Interracial Relationship/Biracial Support Thread

[Fearherloveher]

Sound out the Words

Metheshrew

Sound out the Words

My mother's black and my father's white. The only one who opposed was my dad's father. A white bigoted man. But he dies early so that ok. My dad's twin sister married a black man, his older brother married a Puerto Rican, and the youngest brother to an Indonesian woman. My mom's brother married a Dominican. So I grew up around interracial relationships my whole life. People here don't care who marries what race. I myself am attracted to every race pretty much. I've dated a Caucasian, a Russian/Kazakh and my current boyfriend is Caucasian. If I'm attracted to the guy and are compatible, I'll have no problem being with him.

I, myself, have grown up all around interracial relations. ^^ I've never had much problems, but there are always a few people that have a problem with who we love and associate with. It's okay, though, no one likes them anyway lol. By the way, I've been into Kazakh culture ever since my freshman year in college. In my public speaking class there was a woman from Kazakhstan who told us all about the country and culture. I hope to go there one day. xd

His parents adopted him from Russia when he was a few months old. He knew his birth name as for the Russian or Kazakh culture I don't think he had any idea of it. I learned my boyfriend's got interracial cousins. Interracial dating/marriage is widely accepted in this area. But apparently in Lancaster there's KKK activity? So not everywhere is still ignorant free. So sad.

It is sad. Many of us are beyond caring about the color of another person's skin, but some of us just haven't evolved.

[Fearherloveher]

PacificToast

As a product of one such relationship, I feel odd that there is a thread devoted to it. I'm not really sure what the purpose is, as it's not really a pressing issue, or all that exciting. Yeah, I intimately know two cultures, but whatevs, have fun.

It may not be a pressing issue to you or all that exciting, but believe it or not; racism is still alive and well. While it may not be as bad as it was in the past it's still there, and there are some who would like to share their stories or seek advice.

[kawaiidonutchan]

Metheshrew

PacificToast

As a product of one such relationship, I feel odd that there is a thread devoted to it. I'm not really sure what the purpose is, as it's not really a pressing issue, or all that exciting. Yeah, I intimately know two cultures, but whatevs, have fun.

It may not be a pressing issue to you or all that exciting, but believe it or not; racism is still alive and well. While it may not be as bad as it was in the past it's still there, and there are some who would like to share their stories or seek advice.

Sorry, didn't realize it was a racism stories thread. I've never knowingly been discriminated against. I'm pretty sure there's only mild confusion as to my ethnic background.

[Fearherloveher]

MortuusATA

http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/lifestyle-discussion/interracial-relationships/t.74121173_1/

Discussion! Still convinced he is a troll but whatever! good things to bring up

Ugh, I can't believe he used the 'think about the children' argument. Seriously, when people use this I wonder how many biracial or multiracial people they know to base the assumption that they'll have it more rough than other children who are neither biracial or multiracial. /rant.

[Fearherloveher]

Master Momoku

i am a mixed offspring : ) half black half white
my parents didnt stay married for too long, but still have a good relationship between them.

I'm sorry they didn't stay together long, but I'm glad they still have a good relationship. smile

[Fearherloveher]

luna the last wolf

So awesome shocking moment of the weekend story time~!!

It was my birthday this past Sunday, and I didn't really plan on having a party, just a few friends over for cake and ice cream. I was doing some laundry the late morning of and my grandfather stops making his lunch to look at me and say, "You can invite that boy over. It's your birthday and I want you to be happy. While I'm not going to change, my opinions, I wont do anything to embarrass you." Both my uncle and I had to stop and do a double take to properly understand him.

So I did what he said I could and invited my boyfriend over. Later on in the party thing, my grandfather walked in the kitchen and saw my little sister trying to take a picture of us, so he took the camera from her. We all thought he was just going to close the camera and walk away, but he took a picture of us, and was smiling.

Then a little later we were all playing Mario Kart on my gamecube. Two of our other friends were racing and I was sitting in his lap and my little sister in mine. Then my grandfather walked in our den and smiled again. It was certainly shocking, but wonderful.

