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I had never even heard of waiting until marriage to have sex until, like, my junior year of high school.
Unsurprisingly, I do not, nor have I ever, follow(ed) that choice.
I also never wanted to wait to have sex because I was told how painful losing one's virginity could be, and didn't want to get married only to go through a night of hell. In the end, yes, I've heard that losing one's virginity can be completely pain free with enough foreplay, etc. However, it still wouldn't have been true for me, according to my gyno.
Anyway, I don't judge anyone for waiting until marriage simply because I don't care either way. I wouldn't date someone who wanted to wait simply because I've already lost my virginity and doubt they would want to be with me, anyway. lolz
Unsurprisingly, I do not, nor have I ever, follow(ed) that choice.
I also never wanted to wait to have sex because I was told how painful losing one's virginity could be, and didn't want to get married only to go through a night of hell. In the end, yes, I've heard that losing one's virginity can be completely pain free with enough foreplay, etc. However, it still wouldn't have been true for me, according to my gyno.
Anyway, I don't judge anyone for waiting until marriage simply because I don't care either way. I wouldn't date someone who wanted to wait simply because I've already lost my virginity and doubt they would want to be with me, anyway. lolz
My understanding is that most of the pain that comes with losing virginity is from the hymen breaking and going too fast. Where I'm pretty sure my hymen is broken and being very open about sex and knowing to talk with my partner, I think when I lose my virginity, it will be rather painless. But I'm still a virgin, and it'll be a few years for me to test that theory. I'll get back to you on that one.
Virgins don't necessarily have a problem with a partner who isn't a virgin. I certainly don't. I personally just need a partner who can wait for me when we do start dating. It's not like we'd be completely off limits. I just don't want sex until I'm married. A bit of playing around doesn't bother me.
Not for me, I just have a tight vag. Plus, there's that whole "hymen is a myth" argument going on.
I also wouldn't wait. I didn't lose my virginity to tighten back up again.
The hymen is certainly not a myth. Anyone who thinks so is probably a bit daft.
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It is a myth that, during first-time sex, girls must bleed and feel pain. Yet many women experience unnecessary pain during sex, and consider it normal. For the vast majority, sex does not have to be, and should not be painful. There are many, many things you can do to ensure pain-free sex, and if they do not work, you need to see a doctor.
A note on hymens: Hymens have nothing to do with whether you've had sex or not, from a biological perspective. No one, not even a doctor, can tell whether you've had sex from looking at you. The hymen (renamed by the modern medical community as the 'corona') is a thin, flexible membrane at the entrance of the v****a that naturally degenerates over time (more rapidly from the beginning of puberty). Some hymens are particularly thick or inflexible, and can cause pain during sexual activity—if you believe this may be the case for you, it's important that you see a doctor to discuss ways that this can be solved. I really recommend reading the ground-breaking myth-busting info in this article:
A note on hymens: Hymens have nothing to do with whether you've had sex or not, from a biological perspective. No one, not even a doctor, can tell whether you've had sex from looking at you. The hymen (renamed by the modern medical community as the 'corona') is a thin, flexible membrane at the entrance of the v****a that naturally degenerates over time (more rapidly from the beginning of puberty). Some hymens are particularly thick or inflexible, and can cause pain during sexual activity—if you believe this may be the case for you, it's important that you see a doctor to discuss ways that this can be solved. I really recommend reading the ground-breaking myth-busting info in this article:
I know all that. I thought she was saying that the hymen does not exist. It exists (whether you're calling is a hymen or corona doesn't really matter to me).
Some women experience a small amount of pain when it's penetrated, but it's hardly notable in most situations, just like you've said above. Most discomfort from first time sex comes from the muscles tightening due to nervousness.