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 Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 11:20 pm
A common occurrence in aggressive Aspies is what they call Rage Episodes, where Aspies of all ages fall into temper tantrums and have trouble emotionally and physically calming down even after they've mentally realized what they are doing isn't rational.
About 5 minutes ago I went into a rage episode over a stupid thing. We were going to stop off at Blockbuster to rent a movie and I was squeaking a dog toy the entire time. My mom was driving and drove home without stopping for the movie. When we got home I told her we didn't get the movie and she told me the toy was annoying her and she wanted to go home as soon as possible. I flipped and started incessantly squeaking the dog toy, following her throughout the house, banging on the walls, and shrieking as has I could. As a 16-year-old, I look back and realize how childish that was. I am, however, proud that I managed to immediately calm down the minute I "came back" to common sense thinking. In the past I would scream hysterically at the witness that I "don't want to be mad anymore! Why can't I just calm down?"
Have any of you ever gone into rage episodes? Are you willing to talk about it?
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Posted: Thu Aug 26, 2010 9:28 pm
Skrapz A common occurrence in aggressive Aspies is what they call Rage Episodes, where Aspies of all ages fall into temper tantrums and have trouble emotionally and physically calming down even after they've mentally realized what they are doing isn't rational. About 5 minutes ago I went into a rage episode over a stupid thing. We were going to stop off at Blockbuster to rent a movie and I was squeaking a dog toy the entire time. My mom was driving and drove home without stopping for the movie. When we got home I told her we didn't get the movie and she told me the toy was annoying her and she wanted to go home as soon as possible. I flipped and started incessantly squeaking the dog toy, following her throughout the house, banging on the walls, and shrieking as has I could. As a 16-year-old, I look back and realize how childish that was. I am, however, proud that I managed to immediately calm down the minute I "came back" to common sense thinking. In the past I would scream hysterically at the witness that I "don't want to be mad anymore! Why can't I just calm down?" Have any of you ever gone into rage episodes? Are you willing to talk about it? Currently we are experiencing rage episodes or we call the "meltdowns" with our son Damon, who is 7. It seems like a lot of it is sensory and anxiety driven. Right now we are working to get him reevaluated with school and getting him into therapy for it. Damon seems to have more meltdowns at school where the routine changes a lot. The only example I've experienced thus far has been when we were at church. I was called to the children's church room because Damon and his little brother were fighting. When I got there I learned that Damon hit his brother and they were really disrupting children's church. So, I told both boys that they would have to come sit with me. Damon exploded into a huge meltdown. He threw himself down on the sidewalk swinging his head backwards. I was afraid he would smack his head on the concrete so I held him by the arm. Suddenly he latched onto my leg and tried to bite and punch me. The whole time he was screaming and crying, and I was yelling STOP STOP! He was only out of control for a couple of minutes luckily. I told him we were leaving, and was able to get him into the car.
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Posted: Fri Aug 27, 2010 4:39 pm
I've had "rage" episodes, but they wouldn't be considered temper tantrums. Every time I am angry, I can control it. However, sometimes I have these bursts of rage that keep me from being rational. I will temporarily explode and go into these long, drawn out descriptions of gory imagery. While seeing these images brought into real life would likely disgust me, I have nothing wrong with most written descriptions. At times, I can be affected by them, such as when a disease is described or visually seen in my mind. However, gory descriptions typically do not bother me and therefore I normally explode with them when enraged.
Yes, I can control my anger, but it's more of me being able to control where it's seen; for example, I cannot control my rage to the point I don't feel any at all. At times, I am overcome by so much rage, I have to force myself to get off the Internet. Consequently, most people don't see the results of my "anger" but merely hear about it. I've gotten these huge gory images in my head, yet no one has really seen me describe them. I just sort of type them up in a document, plan to reveal them, but out of laziness never actually finish the short story. Most of the time I also lose interest in continuing the story, because I'm not even angry anymore.
Again, I have rage episodes, but they aren't temper tantrums. Though, if I were to voice these in real life, I suppose they would be. XP
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Posted: Fri Sep 03, 2010 10:01 pm
I really appreciate you guys talking about this because it helps me gain some insight to what my son might be going through mentally when he's going through an episode. He's been having a lot of trouble with raging at school lately.
Has anyone noticed something in particular that sets you off? Or does it just happen at random? I ask because it's hard to get logical info from my 7 year old son. He can't tell me that he was feeling really anxious or overwhelmed about something, or if he was just having a bad day. He just says that he got mad.
Also, I think pretty much every one has a hard time being rational when they're mad. For me, I just have to walk away from something that upsets me too much. Then when I calm down I can come back and deal with it better. That's my coping mechanism anyway. razz
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Posted: Fri Sep 03, 2010 11:05 pm
Well, your son is only seven years old, so there isn't much I can say about why he could be angry. The environment itself could just be ticking him off, particularly if he tends to get hot easily. Even a voice could make him angry. The teacher himself/herself could be contributing. There's no true way to determine what angers him if he isn't quite sure what to tell you.'
Being judged sets me off more than anything.
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2010 12:28 am
Maybe it is something at school. A Teacher or other students? If he is sensitive to the temperature maybe that might be part of it. I don't really know.