Wow, that's amazing! xd I'm so glad it was a good day for you, and that your grandfather put his opinions aside for you to be happy on your birthday. ^^ Have you and your grandfather talked about your relationship since then?

[Fearherloveher]

PacificToast

Metheshrew

PacificToast

As a product of one such relationship, I feel odd that there is a thread devoted to it. I'm not really sure what the purpose is, as it's not really a pressing issue, or all that exciting. Yeah, I intimately know two cultures, but whatevs, have fun.

It may not be a pressing issue to you or all that exciting, but believe it or not; racism is still alive and well. While it may not be as bad as it was in the past it's still there, and there are some who would like to share their stories or seek advice.

Sorry, didn't realize it was a racism stories thread. I've never knowingly been discriminated against. I'm pretty sure there's only mild confusion as to my ethnic background.

Don't worry. I wasn't offended by your post or anything. smile I've been discriminated against only a few times in my life, but sometimes I get that confusion from other people too. One time this woman came up to me and started speaking Spanish to me, because she thought I was Spanish and I was like, "Uh...Me llama no espanol." LOL

[kawaiidonutchan]

Metheshrew

Don't worry. I wasn't offended by your post or anything. smile I've been discriminated against only a few times in my life, but sometimes I get that confusion from other people too. One time this woman came up to me and started speaking Spanish to me, because she thought I was Spanish and I was like, "Uh...Me llama no espanol." LOL

Happens to my sister all the time. But she's lighter than I, so maybe that's why I don't get the same mix up.

[MortuusATA]

Metheshrew

MortuusATA

http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/lifestyle-discussion/interracial-relationships/t.74121173_1/

Discussion! Still convinced he is a troll but whatever! good things to bring up

Ugh, I can't believe he used the 'think about the children' argument. Seriously, when people use this I wonder how many biracial or multiracial people they know to base the assumption that they'll have it more rough than other children who are neither biracial or multiracial. /rant.

I think it also depends on where and who my SO and a few others find the mixed thing very cute, and both sides of my family have embraced me. This of course was after the original issue with my mom and grandparents (my grandma actually did get disowned for marrying my grandpa *who is black* then when my mom *half breed* was about 18 my great grandma made a stand and said she wanted to see her daughter and her grandkids or else she'd kick ggpa to the curb.) After that, we were welcome in all homes, there was no trouble.

I think the worst issue was that I was slowly getting into a "black power" phase and some 80 year old ex-panther told me I was a disgrace to my race, but that was about it.

The kid was still trolling.

[luna the last wolf]

Metheshrew

luna the last wolf

So awesome shocking moment of the weekend story time~!!

It was my birthday this past Sunday, and I didn't really plan on having a party, just a few friends over for cake and ice cream. I was doing some laundry the late morning of and my grandfather stops making his lunch to look at me and say, "You can invite that boy over. It's your birthday and I want you to be happy. While I'm not going to change, my opinions, I wont do anything to embarrass you." Both my uncle and I had to stop and do a double take to properly understand him.

So I did what he said I could and invited my boyfriend over. Later on in the party thing, my grandfather walked in the kitchen and saw my little sister trying to take a picture of us, so he took the camera from her. We all thought he was just going to close the camera and walk away, but he took a picture of us, and was smiling.

Then a little later we were all playing Mario Kart on my gamecube. Two of our other friends were racing and I was sitting in his lap and my little sister in mine. Then my grandfather walked in our den and smiled again. It was certainly shocking, but wonderful.

Wow, that's amazing! xd I'm so glad it was a good day for you, and that your grandfather put his opinions aside for you to be happy on your birthday. ^^ Have you and your grandfather talked about your relationship since then?

It was, the day was great~ We haven't at all, the topic hasn't been brought up. I think he may be pretending as though it never actually happened. =/ But I mean, maybe things will slowly change. I know my boyfriend wanted to talk to my grandfather and thank him, but that was immediately after the party and it was thought and advised by my older sister that it wait.

[Fearherloveher]

MortuusATA

Metheshrew

MortuusATA

http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/lifestyle-discussion/interracial-relationships/t.74121173_1/

Discussion! Still convinced he is a troll but whatever! good things to bring up

Ugh, I can't believe he used the 'think about the children' argument. Seriously, when people use this I wonder how many biracial or multiracial people they know to base the assumption that they'll have it more rough than other children who are neither biracial or multiracial. /rant.

