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 Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 7:16 am
She likes to try and get me involved in business that is not my own. Or tell me information I don't need to know.
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 8:37 am
sorry. My mom is kinda a nut job, we don't really have anything in common or get along...or talk too much. She does make me feel guilty I don't call enough, but she never calls me. I totally get the deal with not getting along with parents!
Sadly my Mom is depressed, an alcoholic, and a gambling adict, slowly bankrupting all they have saved up years for. She got really bad since her mom (my grandma) died several years ago now. She was left about 100K from her and gambled it all away real fast and since she got used to goign through so much more money then she'd had before, she started draining everything else. She is also (absolutely NO exaggeration here either) the MOST negative person you have ever met. I can't stand that sort of negativity to begin with, I am generally a glass is half full, very positive, find the silver lining sort of person, and she is the complete opposite.
She has lamely attempted to commit suicide (not very serious attempts) multiple times, and watches that show about killing your spouse all the time, and my Dad has told me he is actually and seriously afraid she will try to kill him sometime, he sleeps lightly. They haven't got along for years, because she is such a b***h and I think he should leave her, but he wont.I can't believe she has any friends left, but apparently she has a few, I just don't get why you'd want to be around someone who has something negative to say about everyone and everything...you have plans to go do something? She has a reason that is lame...
I am trying relaly hard to remember to call more and be kind to her, I don't want ot have any regrets if she dies, but we haven't ever been close in my life and she used to be much more stable when I was growing up than she is now. She is 60-something (maybe 64? I have no clue) and with her addictions and smoking like she does, I can't imagine she'll live a long life. She isn't in poor health now, if you don't count mentally.
Wow, apparently this topic struck a nerve with me, sorry for going all off.
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 10:54 am
My mom left and wont give me her phone number
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 11:00 am
No worries, I did bring it up! heart I'm sorry you 've had a rough time with her. Sounds a million times worse than my own mom, but I do sympathize.
My mom is crazy too, she was even locked up on a psych ward for a while. She had a total personality transplant, She isn't the same woman who raised me. I find her petty and difficult now a lot of the time. She is better now than 5 years ago, but she still won't let the past go. I have no patience for her weepy ways. I also hate it when the topic of my father comes up. They divorced when I was well out of my teen years. And now at almost 29, I just fail to see how their 6-7 year old divorce concerns me in any way.
I look forward to putting some space in between us. I think it's unnatural for me to be living with her so long. Will probably solve all my problems with her if I only saw her once a year or so, lol.
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 11:06 am
Wow, Ted, that so sucks, I am really sorry. I dont want to sound like a psych here, but how are you doing about that?
Zath, Mom issues are tough, no doubt. I hope it gets better for you, I really do, she probably feels she can share more with you now the older you get and whatnot...
OH! She's prolly menopausal too!
I get along with my kids awesomely, my oldest (16) is almost like a best friend, but I still am parental when needed. I really hope that never changes. I didn't get along with my mom when I was young either
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 1:31 pm
I've been lucky - my mom has pretty much always been my best friend (while still being my mother). She always listens to me, and hears what I'm saying , blah blah blah.
I just feel that I'm doing so much bad to her. sad
She loves me so much, but can't do anything about my medical problems. She sees me at my worst and has to watch, helplessly, as I go through so much pain in my life (both physical and emotional).
The things that hurt me, the things I hate in my life - hurt her too.
I wish I could move away, she wishes I could go off on my own...
But I can't and it hurts - and it hurts her too...
She's gone through so much with me, I wish she didn't have to. sad
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 8:15 pm
Naito_Mitsukai She loves me so much, but can't do anything about my medical problems. She sees me at my worst and has to watch, helplessly, as I go through so much pain in my life (both physical and emotional). sad Your medical problems are "doing anything bad to her" and you need to not look at it that way. I think it's wonderful you get along with her so well. Can I ask what your issues are, or it is too sensitive a topic? I don't wanna be gauche, but I am curious.
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 8:26 pm
Aoife Naito_Mitsukai She loves me so much, but can't do anything about my medical problems. She sees me at my worst and has to watch, helplessly, as I go through so much pain in my life (both physical and emotional). sad Your medical problems are "doing anything bad to her" and you need to not look at it that way. I think it's wonderful you get along with her so well. Can I ask what your issues are, or it is too sensitive a topic? I don't wanna be gauche, but I am curious. They do though. I realize that it's 'all part of being a parent' - but it still sucks, And still hurts her. sad You can ask - and I will try to remember to explain to you at a future date. It's not so much 'sensitive', as just energy-consuming to explain. It has no diagnosis as of yet - making it 10x harder both to deal with and explain. But Aaaaanyways. sweatdrop I've been blessed with incredible parents. I only wish they could have been blessed with a healthy daughter. sad
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 11:01 am
Aoife Wow, Ted, that so sucks, I am really sorry. I dont want to sound like a psych here, but how are you doing about that? Zath, Mom issues are tough, no doubt. I hope it gets better for you, I really do, she probably feels she can share more with you now the older you get and whatnot... OH! She's prolly menopausal too! I get along with my kids awesomely, my oldest (16) is almost like a best friend, but I still am parental when needed. I really hope that never changes. I didn't get along with my mom when I was young either It was hardat first, supporting myself, paying bills and all, but now that I'm financially caught up it's a bit of a relief, my mom and i got along maybe once a month neutral , and it';s not the first decision shes made to ******** me over.
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 11:36 am
My mom was down in the dumnps when one of her sisters died. Along with her getting surgery which nearly killed her because the doctors didn't know what they were doing. But she is a million times better now than she was years ago, playing videogames, hanging out, etc...
The only family member I have a problem with is my brother. We all used to get along really well until about a couple of years ago when he met this girl. My sister and I did get along with this girl even though she was very annoying. He now thinks that we only contact him when he has something and acts like the whole world is after him. No matter what you tell him it goes from one ear to another. I have told him off a couple of times while my sister doesn't say anything, which is understandable. He's very complicated now. I try not to talk to him too much as he starts to get depressing. Ugh!h
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 5:21 pm
Ted D Ber It was hardat first, supporting myself, paying bills and all, but now that I'm financially caught up it's a bit of a relief, my mom and i got along maybe once a month neutral , and it';s not the first decision shes made to ******** me over. *huggles* I'm glad things are working for your, Teddy! <3
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 9:58 pm
Ted D Ber It was hardat first, supporting myself, paying bills and all, but now that I'm financially caught up it's a bit of a relief, my mom and i got along maybe once a month neutral , and it';s not the first decision shes made to ******** me over. I am glad you are able to get by now, but I hope that you aren't left bitter and scarred over this. Parents can so mess with us just by being selfish. jupiter, I hope that eventually you and your brother get along again. Sometimes siblings go through stuff like that and it gets better and sometimes it doesn't, but I really hope it does for you. My husband and his brother never speak. I think the last time they did was 3 years ago, not from any fight, his bro is just...weird or something and has completely distanced himself from the family.
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Posted: Mon Feb 28, 2011 9:50 pm
Now that you mention that it is true about siblings going through some stuff. My mother doesn't speak to her sisters or brothers too much, except for one which they talk almost everyday. I have no clue why exactly. Your husbands brother sounds like my brother with the distancing himself away from the family. It is weird indeed.
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Posted: Sun Mar 06, 2011 9:34 pm
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Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 9:18 am
At this very moment, my mother is tearing apart a couch SHE doesn't like without having asked me or the hubby first. I REFUSE to help because I think it is a stupid idea and I am already tired of her bitchyness and she only got here yesterday. She has no respect for my boundaries unless Brad is here to growl at her. This is SO annoying!
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