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 Posted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 2:38 pm
My friend moved up North in Michigan and she was a very happy person and understood where you were coming from all the time.
She was talking to my other friend Gabby and she decided to tell her she was going to kill herself. As the conversation continued she told Gabby that she was just joking and did it because she was bored.
Her personaility did a 180 degree shuffle and would never say that normally.
How do I deal with that and should I be mad at her or compassionate for her sake?
Does anyone know how I could console her and make her feel better?
Has anyone experienced this with a friend of theirs?
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Posted: Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:40 pm
i would say to ask her about it. if she wants to share she will, if she does remind her that you love her and that you would be sad if she were gone.
i know what its like to lose the will to live. sometimes you just dont want to talk about s**t and get upset if people ask you about it. if the jokes continue and she wont confide in you or if what she confides in you is somthing that needs attention talk to a counciler about it. she'll be very angry at you but in the end it will be the best thing for her.
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Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2007 11:10 am
Take it seriously. Chances are someone won't joke about something like that. It's too serious a topic to kid around with. Watch her closely for awhile to see if her behaviour is out of character for her. Maybe she's letting herself go a bit when she used to take care of herself more. Could be wearing sweatpants and an old shirt when she used to wear nice jeans and clean, more new shirts. Might not be doing as well in school as she used to. She might be withdrawing more from events and friends or losing interest in things she used to love. These signs could be her trying to find herself while she grows up more but they certainly aren't things to ignore. If she's lost her appetite, grown unhealthy eating habits or any other concerning habits, then you really need to be concerned. If she doesn't want to talk about it then you need to seek outside and professional help. If it ends up not being as serious and that she isn't suicidal, then at least you were concerned enough to help. It's much better to have your friend angry with you than finding out she has committed suicide. Go on the internet to find out if there are any more symptoms to watch for and pay close attention to her behaviour and habits. Don't jump to conclusions too soon until you are certain that there are true symptoms of depression/suicidal thoughts. Good luck!
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Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2007 2:26 pm
Remember that: one does not simply joke about suicide. Your friend is still within safe zone because she didn't meant that seriously, but still, keep a close eye on her.
You could tell her not to do that ever again, because suicide is very serious business.
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Posted: Mon Mar 19, 2007 4:33 am
Statistically, 9 out of every ten suicidal attempts there are sighs. As everyone has stated watch the sighs. Statistics as well indicate that 1 out of every ten suicide attempts are talked about prior to the person attempting to take their life. Chances are because she is talking about it that she wont do it, no matter how serious she says she is. Some things to point out, dont ever dare someone who's comtemplating suicide, if they get really to the brink, make sure you get them talking to you and find out where the feelings are comming from. And the best thing of all, make sure that your there, not matter the distance, youll have their back in helping them through it all. when you deal with someone that is suicidal, stir clear of cliche's and jokes, it never helps the situation. the feeling of importance is usually the best weapon agianst suicide because suicide is driving by a lack of attention. also if she is talking about this, contact her parents, have them compassionately watch her and try to help her fit in to things that are of interest to her. sometime networking helps with decreasing that lack of attention!!!
Good luck! Godspeed be with you all!
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Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2007 2:20 am
no, but i think i may have been in her position.
i think its better you show compassion, tough love is bullshit. if you love someone, if you care about them, you'll help them. or do what ever you can to help them.
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Posted: Sun Oct 28, 2007 6:34 pm
well not a freind but me so i wouldnt really know sry
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