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 Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 9:23 am
Well, welcome to a rather mysterious subject, but it is something that has been on my mind lately, because of an incident that happened very close to home.
You see, just on Monday a classmate of mine was killed in a car accident. He had only had his license for two weeks, and it was the first time he has ever driven to school by himself. This tragedy was so sudden... In an instant, someone who was just sitting in my class last friday, a senior with hopes and dreams, was gone. Just like that.
The whole monday seemed so... surreal. Like it wasn't even a day of the week. A day that shouldn't have happened. This is why I was absent from Gaia yesterday.
However, his death did not really hit me until today, when we (my JROTC class) hung the flag at halfstaff (a position of the flag I'd never imagined seeing at my school) and later in my second period class, when his chair was empty, a bouquet of flowers sitting on his desk. It was today that it all became... real.
I didn't really know him that well; in fact we didn't get along often at all, but looking back, it doesn't really matter, does it? He had dreams. He loved sports. He wore kilts, just because he could. He was a trickster with a great sense of humor. And now... he's gone. Is that it?
At least he was kind enough to become an organ donor. He will help many people.
I'm learning how to deal with this, but I'm more worried about my classmates, many of whom haven't come this close to death before. However in our grief, the senior class has become closer, but I feel so detached from my younger friends, who did not know him as well.
You're welcome to answer if you'd like, but no one has to answer this. I just had to say it.
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Posted: Wed Mar 07, 2007 5:13 pm
Reading that just made me stop and think for 10 minutes. That's very profound, Jac.
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Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2007 11:02 am
sweatdrop Thanks [N]. Wednesday and today brought some more closure to all of this.
I had a very strange and amazing dream last night. Part of it was completely auditory - no colors, no black or white, nothing. Just sound. I heard my classmates talking to him and about him. No one was crying, or even melancholy at all. They were.. just talking to him.
Now comes the interesting part, all of which I learned this morning, after the dream:
On tuesday, after school, the hospital held a viewing of his body (Germans don't do open-casket feunerals for some reason) for three hours or so, and although I sadly could not go, many of the seniors went immediately, and after they recovered from the shock of seeing him dead, they sat around his body in a big circle and talked about him.
They were laughing at his jokes, talking to him and about him... Just bringing closure to it all.
What is really interesting is that some of the things that they said.. I heard in my dream, exactly as they said them.
....I know I might sound a little... crazy... but I think it was his ghost. I think he was telling me... that he heard us.
Telling some of my classmates about that dream... brought peace. Just knowing that I helped somehow, even though we didn't get along much in life... It's the best feeling in the world.
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Posted: Sun Mar 11, 2007 11:45 am
I'm glad you were able to find peace in that situation. That dream seems to be a fortunate miracle. :3
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Posted: Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:01 pm
Personally, it gave me goosebumps.
The story was very, very sad, happy and scary all at the same time.
I hope that his soul is at peace now that you helped him tell everyone that he heard what they all said.
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Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2007 4:11 am
What's strange is that it wasn't scary at all. In fact, I think we (my graduating class and himself) have really come together through all this. I feel like I'm closer to him now than I ever was when he was alive.
He messed with a couple computers earlier this week, and during a mass-service messed up the sound. Such a joker he is. xd
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Posted: Mon Mar 19, 2007 9:00 am
What do mean?
No offense, but he's dead isn't he?
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Posted: Tue Mar 20, 2007 2:07 pm
Oh, excuse me. sweatdrop Let me explain.
Because of all of this I've been naturally interested in that happens to us when we die and after we die, having not given it too much thought beforehand. I came across a book by Allison DuBois, who is probably one of the best mediums out there (there is actually a TV show based on her life and family, called Medium, if you've seen it). She is capable of receiving messages from the other side not only through dreams (like the one I had), but also though visions and sound.
Anyway, her book, We Are Their Heaven, explains that ghosts have an almost electric aura, and can sometimes manipulate electric currents (for example, a telephone call with no called on the other end might be a relative letting you know he or she is still around. There was one specific case in the book in which a dead teenager text messaged his mom after his death, twice!) This is why I talked about the computers and the sound.
Apparantly, members of family and friends stay with their loved ones, even after we die. (This includes animals too!)
He was not my friend, and certainly not a family member - more of a friendly acquaintance at best - so I don't think he visits me as urgently, now that everything's sunk in with most of us. He has a family to take care of, and I'll thank him when I get to the other side too.
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Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 11:49 pm
 She dreams.....
Oh geeze...
-faints-
 ...I am her Nightmare.
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Posted: Tue Apr 03, 2007 1:50 am
It goes to show how much someone means after thier gone. How powerful their presence was, and is.
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 12:39 pm
If there is anything I have learned from this, it is that we are all connected.
I went through a roller coaster last month. Some days were better, and some were awful. For the longest time I worried about my own friends, who are all beginning to drive. Our Relgabrix included. Sometimes it's still difficult. I wonder what he would be doing now, if he were still alive.
Time is so, so precious. So damn precious. And it can be gone in an instant. So when we live, we must strive to be our best.
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 7:47 pm
Jac E. If there is anything I have learned from this, it is that we are all connected.
I went through a roller coaster last month. Some days were better, and some were awful. For the longest time I worried about my own friends, who are all beginning to drive. Our Relgabrix included. Sometimes it's still difficult. I wonder what he would be doing now, if he were still alive.
Time is so, so precious. So damn precious. And it can be gone in an instant. So when we live, we must strive to be our best. I understand what you're going through. A girl who attends my school, an acquaintance of mine, died from a car accident. It was with bunch of friends going out on a Saturday night, to the movies and suddenly, crash. She was the only who died because she was the only one not wearing a seatbelt. I didn't know her well but it was the first time I have someone I knew has died. For a week most of the school seemed quieter than usual. I saw someone just collapse in sobs because of the pain. All I could think of if it was someone who was really close to me. I don't think I would be able to handle it. I was, and still am, terrified of my friends dying. For awhile I just couldn't stop worrying, when they didn't pick up the phone or if they were absent for more than one day, my mind would start thinking of the worst situation. Death will happen no matter what, people have to remember that hopefully that person moved on to a better place.
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 1:22 pm
Although I wouldn't wish this experience upon anyone, it is comforting to know that there are others out there with similar feelings.
I also learned, however, that we who are left behind must not dwell and fear the deaths of our friends. It is truly amazing what humans can - and do - endure. We have to keep going.
I used to believe in coincidences, before the accident.
The car that he died in was a rental car - that would have been mine, had we not decided to wait on a driver's license. I might have been the one driving that car, that was torn to shreds. I rode in that car about a year ago.
The other person involved in the accident, who thankfully survived, works for my Godmother, whom I live with.
And then I had the dream.
And there were so many other instances that were so obviously linked.
I used to believe in coincidences.
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Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 2:18 pm
I know things happen for a reason, but sometimes you just can't help feel as if you could've done something to prevent it. The girl I knew was a fabulous student and would have had a great future ahead of her. I pray nothing like that happens ever again but it will. It's the fact that I'm totally powerless to prevent it, if I could've just told the girl to put her seatbelt on, but no one can go back in time. I guess this is just an experience I just have to go through in life, just like everybody else.
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Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2007 7:46 pm
Wow. This topic has really got me thinking. I've been grieving the loss of someone, but now.. I feel comforted. Just considering all of this.
Thank you so very much. heart
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