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Having had just recently lost my virginity, I found this interesting and helpful, but I don't believe the bit about hymen pain and that doctors can't tell of one .
I'm 21, and for one thing... My first time was very painful, even though I was relaxed (I admit I was a tad nervous ), and even our second time trying, though not as bad. My mom had warned me when I was born the doctor mentioned I had a tad more of a hymen than most girls are born with , and said it may be very painful for me , so I should see a doctor for that before I have sex. I didn't, stupidly thinking I didn't have a hymen anymore since I couldn't see one, and considering my age (most girls have only a partial hymen by the time they're teenagers). My hymen was definitely there. He had fingered me a few times before hand, and that did help get rid of a bit of t, but I still had a lot to go .
My other reasoning for not believing it is, a close friend of mine, same age, and is still virgin, had her first gyno appointment recently (woman are required to at age 21even if they haven't become sexually active). She told me the doctor admitted she's always skeptical and doesn't believe her patients when they say they're virgin... But she believed her. She had a thick hymen, almost completely in tact, so much that the doctor said she couldn't do anything for the exam and advised her to wait till she's had sex before scheduling her next appointment .
Perhaps you misread: doctors can't tell whether you've been sexually active or not. At all. Ever. Sure, a very super-intact hymen might
imply that a woman hasn't had p***s-in-v****a sex, but beyond that the doctor cannot detect sexual activity. If the patient has a partial or worn-away hymen, it doesn't tell the doctor anything at all: she may have had no sex, lots of sex, sex with men, sex with women, manual sex, penetrative sex — none or all. The doctor cannot tell.
I'm a little confused re: what specifically you mean that you "don't believe" about hymens. The article makes clear: if sex hurts or you have reason to believe you have a resistant/tough/keloid hymen — and your doctor told you that that was the case for you — yes, there can be pain, worth medical attention. That's exactly what the article says — exactly what your doctor said. A hymen tough enough to cause significant pain can be seen to. If sex hurts, it's because your body is telling
something isn't right yet.
I hope that didn't sound in anyway impatient or unkind, but I just wonder if you read it all before posting. If it wasn't clear, let me know and I'll see what I can do to make it clearer.
Note: made a bunch of edits to the above, mostly for clarity.