Autism,Let's Talk

[Miss Ruckus]

SpanishHeart27

Miss Ruckus

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Hello ladies and Gents
This topic may get ignored but I'd love there to be a place where we can openly discuss
Autism (the ASD Spectrum) Do you have it?
Does someone you know fall on the spectrum?
Have any stories?

My son is 3 and he falls on the spectrum, he is Non Verbal and
extremely anti social, it is both a blessing and the worst thing to ever happen
simultaneously. Please don't misunderstand this
I LOVE my son with all my heart and soul
but I hate Autism some days, it keeps him in a prison
and it kills my heart whenever he is crying and I can't for the life of me
figure out the cause, and he can't tell me either.
There are both happy and sad days
I write an honest blog about my life with my boy and
my hobby of Nail art (focusing on the nail art keeps my mind off the bad stuff)
I will be here for support on those bad days to answer questions
or even to have a laugh at the cute quirky things that happen
Peace and Love fellow Gaians
<3

This is my Blog

Yes, I was diagnosed when I was four years old. Before the APA classified it as ASD, I was in the category of PDD-NOS.

I couldn't articulate the thoughts in my head when I was young. I couldn't convey what I really meant to say. I was conscious of my surroundings and my thoughts. It felt like my mind and mouth were disengaged.

I attended speech therapy to get my words to form into sentences. It was tedious. At times, I became frustrated and I would cry. Despite the breakdowns, I kept practicing so I could find connection.

Even reading helped me. I read as much as I could (I still do). I looked up words in the dictionary to understand what they meant. I wanted to be able to communicate even if I wasn't great at it.

I also felt social rejection and the pain of isolation ached inside. I wanted to find social connection. Often, I was misunderstood. I learned to mimic others and read on social behavior so I could find my connection.

Eventually, I made friends with someone and I became excited to have one friend. Then I made more and I felt accomplished that I could establish that. However, it wasn't easy because there were bullies and users in my life and I was taken advantage of for not understanding how to avoid them.

I am in a relationship with someone who accepts this part of me, even though my neurological condition makes me quirky and weird. They love me for as I am. My wish is to make them happy and loved as they make me feel.

Sometimes this being a part of me, it feels like a blessing and other days a curse.

Even after learning how to socialize better, I struggle at times. It takes a lot of work and I need time to recharge. I had a hard time making eye contact but I got better at it even though I need to look away to break the intensity of making the effort.

So socializing is a challenge but I try to remember my advantages. Those are being able to focus for long periods of time, learn languages quickly, and being gifted at drawing.

The challenge I am working on now is to establish my independence to hold down a job. I am working with an agency that will help me get there.

A book called Working With Aspergers by Rudy Simone helped me understand the struggle how most people with aspergers or high functioning autism when it comes to the world of work.

As far as I know, it is a part of my life and I strive to a better person than I was yesterday.

~

I suggest when your son enters high school is to develop a work plan. The Developmental Disabilities Administration could help service to his needs.

Otherwise, I do wish you the best to get him through life.

There are a lot of challenges and rewards. It can be an experience, as a parent, that will make you stronger or become resentful. Take it one day at a time and don't give up.

яυcкυs sαчs...

Thank you for sharing your story, brought a warmth to my heart to hear from an older persons view
I believe My son may feel like he is trapped in a prison where he can't express himself...he's been in speech therapy for a little over a year now.
I will never give up on him, he is my heart and soul and I want only the best for him
and I strive everyday to give him every single possible opportunity I can

[Miss Ruckus]

Maternal Muffin

My son was diagnosed with severe Autism in April 2013. He's somewhat verbal, but only when he wants to be.
He is OBSESSED with his kindle fire. He wants nothing else when he's not in school. He would rather sit and have a full blown meltdown about not being able to beat a level on bad piggies than not have it... it's awful sometimes.
His eating is a nightmare. He will only eat very, VERY select things.

... But I wouldn't trade ANY of it for the world heart

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Darn tooting, as stressful as it can be
It is very very rewarding smile
My boy is picky too

[Miss Ruckus]

Cassandra Sandsmark

Miss Ruckus

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Hello ladies and Gents
This topic may get ignored but I'd love there to be a place where we can openly discuss
Autism (the ASD Spectrum) Do you have it?
Does someone you know fall on the spectrum?
Have any stories?

