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 Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 2:38 am
"hi, I am Ura..as you knw..Umm I was thinking about getting back with my ex-boyfriend. I really don't like him but umm, I really liked parts of his company. He was mean, but he was protective when it came to others and he cared about me getting sick or not eating....so he had his ups..right? On the low side..he beat the SH*t out of me".
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 3:18 am
you already know how most of us feel about him Ura. sad trust me, you don't need him. if you want someone, remember that there are plenty of potential suiters out there. try waiting for someone new to cross your path. biggrin you could realy use the time being single anyway. ^_^ believe me, i know from experience. relationship drama is unhealthy and stressfull, and holds you back from living your life and being yourself. new love always has a way of finding you, you don't have to rush back into old relationships or failed romances. when you least expect it, a fun new journey will sneak up on you, like it always does. smile that's just the way it is.
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 3:44 am
Uhhh... What he said... Look i'll come the hell over there and make sure you have a good meal if that need be okay? I'm very protective, some guy called my sister a slut and i kicked the sh*t outta that guy... He was like 20 >.> wussy man...
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 4:04 am
------------------------------------------------------------------------- ...as the wind whistled past it whispered in your ears...
Well dear, you said it yourself. It's a stupid idea.
Those few positives that you mentioned pale in comparison to the negatives. It's not worth the pain and trouble that it will cause sad
...then the words drifted away, never to be heard again...
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 9:37 am
My experience has been that settling for less than the complete package is ALWAYS a mistake. You know the right thing to do, and you really have no excuse NOT to do the right thing.
If you need an over-protective mother figure, I'm more than willing to offer my fussing and coddling services. I even make a pretty mean apple crumble pie. ^_^
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 10:12 am
Seriously, Ura. HE. BEAT. YOU.
That is called ABUSE. The negatives FAR outweigh the positives. This guy sounds like a major a*****e.
People like that are protective because they don't want you to leave. They are weak and need to control somebody to feel strong. Do not let him do this to you.
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 2:49 pm
"But...well no one else wants me! I am so lonly and well I can't stand not 'doing it' I feel shackey and I can't focus. Besides he never broke anything...sprained a couple, but never broke..besides P.E. could also be to blam...."
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 3:08 pm
Ura, I already know you wont listen to me, but I dont think it is a very good idea. I know you can do better, you are too sweet and cute of a person to deserve that. If i werent taken and closer Iwould want you, and if I would then no telling how many others would ^_^ YOu just gotta look.
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 3:29 pm
Ura the rainbow King "But...well no one else wants me! I am so lonly and well I can't stand not 'doing it' I feel shackey and I can't focus. Besides he never broke anything...sprained a couple, but never broke..besides P.E. could also be to blam...." I apologize in advance. Certain recent events have made me tetchy and it may show a little bit. I speak plainly and to the point, and it will probably hurt. Again, my apologies. I don't want to hurt you, I want to say what needs to be said. I will understand if I am unpopular because of it. Trading sex and a feeling of wanting for your personal safety does not make sense. Don't call what he did love or caring- call it abuse. Call it rape. Call it mental coercion. I'm betting that he's the "top" in this relationship and that he managed to convince you that you are worthless and no one but him would ever put up with you, so out of the kindness of his c**k he will... "take care of you". You need sex to concentrate? Buy some sex toys. Pure silicone is best, a**l toys need a wide base so they do not get lost. The Fleshlight is a high-quality stroker. A little simple maintenance and you're golden. If you use lube, water-based is safest if you use silicone toys. He never broke anything.... beyond the normal implications of this, let's finish the sentence. He never broke anything... yet. If you take him back you will lose all the ground you made by not being with him, and he may chose to be less *gentle* next time. Then again, if you are even considering taking him back, it means you are already halfway into his arms. Asking people to give you reasons not to go back to him, then refuting those reasons like they are inconsequential so you can spout about how loving the b*****d was doesn't sound like you want to be away from him. Its like an addiction. You want him even though he hurts you, could even kill you (abuse can escalate fast, little one), and you don't listen to people who try to help you. Walk away. Just WALK AWAY. And don't look back. Quit him cold turkey, chew some gum, watch some porn, and ignore him. Otherwise you'll be asking this question again... and again... and again... Until he breaks something that won't heal.
