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Koiyuki-- you seem to find things that make me want to rant.... ^_^



Ok, ok. Slap the cuffs on me (Fuzzy ones! ninja ), I'm guilty.

Yes. I was the one who woke up and just pushed a clip or a hairband into her hair. It's waist legnth and frizzy and I didn't even bother to use product.
Yes. I was the one who maybe even just braided it before sleeping and horror of horrors left it that way when I left the house in the morning.

It was I who threw on the sweatpants or ripped jeans that were just lying on my computer chair from tuesday.

It was I who just grabbed a T-shirt out of the drawer.

I didn't paint my nails either. In fact, they' short, and un-filed.

It's me who hardly ever wears jewelry.
I'm the one who never wears make-up. Hell, I don't even own any makeup... how bad is that?


I don't really have a rant for this. just have lousy interpersonal skills. Deal.

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I consider myself nerdy, and also cute. But I dislike the people who go around saying "Is it too much to ask for girls to pay more attention to how they look?!" ...

Yeah, yeah, it really is. Not that I don't like dressing up now and then, but most of the time people just don't appreciate how much damn work goes into "a little attention" to your appearence. I have better things to do. Like play video games or read comics.

As for social ineptitude... When it comes to getting along smoothly with people, some got it, some don't. Why hold it against anyone for being a little awkward?


All of that having been said, Nerdy Girls can be found in the same place nerdy guys can be found... Arcades, Anime Club meetings, and such places.

Koi, don't be afraid to speak your mind. I think that it would be better if you used your own words rather than posting what other people have posted in forums. Just my opinion, though.

My Take:

Basically anyone who would DARE classify themselves as a "cute nerdy girl" is going to embody the same immaturity that most people who label themselves seem to have.

I know plenty of girls that I think are "nerdy and cute" but they really don't see themselves that way.

In all reality, the number of girls who basically do the "nerdy and cute" thing without meaning to are also very well rounded and do more than just be nerdy and cute. For example, myself. I like video games. I like anime. I like foreign movies. I really like funny internet flashes (badgers badgers badgers...XD), etc.

I know more about computers than a lot of my friends. I'm pretty well versed in sci-fi television shows. And I'm really cute (obviously).

So, why am I not seen as a "cute nerdy girl"? Mainly because I do LOTS of other things really well. First of all, I'm really outgoing. I'm really responsible and organized. I have a plethora of diverse friends from different "places" on the social ladder.

I am very proud of my appearance, but I don't do designer shopping. I tend to actually shop at the thrift store, but you'd probably not guess that I did. I'm good at finding what looks good on me and then wearing it with other stuff that looks good.

In all reality, I think that the only reason that nerdy guys look for nerdy girls and find what they have to "choose from" lacking in the awesome aspects that many of us nerdy cute all-weather girls have is because most girls who are going to hang out with nerdy guys are going to emulate their behavior. It's really REALLY annoying to be around someone who emulates your behavior if you're supremely nerdy. You probably don't really like the idea of having your love interest knowing EVERYTHING you do, or showing you up on it. It gets annoying. I had a boyfriend once who was really nerdy. He would always try to "one up" me on everything. It was quite frustrating for both of us. Now we're stiill good friends, but he bothers me a lot less when he goes off on stuff because I don't feel quite as competitive with him since I'm not his girlfriend.

The sad truth is that when men look for a mate, they look for what is convienient and nearby. If you want to meet a better calibur of woman, you need to make an effort to go outside your comfort zone.

Convienience is the main reason that men often run off with their secretaries. She is convienient and not his wife.

Not to say that this is how all men work, but for the majority of men that I've known or observed, this is generally how they tend to think and act, even if they're not consciously aware of it.

This is why my diabolical plan to spend tons of time with my fiance (when we were still friends), is probably one of the largest contributing factors in why he fell in love with me. I was there, I was convienient, I was supportive, and I was interested in him.

I have sorta wondered about this myself, a little...

The core issue at stake is the incarnate contradiction:
1) Nerds, in general, do not put much into their appearence. We have too much else to do with our time :3
2) Relatively few girls look all that cute without at least some work on their appearence.

Therefore, the cute nerds will tend to be few and far between, or not excessively nerdy.

Oni-Angel, always full of helpful advice. *notes* Hmm...guess I just gotta let it fall where it may.

Kuro, please don't tell people where I live so clearly. sweatdrop *edits that part of Kuro's post*

Anyways, I would consider myself somewhat nerdy, and some people say I'm cute. I do not like to judge myself because I am usually wrong in some extreme way, so I will try to do that as little as possible.

However, people may judge as being socially inept and immature. I know that I have often been called anti-social. The truth is, I'm not really anti-social; it's just that whenever I talk people seem to try to corner me and beat me down for saying what I think, so I don't like to talk before I get to know people. It is like Kuro said at the end; if you get to know me, I will open up. But before then, don't be too shocked by the excessive one-word answers.

Some people consider me mature and others don't. I have no clue what to say on this.

Secondly, I do not have complete disregard of physical appearance; just major disregard for it. I have found from experience that if I go a day without brushing my hair, then it is best to go the week, because by then it will more or less have untangled itself. I do shower regularly, and blahblahblablah, but I've completely given up on clothes. Namely pants. I can find halfway decent shirts, but pants never seem to fit right. Curse my tall skinniness.

Anyways, beyond that, I've pretty much decided that whatever physical "flaws" I have would be too much of a pain in the a** to deal with, so if people don't like me because of them, then they're shallow bitches and I have no reason to desire to in any way associate with them.

The nerdy girls are..I here they don't put out....<.< but that is what I here. 4laugh I am a nerdy girl..but they we must discribe nerdy...what is a nerdy girl??? ninja

I'm a geek/nerd girl and have always been one. And actually there's more of us than you would imagine, and most of us are decent looking ladies. In highschool I hung out with a geeky group of kids and the majority were girls (2 boys to like 12 girls O.o).

What made us so obscure from everyday view was that we didn't invade the mall or stand out in a crowd. We were always in our part of the school doing our sort of things and we were defensive of anyone who tried to come close to us. Why? Well maybe because when we were younger, we were all the reject cases and we've become jaded but also because we gave up on normal people trying to understand us.

To this day, the majority of us really only date people from our circle and when an outsider joins us, they have to learn to deal with the D&D and Everquest talk because otherwise they don't stay long.

We're hard to approach but you'll never find more down-to-earth and comical people when you do finally sucessed to join in.