My son is 3 and he falls on the spectrum, he is Non Verbal and
extremely anti social, it is both a blessing and the worst thing to ever happen
simultaneously. Please don't misunderstand this
I LOVE my son with all my heart and soul
but I hate Autism some days, it keeps him in a prison
and it kills my heart whenever he is crying and I can't for the life of me
figure out the cause, and he can't tell me either.
There are both happy and sad days
I write an honest blog about my life with my boy and
my hobby of Nail art (focusing on the nail art keeps my mind off the bad stuff)
I will be here for support on those bad days to answer questions
or even to have a laugh at the cute quirky things that happen
Peace and Love fellow Gaians
<3

This is my Blog

Hello sweetie, my son is 4 almost 5 and he falls on the spectrum. He was non verbal till around his fourth birthday and still has a few problems with his speech (though he can say most things).
First and foremost do not view autism as completely a bad thing, everyone has problems, his just has a name. Plus there are a million things which could be worse.

Second if you haven't sought out help from a special needs program do so immediately. He's entitled to it free of charge and the earlier a child gets in the better chances for him becoming more functional.

Third, if he can't speak try sign language and pointing, this helps language develop and many autistic kids are visual learners. They learn through pictures, not words. When he picks something up or makes a choice repeat the name of his choice to him... for example hold up a jug of apple juice and orange juice, ask him to point to the one he wants then repeat " Oh, you want 'apple juice'. " Even if he doesn't repeat it back, one day he might. My kid had two years of speech therapy before speaking.

Fourth, realize there's a difference between him 'being a kid' and 'autistic behavior'. Even three year olds without autism sometimes have tamtrums and act out. It's not always because they are autistic (though sometimes it is). It's because they are three years old.

Fifth, encourage him to play with other kids, even if he's not interested in them, being around other people is something that's hard for him but he'll need to get use to. Even if he side-plays with them, it's a start in the right direction.

Sixth, realize that he will probably never be 'normal' (which is overrated anyways). He may be funtional. Many great minds have actually been autistic (Einstein, Bill Gates, and Monet to name a few). Autism is a spectrum, some will never be able to function on there own, others grow up and even graduate from college and get married.

Lastly, being a parent is fustrating and of a child with autism even more so. I can say that therapy does help. My son still doesn't always play with other kids but he's talking more, he knows his letters, numbers, colors, and shapes. He had early intervention which started when he was 2 1/2 and it made a huge difference. Next year he'll be able to enter into a regular kindergarten classroom though he will still need speech therapy every week.

Sorry if this was a long winded post but I hope you find some of this helpful. I wish the best for both you and your son.

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I put an edit in my first post, he's in speech,OT and IBI biggrin
he goes to Daycare every morning so he can socialize, we also do swim therapy
I don't want him to be normal I love him the way he is, he is the perfect boy for me smile
He's come leaps and bounds from where he was when he first started showing signs
I went to work ding whatever I needed to do for him biggrin

[Miss Ruckus]

Chicken Zombie

Uh...my child is behind on five categories, including having a 15 out of 30 on cognitive abilities for a child that is almost three. They never diagnosed him, but they certainly proved it wasn't s**t like bad hearing or eyesight.

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Talk to your GP
see if you can get him to see a Developmental specialist
they might shed some light <3

[Miss Ruckus]

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Fun story,
Tonight I put my little man to bed...but ti was too quiet
He usually need about 40 mins out wind down time before sleep
I went to check on him
BABY POWDER EVERYWHERE!!
I couldn't help but to laugh, as soon as he saw me poke my head in
he jumped into bed and pretended to be sleeping
fake snore (that he learned from a baby bumblebee DVD) and all smile
He makes my heart smile

[nitznitz]

Miss Ruckus

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Thank you for taking the topic seriously smile
To answer your question he is considered Low Functioning right now but I work hard everyday to change it.I am having him enrolled in a special school next year that is better suited for his needs so he can thrive until he is ready to transition into a mainstream school. Right now it's his memory that amazes me, his retention is something I wish I had smile Any questions are perfectly acceptable.
It is a stressful situation to live with someone on the spectrum but there are some funny highs that make me smile....today my boy covered his room in baby powder...WHAT a mess!

