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 Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2012 1:31 pm
Okay, so I'm the youngest sibling, and I suffer from 'Being Bossed Around' Itus.
My older brother who is 6 years older than me never bossed me around, in fact me and him are like best friends. To my dismay, he's in the Air Force base in Missouri.
My sister who is 4 years older than me is extremely bossy. I do everything for her. Me saying No is not enough. Like an example, during the winter months I start her car. I fix her lunch, I do her laundry. Today however I am extremely aggravated by it. I make sweet tea, and I don't mind doing it every now and then, but she drinks it all in one day, and forces me to make it. My mom doesn't do anything about it. I'm just so fed up. -_-
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Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2012 2:05 pm
Fūma Kotarō and Tsuruhime…
so hold your ground and tell her that you're her sister, not her slave, so do her own damn work.
seriously emotion_eyebrow
Bestest/craziest/strangest couple ever
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Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2012 2:12 pm
Kitalpha Hart Fūma Kotarō and Tsuruhime…
so hold your ground and tell her that you're her sister, not her slave, so do her own damn work.
seriously emotion_eyebrow
Bestest/craziest/strangest couple ever If it was that easy, I would have done that a lot sooner. -_-
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Posted: Mon Aug 20, 2012 10:16 am
XoX-Chocolate Cookiez-XoX Kitalpha Hart Fūma Kotarō and Tsuruhime…
so hold your ground and tell her that you're her sister, not her slave, so do her own damn work.
seriously emotion_eyebrow
Bestest/craziest/strangest couple ever If it was that easy, I would have done that a lot sooner. -_- Fūma Kotarō and Tsuruhime…
grow a backbone and do it, then
Bestest/craziest/strangest couple ever
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Posted: Mon Aug 20, 2012 10:37 am
If you're old enough to be on this site, you're old enough to say "No." No rudeness, no sneering, no hostility, simply "No," when she demands you do something for her.
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Posted: Mon Aug 20, 2012 10:42 am
XoX-Chocolate Cookiez-XoX
It's tough to say no to a sibling, especially when they're older than you and are in the habit of ordering you around. The only thing that I can suggest besides simply holding your ground is to talk to your mom and ask her to say something. If that doesn't work, you could always try talking to your sister and telling her that you don't appreciate being treated the way you are. When you do say no, take Gigi Deveraux's advice and do it levelly, without trying to take revenge or teach her a lesson.
Best of luck to you.
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Irako of the Desert Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Oct 09, 2012 9:45 pm
You gotta be firm with chicks like that.
Go up to her, and politely say, "If you don't cut this s**t out, I'll kick you in the uterus so hard you will cough up a fetus you didn't even know you had."
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Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2012 4:36 pm
I agree with Kitalpha Hart on this one. You're her sister, not her slave. Your sister can do s**t herself. I really agree with her; Grow a back-bone and do it! Stand up for yourself! You're old enough to go on Gaia, which means you're old enough to say no.
But then again, she IS your sister, and it's tough. But I got over that part and did it. So if I can do it, you can do it! Go with Irako's plan! Try talking to your mom about it. If that doesn't work, talk to your sister and stand up for yourself. No violence, no making bossy demands like your sister does, just try and do it without that "Revenge" intention. smile
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Posted: Wed Nov 07, 2012 7:27 am
Just be honest and sharp, and try and keep it short like:
'This might sound strange but I realized that I respect myself too much to allow myself to be your personal slave. Live your own life. I'm not your dog.'
I find the smaller the speech, the greater the impact. 'She's your sister' be that isn't an excuse. It's straight up harassment. Good luck.
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Posted: Sat Nov 17, 2012 7:18 am
I was in a similar position with my sister once, so I know how you feel. Try finding out why you find it so hard to say no to her. Is it simply that she's our sister and you feel some misguided sense of loyalty to her, or is there some other reason? In my case, because of the situation my sister held a lot of power over me and because of that I felt like I couldn't tell her no. If that's the case, you might need to figure out how to work around her. My sister was basically supporting me because my mom was unable to. I ended up moving out and living with another relative until I could live on my own. My sister was angry at me for a while, mostly because right before I left I let it all loose and told her, in graphic terms what I thought of her and why I was moving out, but I have a much better relationship with her now.
So, yeah, the best thing for you to do is figure out why you don't want to tell her no, fix that, then tell her no.
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Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2012 7:45 am
I have to agree with the opinion of growing a back bone and saying no, and sticking to the not doing what she ordered you to do after you said no. You are not her slave. You should stand up to her.
So stop bitching about it and do something if you don't like it.
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Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2012 5:08 pm
My sister did the same except at work. She always made me do the BS work that she didn't want to do and knew I couldn't say no because she was my supervisor. But you have options, once you start saying no then she'll know its going to be harder to get you to do things for her if at all.
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Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2012 5:14 pm
i sympathize with you on this subject. I hope that things get better with your sister.
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