I myself have not really experienced any rage episodes that I know of. I rarely get really angry or upset. If something annoys me or frustrates me I will get frustrated, but stay calm. Also I like having a routine and schedule to follow and if either one ends up getting changed this bothers me, but I get through it calmly. I would like to if this is common or not also if it is healthy to be like this.
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Posted: Sat Sep 18, 2010 1:53 pm
Thanks guys. I'm thinking part of his frustration at school is sensory stuff. He gets overloaded in crowds of people, like when everyone gets let out of class and flood the hallways. His class is also fairly large for special ed, and there are only 2 teachers in the class. So that could be causing some anxiety for him.
It's just hard because he's only 7 and it's not like he can just tell me exactly what's wrong. Figuring out how to calm him down is a challenge as well.
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Posted: Sun Sep 19, 2010 10:40 pm
I had quite a few of those but there was this one episode where I broke a window.
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Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 5:00 pm
I don't think I have Aspergers Syndrome (Mom does though), but I believe I have had a rage episode that happened last year. Basically, there was this guy who annoyed me all the time and probably made fun of me a lot. One day I heard him laughing and I automatically assumed it was at me. So I yelled at him, swore at him, and them after a while I started crying. Then I told the teacher I wanted to die and kill myself. Well, I ended up leaving fourth period early to go home because of what I told the teacher.
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Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 6:43 pm
Sans Serif I really appreciate you guys talking about this because it helps me gain some insight to what my son might be going through mentally when he's going through an episode. He's been having a lot of trouble with raging at school lately. Has anyone noticed something in particular that sets you off? Or does it just happen at random? I ask because it's hard to get logical info from my 7 year old son. He can't tell me that he was feeling really anxious or overwhelmed about something, or if he was just having a bad day. He just says that he got mad. Also, I think pretty much every one has a hard time being rational when they're mad. For me, I just have to walk away from something that upsets me too much. Then when I calm down I can come back and deal with it better. That's my coping mechanism anyway. razz When I was younger, rage episodes happened for about three reasons. Most commonly, I was forced to change directions quickly without warning or the "rules" were broken and nobody said anything about it. By rules it can mean double-standards or agreements that were broken. Another reason would be a continuously-building bad day, where rules have been broken or I was hungry or tired. Finally, noise is my biggest issue. When it's loud, I'm much more vulnerable to the episodes. Now that I know what triggers them, most of my potential setups for the rage episodes can be controlled or stifled before they built up too much. The rage episode I mentioned before was caused by a breaking of the rules. She told me that we would go to blockbuster and then she took it back without telling me, and though she had good reason, I didn't see it that way.
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Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 6:45 pm
Mistress_Venom_Poison I had quite a few of those but there was this one episode where I broke a window. I've never broken a window. However, I have destroyed a door with a gardening implement, tried to light a lawn on fire that happened to be directly above a gas main, and keyed my mom's car.
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Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 11:02 pm
Skrapz Mistress_Venom_Poison I had quite a few of those but there was this one episode where I broke a window. I've never broken a window. However, I have destroyed a door with a gardening implement, tried to light a lawn on fire that happened to be directly above a gas main, and keyed my mom's car. I didn't think twice when I broke it
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Posted: Sun Nov 14, 2010 8:31 pm
Mistress_Venom_Poison Skrapz Mistress_Venom_Poison I had quite a few of those but there was this one episode where I broke a window. I've never broken a window. However, I have destroyed a door with a gardening implement, tried to light a lawn on fire that happened to be directly above a gas main, and keyed my mom's car. I didn't think twice when I broke it My son tried to break my car window on Friday... sigh... gonk He had a really good week at school and I was feeling so optimistic... but Friday was absolutely miserable for him for some reason. I have to speak with his teacher about why, but he broke a mouse and keyboard at school. Then later that day he raged with me and I picked him up and put him in the car to contain him. So, he decided to try to kick out the car windows, then tried to kick me and punch me. I guess I'm just disappointed because I thought we were making progress with preventing these episodes, and then Friday we're back to square one. xp
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Posted: Mon Nov 15, 2010 12:20 pm
I have aspergers syndrome and I dont necessarily go into rage fits, but I do get pissed off easily if i dont get something i want. I have always somewhat thrown temper tantrums and i will get very emotional and start crying and threatening to hurt myself if i dont get what i want. I am slowly getting better though, I have had less tantrums and I guess i have somewhat accepted myself and that just because i throw those tantrums, doesnt mean anything will change for me, but dont get me wrong, it is still a challenge for me, plus i have bipolar disorder on top of my aspergers.
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Posted: Tue Nov 16, 2010 5:30 pm
This makes me feel so much better! (At least in some twisted way, I guess?) I've been going into seemingly random rage fits for years. When I look back on it, they've generally been triggered by noises (incessant or loud), by hot, stuffy temperatures, or by being stuck in crowds (particularly when people are moving around me but I'm not moving). A lot of times, it can also be a build-up of pent up rage over a day or a week or more just like anyone else. (And then there's also the things that piss everybody off.) It's so difficult to control. I've put holes in walls, broken several new cellphones and other assorted objects, slapped/hit people, etc. And after a few seconds when the virtually blinding red rage moves to the side, I know what I'm doing is completely irrational but I still can't make it stop even when someone I love is begging me.
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