It's nice to see you taking that sort of things with a smile. He's a lucky boy to have you, and I hope his memory will serve him well in life. biggrin

[Miss Ruckus]

nitznitz

Miss Ruckus

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Thank you for taking the topic seriously smile
To answer your question he is considered Low Functioning right now but I work hard everyday to change it.I am having him enrolled in a special school next year that is better suited for his needs so he can thrive until he is ready to transition into a mainstream school. Right now it's his memory that amazes me, his retention is something I wish I had smile Any questions are perfectly acceptable.
It is a stressful situation to live with someone on the spectrum but there are some funny highs that make me smile....today my boy covered his room in baby powder...WHAT a mess!

It's nice to see you taking that sort of things with a smile. He's a lucky boy to have you, and I hope his memory will serve him well in life. biggrin

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I don't always smile but that is parenthood
I smile because he is worth it, and I was blessed just to have him in the
first place <3

[Miss Ruckus]

Raven Winter

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I respect your opinion and thoughts in this post
There is one thing I just need to make a statement about
I don't brag about my sons accomplishments because he has autism
I brag about them because he is my son and I am proud of every little thing he does
and I will do the same for any other children I have it's part of parenthood.
That is all I had to say about that, I had a lot more things to say but I
didn't want to sound anymore judgy then I think this post is coming across
Again Thank you for your input biggrin

[Farmer Franklin]

Miss Ruckus

Raven Winter

I respect your opinion and thoughts in this post
There is one thing I just need to make a statement about
I don't brag about my sons accomplishments because he has autism
I brag about them because he is my son and I am proud of every little thing he does
and I will do the same for any other children I have it's part of parenthood.
That is all I had to say about that, I had a lot more things to say but I
didn't want to sound anymore judgy then I think this post is coming across
Again Thank you for your input biggrin

your kid sounds like he's cute and lucky to have a mom like you.

i liked raven's post. a lot. from what i have seen here, sounds like raven has gotten some crap for being who he is.

i get the impression that anyone with a mental illness or personal disorder is going to have a rough time of it trying to be social and fit in & if i read raven's comment right, it's not always the people who bully them, but also the people who get patronizing about it [i didn't read your posts as being patronizing but just being a mom btw].

this quote, too:

Raven Winter

We aren't autism; we're people. Just like you're people. Raising us isn't damage control. Befriending us isn't making contact with an utterly alien entity. Having a conversation with us isn't chatting with a brick wall.
Yeah, we're different in some ways, but in most fundamental ways, we're still the same.
I just want people to stop forgetting that.

got me thinking, who have i missed knowing because i didn't try to see the person behind the problems? deep stuff, man. good post raven dude.

[SpanishHeart27]

Miss Ruckus

SpanishHeart27

Miss Ruckus

яυcкυs sαчs...

Hello ladies and Gents
This topic may get ignored but I'd love there to be a place where we can openly discuss
Autism (the ASD Spectrum) Do you have it?
Does someone you know fall on the spectrum?
Have any stories?

My son is 3 and he falls on the spectrum, he is Non Verbal and
extremely anti social, it is both a blessing and the worst thing to ever happen
simultaneously. Please don't misunderstand this
I LOVE my son with all my heart and soul
but I hate Autism some days, it keeps him in a prison
and it kills my heart whenever he is crying and I can't for the life of me
figure out the cause, and he can't tell me either.
There are both happy and sad days
I write an honest blog about my life with my boy and
my hobby of Nail art (focusing on the nail art keeps my mind off the bad stuff)
I will be here for support on those bad days to answer questions
or even to have a laugh at the cute quirky things that happen
Peace and Love fellow Gaians
<3

This is my Blog

Yes, I was diagnosed when I was four years old. Before the APA classified it as ASD, I was in the category of PDD-NOS.

I couldn't articulate the thoughts in my head when I was young. I couldn't convey what I really meant to say. I was conscious of my surroundings and my thoughts. It felt like my mind and mouth were disengaged.

I attended speech therapy to get my words to form into sentences. It was tedious. At times, I became frustrated and I would cry. Despite the breakdowns, I kept practicing so I could find connection.

