problems herself, as well as preparing to move, so we've had little time to actually talk the past few weeks. Not to mention the time difference isn't helping either XD I've also been going through some changes myself, I moved at the end of August and am still looking for a place of my own while I live with my sister. Stressful times. But I know when we do catch time together and when we're settled again, we'll enjoy each others company once more.
As for meeting and getting together? We discuss it regularly and how we'll make things work. We're determined. Intimacy? Well, no comment. We make the best of what we have and do what we need to. We're freely able to talk to each other and be open with each other (actually, we're each others firsts for that. Stories for another time perhaps).
Welp, that's my story. It's not been easy, but who said love ever is?
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