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 Posted: Fri May 27, 2011 2:04 pm
Hello! My name is Shade and i'm having a dilemma with my seme. Here is the background story....
I have know my seme for seven years. We grew up together and became amazing friends. She and I used to hang out all the time, running around as kids without a care in the world. A year ago she decided to become my seme and I loved it! But you all know as time goes on, people change. My seme is a chibi seme with a raging attitude. She is totally on the males side and is completely straight... (I swear she is a male! shes as tough as nails!) And as you can tell i'm an Asexual Innocent Uke. weird huh? no sex for me please! T.T. But anyway, getting to the dilemma and the reason i'm reaching out is because i think i'm doing something wrong! or not..maybe...WHATEVER THE CAUSE IS... i'm losing her as a seme and a friend. We aren't that close anymore and we are always arguing. I know this is tough to answer, but hearing some opinions from some seme or uke out there with a similar issue... it would be a great help! because... i'm sad. I mean, i love her... but she isn't acting like my seme at all! it makes me so mad! all i want is attention and she doesn't do ANYTHING ANYMORE! she wont even cuddle T.T i dont care if shes straight! I WANT TO CUDDLE!
~thank you for reading my rant and i hope to have some good answers! <3
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Posted: Fri May 27, 2011 2:53 pm
not to be nosy but what were you arguing about
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 10:00 am
Heh, well, we fight about alot of things. I'm usually the bad guy in are arguments because i get really jealous when she talks to other people in a flirty way. The only thing i want is attention, thats it... and i eh.. i'm very possessive.... so i ehh, -twirls fingers- want all the attention to myself. ^^" -sigh- but anyway... i guess the main thing i really want answered is... do I stop hurting myself over being her uke? as in... should i just stop being her uke all together. Its a painful relationship >.> and eh, she doesnt seem like she cares anymore... GAH! i'm getting all worked up over here! T.T This is hard to try and explain because none of you know the whole story of my life and blahhh! ._." eh... help?
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 7:00 am
i understand how painful it is for you...
but i honestly think you should move on, but if you move on, you might not find someone as special
what i'm saying is that you should get someone who cares alot about you
it's true that some people dont feel as much chemistry as they use to
it's for you to decide on your life
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 6:39 pm
Aww! thank you for your advice! it does seem scary though... to let go of something like that... i mean, its going to be really really hard to find another seme. But i feel like it would be worth the pain going away, to make such a scary leap! and maybe she would be happy too, since i wouldn't yell at her for flirting with guys and i wouldn't be so mad at her all the time! THANK YOU THANK YOU SOO MUCH!
If anyone else has advice too, dont hesitate to write! i love to hear other peoples advice!
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2011 8:53 am
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2011 4:23 pm
You and I are likely the same type of Uke. Whenever I get close to someone in a romantic way, I fear that break up if/when it's coming, which always ******** it up and I get possessive and clingy because I want to "keep" them. I decided to just stay alone, because I don't want to be a jerk like that, it's just my subconscious thought process is affected by my "Avoidant personality disorder."
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2011 4:40 pm
ohh, so you kinda understand me! its true, i'm very very possessive and clingy... i get jealous over the stupidest things... and i fight alot with her. your saying i should just walk away from it now, huh? because i do understand that. i feel bad because i'm taking away her freedom to have friends and even date... i feel like its wrong to be the uke of a seme who's dating someone, she isn't dating anyone... but i think she wants to, that's why i'm here asking if i should just break it off... she doesn't like my attention... -sighs sadly- uhgg! this is so aggrivating!
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2011 10:30 pm
Shade-Innocent-Uke ohh, so you kinda understand me! its true, i'm very very possessive and clingy... i get jealous over the stupidest things... and i fight alot with her. your saying i should just walk away from it now, huh? because i do understand that. i feel bad because i'm taking away her freedom to have friends and even date... i feel like its wrong to be the uke of a seme who's dating someone, she isn't dating anyone... but i think she wants to, that's why i'm here asking if i should just break it off... she doesn't like my attention... -sighs sadly- uhgg! this is so aggrivating! Break up with her, tell her that you understand you've been too clingy and possessive, and tell her that you want to break it off before it gets to where you could not longer even be friends.
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Posted: Tue May 31, 2011 4:58 pm
You have a really good point, i should stop being her uke. its going to shatter my little heart, but i'll talk to her the next time i see her. I dont believe in giving such news over the Internet. I'll be sure to update what happens when i tell her! Thank you guys! it probably wont be for a while until i see her next, so i will take any more advice happily! xp
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Posted: Tue May 31, 2011 9:00 pm
All I can do is wish you good luck, and I will.
-crosses fingers that it goes well-
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