Even reading helped me. I read as much as I could (I still do). I looked up words in the dictionary to understand what they meant. I wanted to be able to communicate even if I wasn't great at it.

I also felt social rejection and the pain of isolation ached inside. I wanted to find social connection. Often, I was misunderstood. I learned to mimic others and read on social behavior so I could find my connection.

Eventually, I made friends with someone and I became excited to have one friend. Then I made more and I felt accomplished that I could establish that. However, it wasn't easy because there were bullies and users in my life and I was taken advantage of for not understanding how to avoid them.

I am in a relationship with someone who accepts this part of me, even though my neurological condition makes me quirky and weird. They love me for as I am. My wish is to make them happy and loved as they make me feel.

Sometimes this being a part of me, it feels like a blessing and other days a curse.

Even after learning how to socialize better, I struggle at times. It takes a lot of work and I need time to recharge. I had a hard time making eye contact but I got better at it even though I need to look away to break the intensity of making the effort.

So socializing is a challenge but I try to remember my advantages. Those are being able to focus for long periods of time, learn languages quickly, and being gifted at drawing.

The challenge I am working on now is to establish my independence to hold down a job. I am working with an agency that will help me get there.

A book called Working With Aspergers by Rudy Simone helped me understand the struggle how most people with aspergers or high functioning autism when it comes to the world of work.

As far as I know, it is a part of my life and I strive to a better person than I was yesterday.

~

I suggest when your son enters high school is to develop a work plan. The Developmental Disabilities Administration could help service to his needs.

Otherwise, I do wish you the best to get him through life.

There are a lot of challenges and rewards. It can be an experience, as a parent, that will make you stronger or become resentful. Take it one day at a time and don't give up.

яυcкυs sαчs...

Thank you for sharing your story, brought a warmth to my heart to hear from an older persons view
I believe My son may feel like he is trapped in a prison where he can't express himself...he's been in speech therapy for a little over a year now.
I will never give up on him, he is my heart and soul and I want only the best for him
and I strive everyday to give him every single possible opportunity I can

I am glad to hear you are committed and loving towards your son.

I hope you and your son are given support to grow into the best you both can be.

[Miss Ruckus]

Farmer Franklin

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He is cute, sometimes I think too cute
he can cute his way out of trouble
Hahaha

[Miss Ruckus]

SpanishHeart27

Miss Ruckus

SpanishHeart27

Miss Ruckus

яυcкυs sαчs...

Hello ladies and Gents
This topic may get ignored but I'd love there to be a place where we can openly discuss
Autism (the ASD Spectrum) Do you have it?
Does someone you know fall on the spectrum?
Have any stories?

My son is 3 and he falls on the spectrum, he is Non Verbal and
extremely anti social, it is both a blessing and the worst thing to ever happen
simultaneously. Please don't misunderstand this
I LOVE my son with all my heart and soul
but I hate Autism some days, it keeps him in a prison
and it kills my heart whenever he is crying and I can't for the life of me
figure out the cause, and he can't tell me either.
There are both happy and sad days
I write an honest blog about my life with my boy and
my hobby of Nail art (focusing on the nail art keeps my mind off the bad stuff)
I will be here for support on those bad days to answer questions
or even to have a laugh at the cute quirky things that happen
Peace and Love fellow Gaians
<3

This is my Blog

Yes, I was diagnosed when I was four years old. Before the APA classified it as ASD, I was in the category of PDD-NOS.

I couldn't articulate the thoughts in my head when I was young. I couldn't convey what I really meant to say. I was conscious of my surroundings and my thoughts. It felt like my mind and mouth were disengaged.

I attended speech therapy to get my words to form into sentences. It was tedious. At times, I became frustrated and I would cry. Despite the breakdowns, I kept practicing so I could find connection.

Even reading helped me. I read as much as I could (I still do). I looked up words in the dictionary to understand what they meant. I wanted to be able to communicate even if I wasn't great at it.

I also felt social rejection and the pain of isolation ached inside. I wanted to find social connection. Often, I was misunderstood. I learned to mimic others and read on social behavior so I could find my connection.

