Whisper the Lightbringer
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- Posted: Sun, 30 Jan 2011 02:36:55 +0000
joonebugg
Whisper From A Dream
joonebugg
just having a really hard time today. my best friend and i are going through a rough patch and today hes not talking to me. i hate how he can do that, just ruin or fix everything even if nothing actually changes.
I definitely know what that's like, to care very much about someone and just having them upset with you ruins your day. I do have to question though why this person has to resort to not talking to you. If they are your best friend, then I would have to think they know what this is doing to you. I find myself wondering if maybe they are using how much you care for them, in order to manipulate you.
hes convinced that everyone will hurt him so he back away to keep from getting hurt and in the process hurts other people. but i mean ya i wonder a lot if he doesnt know exactly what hes doing...
If he feels that everyone will hurt them, so he hurts them first, then yes, he DOES know what he's doing. Its a defense mechanism, but its a malformed one just like self harm. If he withdraws from people in order to "punish" them, then he is doing it intentionally, and its not a healthy friendship. Its one where he's seeking to control, probably to cope with his OWN life, and in gaining control of others he doesn't feel so helpless. You can't allow him to have that much power over whether or not you're happy or have a good day. He has to realize that his behavior is hurting people, and IS the cause for him being alone.