I think it also depends on where and who my SO and a few others find the mixed thing very cute, and both sides of my family have embraced me. This of course was after the original issue with my mom and grandparents (my grandma actually did get disowned for marrying my grandpa *who is black* then when my mom *half breed* was about 18 my great grandma made a stand and said she wanted to see her daughter and her grandkids or else she'd kick ggpa to the curb.) After that, we were welcome in all homes, there was no trouble.

I think the worst issue was that I was slowly getting into a "black power" phase and some 80 year old ex-panther told me I was a disgrace to my race, but that was about it.

The kid was still trolling.

LOL Obvious troll was obvious.
I've been given the 'disgrace' speech as well, because I was not 'acting black enough.' This came from other kids. At first I was hurt, but now when I look back on it I can only laugh. It's like, how exactly does one act out a skin tone? Besides, like I said earlier, no one really cared for those people anyway. I had more friends than bullies.

[Fearherloveher]

luna the last wolf

Metheshrew

luna the last wolf

So awesome shocking moment of the weekend story time~!!

It was my birthday this past Sunday, and I didn't really plan on having a party, just a few friends over for cake and ice cream. I was doing some laundry the late morning of and my grandfather stops making his lunch to look at me and say, "You can invite that boy over. It's your birthday and I want you to be happy. While I'm not going to change, my opinions, I wont do anything to embarrass you." Both my uncle and I had to stop and do a double take to properly understand him.

So I did what he said I could and invited my boyfriend over. Later on in the party thing, my grandfather walked in the kitchen and saw my little sister trying to take a picture of us, so he took the camera from her. We all thought he was just going to close the camera and walk away, but he took a picture of us, and was smiling.

Then a little later we were all playing Mario Kart on my gamecube. Two of our other friends were racing and I was sitting in his lap and my little sister in mine. Then my grandfather walked in our den and smiled again. It was certainly shocking, but wonderful.

Wow, that's amazing! xd I'm so glad it was a good day for you, and that your grandfather put his opinions aside for you to be happy on your birthday. ^^ Have you and your grandfather talked about your relationship since then?

It was, the day was great~ We haven't at all, the topic hasn't been brought up. I think he may be pretending as though it never actually happened. =/ But I mean, maybe things will slowly change. I know my boyfriend wanted to talk to my grandfather and thank him, but that was immediately after the party and it was thought and advised by my older sister that it wait.

Well, I think there may be a chance that your grandpa might not be as racist as he thinks himself to be. At least, that's how it seems to me. My grandma wasn't too pleased with my mother when she introduced my dad to her, but after getting to know him she loved him. I think it had to do with the way she was brought up and where she lived. My mother had the opportunity to move out of her small town in PA and move to Long Beach, California. Cities like Long Beach expose a person to many different cultures and ethnicities, but my grandma hadn't had that opportunity growing up. I think it mostly has to do with how a person was brought up. I think after some time maybe your grandpa will learn to love your boyfriend like my grandma loved my dad. *crosses fingers for you.*

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Metheshrew

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Metheshrew

MortuusATA

http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/lifestyle-discussion/interracial-relationships/t.74121173_1/

Discussion! Still convinced he is a troll but whatever! good things to bring up

Ugh, I can't believe he used the 'think about the children' argument. Seriously, when people use this I wonder how many biracial or multiracial people they know to base the assumption that they'll have it more rough than other children who are neither biracial or multiracial. /rant.

I think it also depends on where and who my SO and a few others find the mixed thing very cute, and both sides of my family have embraced me. This of course was after the original issue with my mom and grandparents (my grandma actually did get disowned for marrying my grandpa *who is black* then when my mom *half breed* was about 18 my great grandma made a stand and said she wanted to see her daughter and her grandkids or else she'd kick ggpa to the curb.) After that, we were welcome in all homes, there was no trouble.

I think the worst issue was that I was slowly getting into a "black power" phase and some 80 year old ex-panther told me I was a disgrace to my race, but that was about it.

