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From what I read, it's about sex. Or, more specifically - making babies. Women want strong, masculine men to pass on their genes with them. THEN comes the sensitive guy part - after the big bear guy impregnates her with his obviously superior genes, she wants a sweet, sensitive (empathetic) guy who is actually going to stick around and care about her and the baby. That's just from what I've read though.
I've heard that too, and that it all comes down to biology. I remember crap like this coming up in various classes.
Looking at that argument though,
there's a definite flaw in that thinking. Assuming we go by this reasoning, do women really want the big bear guy or the sensitive one? Or do they want both and this is the best of both worlds? It doesn't make sense. Why get pregnant by some masculine guy and help to continue that genetic line and those genetic traits if that isn't what you really want?
I mentioned this twice to someone else: it isn't a way of thinking. It's something that you have no control over. And I guess that, really, if you look at how long these hormonal periods last that make you attracted to slightly different things, it seems about even in its distribution. It's not the kind of thing that completely changes what you're attracted to - you don't suddenly have completely different tastes - it's just a subtle type of thing. And it makes perfect sense - you want a strong mate - someone to help you survive, etc. You want strong offspring. You also want this offspring to survive - hence, the more caring individual to help raise it. There's nothing that says you can't have both, or that it can't be found in the same one person.