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Well, I agree, the full impact of the situation definitely hasn't hit you yet. It seems to be a really nasty collection of bad events. It migt be difficult to get through this new living situation and the death in the family without her. Did you both agree to break up, and if so, was it for the best?

This is why I hate living so far away from friends. Gawd, if I were right there with you, there's nothing I wouldn't do. Stay up late eating ice cream, drowning our problems in sugar highs and watching episodes of Naruto on TV, you know typical junk like that. I wish I could do that. But I can't. And I know It's stupid to appologize for where you live, but I do.

Don't you dare think that your pain is going to pull your friends down with you. This may be your battle, but it doesn't mean you have to fight it alone. If you lock it all up, it's going to come back at you when you're alone, and you know as well as I that when you're alone, it's the absolute worst time to get hit hard bad. All of my previous friends who have told me they cut I know to be pretty reserved people who just don't like talking to people about their problems. This might not be the case for everyone who's like that, but I know it does lend a major hand. So please, gawd please don't block me out.

The others are right, the impact hasn't hit you yet. I convinced myself into thinking that if I could ignore it for long enough than I would get better, but I somehow feel that may not be the case, even though that's what I want it to be. Cry, cry when you need to. I know you get sick of crying, but this time just cry for your aunt and nothing else. Then just cry for the loss of your girlfriend, and nothing else. Cry until each individual problem seems to get slightly better--don't ever look at it all at once or else you're gonna end up like I was last week.

And please. You've got to try to hang in there. Any time you get the urge to cut or something, I know it's going to be hard, no one said it would be easy, but get out a pen and start writing. I don't care if all I get in the mail for months are letters about how shitty you feel or how ******** up the world is, I want them. I want them so I can send them back to you when you're older and this is all over, and you can see how far you've come. Because you will get through this, this will end, I promise.

I am so sorry about your aunt, and although that just doesn't quite cut it, that's really all I can offer you. You don't want pity or sympathy, so I give you an invisible shoulder to cry on when you need it. And yes, I know, you don't need to cry now. It's because it hasn't sunk in yet. But when it does, you'd better figure out how to use that calling card pretty fast, because I'll be expecting a few midnight calls.

Please, if I get any of this through to you, it's that I don't want you to be alone. This is too hard to deal with on your own. You don't need to be like that, and you don't have to be. I'm here for you. I promise.

Wow, it's sad that you have to go through this. It's a lot for a person to handle.

Just wait for it all sink in. Maybe your friends and family can help you get over all this. Try talking to your girlfriend about it and ask for some help.

Wow. Being 17, breaking up with your girlfriend after a year, and on top of that, you're still not affected???

That means you're a very strong-minded dude! Keep it up. And never, ever, let it go to your head. If it does, let it go in any way you need. Try hitting something with all your strength.