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For those of you who read the thread about my dad. You all agreed that was extremely low. But where do I go from here? Like I have no respect for him and can't stand to look at him much less talk to him. My mom won't leave him. She's defending him and saying that I'm unapproachable and I'm too hard on people and I'm too emotional. Yes I'm all these bad things and my dad is a good guy that just gets drunk and over dramatic. That her issues with him are none of my business but my lack of a relationship with him affects everyone. And I need to forgive him and just move on.

Seriously? She's on his side? When he said he'd rather die than live the rest of his life with his fat wife. I"M the bad guy?

Thats not fair!!!!Your dad is a tight a** and needs help!!!!! That is not fair to you or your mommy!!!!!!! scream scream scream scream scream scream scream scream

i would just say ******** it.
Your dad is a douche end of story if your mom fails to realize that then it's her problem not yours.

You don't have to like him if you don't want too.

Gabrielle_AnimalLuver

For those of you who read the thread about my dad. You all agreed that was extremely low. But where do I go from here? Like I have no respect for him and can't stand to look at him much less talk to him. My mom won't leave him. She's defending him and saying that I'm unapproachable and I'm too hard on people and I'm too emotional. Yes I'm all these bad things and my dad is a good guy that just gets drunk and over dramatic. That her issues with him are none of my business but my lack of a relationship with him affects everyone. And I need to forgive him and just move on.

Seriously? She's on his side? When he said he'd rather die than live the rest of his life with his fat wife. I"M the bad guy?

It sounds like your mom is still very much in love with your dad, and therefore doesn't want to see that he's not exactly the guy she met back when.
My parents were arguing a few years back, and they NEVER wanted to hear what the 'kid' had to say. at least in my case, they thought that just because i was a teenager meant that I knew nothing about anything. It's really irritating to feel like you're the only person who really sees how things are, and to be told that you're wrong, or overreacting, or something.
I'm the kind of person that doesn't stay attached easily, so in my case I just said '******** it' and started volunteering at an animal shelter, and spending lots of time with headphones.
I seriously doubt you're like that, but i would still suggest picking up a hobby of some kind? you can't exactly change what your parents will think/feel/say, but it won't feel so overwhelming and aggravating if you're not faced with it all the time.
turning away and ignoring it probably doesn't sound right, but there's not really much else you can do.

*I suggested a marriage counselor to my parents once. First I was screamed at for 'being nosey' (even though we have a 2 story house+basement, and i heard them from the basement yelling at each other in my room on the 2nd floor stare ), but they eventually went to see one. It kinda helped, but they ultimately agreed that counseling was dumb and worked it out themselves.*

There's probably not much you can do at this point, since you sorta need to be at their mercy until you can afford to move out on your own. But it seems like maybe the problem is your father's alcoholism? Is he like that when he doesn't drink?