What are you, and are you out?

[vdszbz]

I consider myself a bi-romantic asexual. I like men and women, but I don't feel sexual attraction and really have no sex drive. I'm not a sexual person in the least. I rather go to sleep or eat cookie dough than have sex.

I'm out to a few people, but not family. My boyfriend knows I'm asexual now (finally told him), but not about the bi part. I was thinking of coming out completely on national coming out day (months away) so I can finally post "this chick digs chicks" and other LGBT-type stuff on my Facebook profile. Though I think I post enough already because a few of my bi female friends have hit on me razz the gaydar is strong with us queers.

Anyway, what about you all?  

[Fuit Gummy]

I came out a long time ago.
I told everyone who knew me personally, that I wasn't straight.

Something like, "Dude, I'm not even straight. Not bi. Not a lesbian.
I just, like, like who I like."

Lol.

I don't know what I am exactly, I just say pansexual.
I like boys, girls, trans, ect. based on personality. BUT, I haven't been
attracted to anyone in 6 years, not romantically nor sexually.
Feelings just don't develop anymore, so it's kind of like I don't have
a sexuality.

If that makes any sense.

 

[colon bracket]

I am bisexual, but not many people know that about me.

If someone were to ask I would tell them, but I don't talk about it unless provoked. Partly because I have been with my boyfriend for 7+ years, and partly because I feel that my sexuality is nobody's business but my own.  

[Kuro the Unicorn]

I'm Pansexual. I'm out to my friends and parents, but not to anyone else. I'm thinking I should tell my brother. In fact, I might go do that right now. I don't know. Anyway, I'm pretty sure my Dad's side of the family would just accept it and move on, but my Mom's side... not so much.

Either way, if someone asks I'm likely to tell them, because after all it shouldn't be the huge deal that it is right now.  

[ShalomTheStargazer]

I'm genderfluid and homoflexible/lesbian (there's really only one exception, but because he's my fiance, worth noting). I guess I'm somewhat out. It's kinda hard to hide the "gender" aspect (I am genderfluid and make no effort to hide it) but I don't introduce myself as "Hi, I'm Hunter, I'm genderfluid/genderqueer"...some people (including most of my family) think of me as a very androgynous woman, and because they have prejudices of their own, I let them go on that. If someone asks, though, I will tell them, honestly, that I am genderfluid.

With sexuality it's a bit more complicated. I came out lesbian on a pretty complete scale in early adolescence. Later on, when my family re-entered the picture (I was a foster) I told some of them the truth and others I tactfully chose to hide it from. When I was 18, there was the additional complication that I began dating my now-fiance, who is a cisgendered male...so a lot of people, who had come to know me as a lesbian, were a bit confused. Like "Lesbian? Doesn't that mean you ******** girls and don't go for guys?"

I honestly still have no interest in guys, sexually or romantically, other than my fiance. With sex, I'll have sex with him and enjoy it, but straight porn just kinda grosses me out. Lesbian porn I'm fine with, but introduce a p***s into the porn and I'm pretty quick to turn it off. But my fiance is just fine as a cisgendered male with a p***s. It's confusing. Like I'm still lesbian, he's just the exception? I don't know. But for those who needed a firm answer, I had to readjust my stance and "come out again" as homoflexible.

I wouldn't even bother putting labels on it if everyone in my world didn't seem so interested...I am myself, I like who I like, I love who I love, I ******** who I ********. I don't see how it matters to anyone I am not having sex with, and if I'm going to have sex with someone, I get their permission first, so you won't ******** me if you don't want to. I came out as lesbian when I was younger so that guys would know not to hit on me (they still did...so much for that...) and girls would be aware I might hit on them. But now that I'm engaged it doesn't really seem that big a deal...I'm with someone for life, not like I'm gonna go after anyone else.  

[rogue starlight]

I'm genderfluid, asexual (?)romantic. The only problem of putting a prefix to my preference is, I'm mostly attracted to those who identify as male. But I'm also attracted to androgynous-looking people, and to my friend (the only female I've ever been attracted to). So, perhaps panromantic?

I'm out to three of my friends, and I've come out as asexual to my boyfriend, but I've never talked about my gender identity to him yet. And I'm kinda afraid to come out to my mom, because when I was telling her how two of my friends that she had met previously were currently transitioning, she got all... weird, and creeped out...  

[LoricWarrior]

I'm Pansexual, and only out to a few people. I really don't mind people knowing, it's only my fear of rejection that keeps me from telling people more.  

[WindWife]

Out to very few people in my real life world as "pansexual" I guess?
Though honestly I don't possess much of a sexual drive at all.
I came out to my mother when I was a bit younger as "not straight" which resulted in not so good words and years of hostility from her directed to me.
So now I just don't talk about it with my family.
But to anyone else- I like who I like, be you male, female, trans, any sexual orientation. Pretty much as long as the person is alive and they're decent people there's a possibility I'll like them.

 

[Perpetual Laser Carnage]

I'm a pansexual that settles for the bisexual tag instead of explaining it to people.
Most of my friends know but since I haven't really dated in awhile and I'm not very socially connected with the local queer community so a lot of people assume I'm straight until I do something ~gay~. I didn't come out in my hometown or to my family because I felt like it would cause an unnecessary amount of drama and frankly I just don't care what people I went to high school think about whose butt I'm touching.  

[Perpetual Laser Carnage]

shea the anti-venom

i am out as trans,and catching s**t from some members of my family for it,oh well their a drunk so what does their opinion count for.

I'm sorry you have to put up with that. I hope you're getting lots of support from your friends and keeping your spirits up.  

[Celestial Lunacy]

I'm trans, mtf, and still in the closet. Well, mostly. Ive come out to 4 people, 3 of which barely talked to me anymore afterwards, and they were my best friends.

Im actually considering telling my new best friends tomorrow night when i have them over, because despite knowing them a shorter time i feel closer to them then anyone else ive ever known, if that makes sense? It actually feels wierd to think its been just over a year. But I'm... really nervous about it? Because it was also a year ago i told my former best friends and Im loathe to go through that again. Im also not sure how to word it? Ive never really known how to tell people?

But... erm yes, back on topic, trans, mostly in the closet  

[Derailing]

I've told a few friends/people before that I could confide in (maybe 3-5 people total). However, I haven't really came out to any of my family member since they all seem to make fun of or be uncomfortable with homosexuality. :"(  

[Dark_Contortion]

I identify myself as a lesbian and I was born this way. I've always had this sense that I liked girls more than boys, and I didn't really like girly things as a child. I cried when my mom made me wear frilly things to school and made me wear bows in my hair. I've never had an attraction to boys either, I grew up in a loving home so I didn't know it was wrong, but I knew it wasn't "normal." When I was 11 I analyzed it further and found out what I was, so when I was 12 I came out to my sister. She was ok with it but didn't know what a lesbian was. Then at 13 I came out to my mother and she's also ok with it. I still have yet to come out to my stepdad but it's not as easy as I want it to be...