NotAnUndercoverCop
This.
Yeah, I dated about three guys who were totally into the whole "threesome" thing.
And who would joke about me being with others girls; which I didn't find funny or sexy, for a lot of reasons.
Mostly because to me, I'd consider that cheating on my boyfriend.
Even if he doesn't.
I recently dated a much older guy who, when I made the joke, trying to gauge his reaction,
he was a little perturbed and asked why I thought it was okay.
He has the same understand that it IS cheating and it's not okay.
It's always nice to hear from men who've experienced it that they know what it's like,
because I think some guys joke about it because it's "cool" and "sexualized."
But they forget that there's an emotional bit to sex as well, and whether its with a girl or a guy,
it's still an act of intimacy.
yeah... She had a male friend since childhood who was gay (then bi then straight then bi now he's gay again). He has basically no concept of personal space, is very huggy with people and had the hots for me for a long time. She kept pestering me to "Try it" or at least make out with him. euugh...
It's nice to know at least some people take their relationships seriously. In this day and age of instant gratification, instant messaging and instant noodles, people treat relationships like things and things like people.
I don't find it "cool", I don't feel it's "ok", if you're bi but want a relationship with me, it won't work. I'm not going to go against the natural order of things. There are urges that she will find stronger than the link to commitment. I know a lot of women "don't know what they want", but bisexuality is an issue THEY have to work on, Not saying being bi is bad, just saying it's not good to do things in a relationship that only benefit one person but can harm the other.