Twin Suns Three
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- Posted: Mon, 04 Feb 2013 22:44:23 +0000
You need to leave it alone. Trying to mend things is only making it worse. This has nothing really to do with you, so quit blaming yourself.
Based on your responses to others, I am going to guess that there was something wrong with the sibling dynamic BEFORE you came along. It sounds like your husband was probably a doormat to them. He listened to their advice, prioritized their needs / wants, and bent over backwards to please them.
Then, he met you, fell in love, and got married. They are not the center of his universe. He developed a backbone and they don't like that so they blame you for it. In their minds, you've done something to their brother to change his behavior. In fact, the only thing you've done is exist. It's not fair but that's how it is.
You married HIM, not his family. Although it makes things easier if everyone in a family gets along, it's not necessary for a marriage. Your husband doesn't like how his sisters disrespect you, and he doesn't like how they disrespect him.
If he doesn't want to invite them to the renewal ceremony, then you need to support his decision. If he doesn't want them at your child's birthday party, then you need to support his decision.
These are two important days that shouldn't have to be ruined because they want to start something.
Based on your responses to others, I am going to guess that there was something wrong with the sibling dynamic BEFORE you came along. It sounds like your husband was probably a doormat to them. He listened to their advice, prioritized their needs / wants, and bent over backwards to please them.
Then, he met you, fell in love, and got married. They are not the center of his universe. He developed a backbone and they don't like that so they blame you for it. In their minds, you've done something to their brother to change his behavior. In fact, the only thing you've done is exist. It's not fair but that's how it is.
You married HIM, not his family. Although it makes things easier if everyone in a family gets along, it's not necessary for a marriage. Your husband doesn't like how his sisters disrespect you, and he doesn't like how they disrespect him.
If he doesn't want to invite them to the renewal ceremony, then you need to support his decision. If he doesn't want them at your child's birthday party, then you need to support his decision.
These are two important days that shouldn't have to be ruined because they want to start something.