Eventually, I made friends with someone and I became excited to have one friend. Then I made more and I felt accomplished that I could establish that. However, it wasn't easy because there were bullies and users in my life and I was taken advantage of for not understanding how to avoid them.

I am in a relationship with someone who accepts this part of me, even though my neurological condition makes me quirky and weird. They love me for as I am. My wish is to make them happy and loved as they make me feel.

Sometimes this being a part of me, it feels like a blessing and other days a curse.

Even after learning how to socialize better, I struggle at times. It takes a lot of work and I need time to recharge. I had a hard time making eye contact but I got better at it even though I need to look away to break the intensity of making the effort.

So socializing is a challenge but I try to remember my advantages. Those are being able to focus for long periods of time, learn languages quickly, and being gifted at drawing.

The challenge I am working on now is to establish my independence to hold down a job. I am working with an agency that will help me get there.

A book called Working With Aspergers by Rudy Simone helped me understand the struggle how most people with aspergers or high functioning autism when it comes to the world of work.

As far as I know, it is a part of my life and I strive to a better person than I was yesterday.

~

I suggest when your son enters high school is to develop a work plan. The Developmental Disabilities Administration could help service to his needs.

Otherwise, I do wish you the best to get him through life.

There are a lot of challenges and rewards. It can be an experience, as a parent, that will make you stronger or become resentful. Take it one day at a time and don't give up.

яυcкυs sαчs...

Thank you for sharing your story, brought a warmth to my heart to hear from an older persons view
I believe My son may feel like he is trapped in a prison where he can't express himself...he's been in speech therapy for a little over a year now.
I will never give up on him, he is my heart and soul and I want only the best for him
and I strive everyday to give him every single possible opportunity I can

I am glad to hear you are committed and loving towards your son.

I hope you and your son are given support to grow into the best you both can be.

яυcкυs sαчs...

Thankfully I live in an area with a lot of
help and support. Tons of programs around just need to look in the right places

[II-Sketch I Book-II]

My youngest Nephew has autism, his parents take him to this special school for kids with autism, I don;t really see him that much so I don't really have a story (wish I did) I actually have learning Disability, and I'm trying to make a Children book for kids with disability's, this book is dedicated to him... heart it's called "Color My Voice" and focuses on children who have disability's in the school setting, though i'm still working on it...It actually very hard to be honest, BUT i'm gonna try my best!

Miss Ruckus

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Hello ladies and Gents
This topic may get ignored but I'd love there to be a place where we can openly discuss
Autism (the ASD Spectrum) Do you have it?
Does someone you know fall on the spectrum?
Have any stories?

My son is 3 and he falls on the spectrum, he is Non Verbal and
extremely anti social, it is both a blessing and the worst thing to ever happen
simultaneously. Please don't misunderstand this
I LOVE my son with all my heart and soul
but I hate Autism some days, it keeps him in a prison
and it kills my heart whenever he is crying and I can't for the life of me
figure out the cause, and he can't tell me either.
There are both happy and sad days.
I write an honest blog about my life with my boy and
my hobby of Nail art (focusing on the nail art keeps my mind off the bad stuff)
I will be here for support on those bad days to answer questions
or even to have a laugh at the cute quirky things that happen
Peace and Love fellow Gaians
<3

This is my Blog

BIG EDIT---
I don't think my son is just Autism...he is so many other things this is justa hot button topic...
secondly my son is in speech therapy, OT, IBI and I attend as many extra learning classes I can.
He attends Daycare and he is a good boy, not all days are bad..not all days are good it's a mix...
when I said share stories...Share good or bad ones...need a laugh or a cry we are here to support eachother...
I'm not in the dark about ASD at all, my son is my life!

[Miss Ruckus]

XxAmourLaArtsxX

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I would BUY that book
good on you for wanting to do that for him and for others
you rock!

[II-Sketch I Book-II]

Thank you very much!, I was just so frustrated that there aren't really any children s book focused on this subject..So I decided "hey I'm a writer and an Illustrator so I'll just make one myself!" hopefully this will be good enough to publish sweatdrop (not professionally but oh well gotta start somehow) 3nodding

Miss Ruckus

XxAmourLaArtsxX

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I would BUY that book
good on you for wanting to do that for him and for others
you rock!