The kid was still trolling.

LOL Obvious troll was obvious.
I've been given the 'disgrace' speech as well, because I was not 'acting black enough.' This came from other kids. At first I was hurt, but now when I look back on it I can only laugh. It's like, how exactly does one act out a skin tone? Besides, like I said earlier, no one really cared for those people anyway. I had more friends than bullies.

Well, that old man it didn't matter how I acted, I could've been part of a black power group for all he cared, I was mixed and that was a disgrace.

That was along my problem too, though some of my friends said it a bit more than my enemies, I just learned they don't mean black they mean "ghetto" the adjective not the noun

[Fearherloveher]

MortuusATA

Metheshrew

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Metheshrew

MortuusATA

http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/lifestyle-discussion/interracial-relationships/t.74121173_1/

Discussion! Still convinced he is a troll but whatever! good things to bring up

Ugh, I can't believe he used the 'think about the children' argument. Seriously, when people use this I wonder how many biracial or multiracial people they know to base the assumption that they'll have it more rough than other children who are neither biracial or multiracial. /rant.

I think it also depends on where and who my SO and a few others find the mixed thing very cute, and both sides of my family have embraced me. This of course was after the original issue with my mom and grandparents (my grandma actually did get disowned for marrying my grandpa *who is black* then when my mom *half breed* was about 18 my great grandma made a stand and said she wanted to see her daughter and her grandkids or else she'd kick ggpa to the curb.) After that, we were welcome in all homes, there was no trouble.

I think the worst issue was that I was slowly getting into a "black power" phase and some 80 year old ex-panther told me I was a disgrace to my race, but that was about it.

The kid was still trolling.

LOL Obvious troll was obvious.
I've been given the 'disgrace' speech as well, because I was not 'acting black enough.' This came from other kids. At first I was hurt, but now when I look back on it I can only laugh. It's like, how exactly does one act out a skin tone? Besides, like I said earlier, no one really cared for those people anyway. I had more friends than bullies.

Well, that old man it didn't matter how I acted, I could've been part of a black power group for all he cared, I was mixed and that was a disgrace.

That was along my problem too, though some of my friends said it a bit more than my enemies, I just learned they don't mean black they mean "ghetto" the adjective not the noun

Some ignorant people are just far more ignorant than most ignorant people.
I've had some friends that have done that too.

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Metheshrew

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Metheshrew

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Metheshrew

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http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/lifestyle-discussion/interracial-relationships/t.74121173_1/

Discussion! Still convinced he is a troll but whatever! good things to bring up

Ugh, I can't believe he used the 'think about the children' argument. Seriously, when people use this I wonder how many biracial or multiracial people they know to base the assumption that they'll have it more rough than other children who are neither biracial or multiracial. /rant.

I think it also depends on where and who my SO and a few others find the mixed thing very cute, and both sides of my family have embraced me. This of course was after the original issue with my mom and grandparents (my grandma actually did get disowned for marrying my grandpa *who is black* then when my mom *half breed* was about 18 my great grandma made a stand and said she wanted to see her daughter and her grandkids or else she'd kick ggpa to the curb.) After that, we were welcome in all homes, there was no trouble.

I think the worst issue was that I was slowly getting into a "black power" phase and some 80 year old ex-panther told me I was a disgrace to my race, but that was about it.

The kid was still trolling.

LOL Obvious troll was obvious.
I've been given the 'disgrace' speech as well, because I was not 'acting black enough.' This came from other kids. At first I was hurt, but now when I look back on it I can only laugh. It's like, how exactly does one act out a skin tone? Besides, like I said earlier, no one really cared for those people anyway. I had more friends than bullies.

Well, that old man it didn't matter how I acted, I could've been part of a black power group for all he cared, I was mixed and that was a disgrace.

That was along my problem too, though some of my friends said it a bit more than my enemies, I just learned they don't mean black they mean "ghetto" the adjective not the noun

Some ignorant people are just far more ignorant than most ignorant people.
I've had some friends that have done that too.

I dont mind, I dont take a lot of people over the age of 50 that seriously unless they're telling me a story.