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I have always had a strict rule with myself about dating, no one who is closer to my mom's age than to my age. I spend a lot of time with people older than myself, I find them easier to talk to. I am also used to be flirted with by guys who could be my father. It's just one of those things I chalk up to being slightly attractive and intelligent.

But, and there is always a but isn't there?, I recently started to have feelings for a friend of mine who is 20 years older than me. Disclaimer: I am 24.

We've been friends for almost 3 years now, and we talk about intimate things all the time. The "liking each other" issue never came up until recently. It was just never a thing. But we started talking a little bit more than normal and I caught a few subtle hints he was throwing my way.

So we decided to try it out, and we are absolutely intoxicated with each other. It's mind blowing. We haven't done anything more than just talk on the phone. I find myself connecting to him in ways that I have never connected with anyone.

But I can't help but feel like the age difference is going to be a negative factor. Has anyone had similar experiences? Do you think that age really matters?

I am very ..eh.. when it comes to age. I pay close attention to it, and make sure I stay within a 3-5 year age difference. Outside of that, I don't feel comfortable, just because of the things you see involving older people with younger people. I would like to be with someone around my own age.

Because you are not a minor, I don't believe that there is anything morally wrong with loving someone else, regardless of their age. Go for it if you care about them.