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 3:38 pm
------------------------------------------------------------------------- ...as the wind whistled past it whispered in your ears...
Ura, I'm going to put this bluntly. You know that this is a stupid idea, so you shouldn't even be thinking about it. You asked our advice, now listen to us. None of us have said that it is a good idea, no maybes no ifs, just a clear "no"
There are no onlys, there are no buts nor any justs... abuse is abuse, and you cannot, you must not disregard it and sugarcoat his actions. Don't let him control you and don't encourage his foul behaviour by falling back to him.
You deserve better darling.
...then the words drifted away, never to be heard again...
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 6:07 pm
Ura the rainbow King "But...well no one else wants me! I am so lonly and well I can't stand not 'doing it' I feel shackey and I can't focus. Besides he never broke anything...sprained a couple, but never broke..besides P.E. could also be to blam...." Not everything others do is right or pure. 'Doing it' is just crap. If you want advice from me, I say step out of the dating game until you're seventeen or eighteen. (That's my plan anyhow [even if my dad doesn't want me to start dating till I'm 30... typical of my dad, though]) My belief is that you step back and watch him. If he's changed maybe that's good, but still. Beating someone is pure abuse. Even if he sprained something, it's not cool. I say, don't. When someone beats someone, that's usually because that person is controlling. You may think he loves you, but he just loves controlling you. If you ever need advice, PM me. I can always find some encouraging words to help. Sincerely, Sapph
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 7:04 pm
Ura the rainbow King "But...well no one else wants me! I am so lonly and well I can't stand not 'doing it' I feel shackey and I can't focus. Besides he never broke anything...sprained a couple, but never broke..besides P.E. could also be to blam...." First, you should not be in ANY romantic relationship just to validate your existence. If all you are in your own eyes is someone else's arm ornament, then you SERIOUSLY need to do some soul searching. Second, "doing it" releases a lot of hormones, pheromones and endorphins that not only reduce stress and make you feel happy, but they also CHANGE YOUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY to create a PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL BOND WITH YOUR PARTNER. I'm not against sex--don't mistake my meaning--but you need to understand that sex is not just a recreational activity, but a wonderful way to strengthen a relationship. Ask yourself this, as much as you want sex, do you really want to strengthen THAT sort of relationship? A loveless, lonely, and abusive one? Third, if you want sexual pleasure, there are TONS of **other things** to help you find satisfaction. Seriously, you can PM me or Twilight for details on what works best and where to find good deals. We are more than happy to answer any questions honestly and discreetly. If sex is what you're really after, spend a little money, save a trip to the hospital! Fourth, as far away as everyone here might seem, we can all see your incredible value as a human being. Even though some of us might not want you for a bed partner (I'm a married woman, so I don't think you really want me sexually, either), we ALL want you for a FRIEND. If you get back together with this guy, chances are we'll loose you because that sort of personality doesn't share well. Finally, please, PLEASE take what everyone is saying to heart. You know what is right, but it's up to you to have the balls to do it. We believe in you. I hope you can borrow a little of that and believe in yourself. heart heart heart
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 8:54 pm
ScarletFrost Ura the rainbow King "But...well no one else wants me! I am so lonly and well I can't stand not 'doing it' I feel shackey and I can't focus. Besides he never broke anything...sprained a couple, but never broke..besides P.E. could also be to blam...." First, you should not be in ANY romantic relationship just to validate your existence. If all you are in your own eyes is someone else's arm ornament, then you SERIOUSLY need to do some soul searching. Second, "doing it" releases a lot of hormones, pheromones and endorphins that not only reduce stress and make you feel happy, but they also CHANGE YOUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY to create a PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL BOND WITH YOUR PARTNER. I'm not against sex--don't mistake my meaning--but you need to understand that sex is not just a recreational activity, but a wonderful way to strengthen a relationship. Ask yourself this, as much as you want sex, do you really want to strengthen THAT sort of relationship? A loveless, lonely, and abusive one? Third, if you want sexual pleasure, there are TONS of **other things** to help you find satisfaction. Seriously, you can PM me or Twilight for details on what works best and where to find good deals. We are more than happy to answer any questions honestly and discreetly. If sex is what you're really after, spend a little money, save a trip to the hospital! Fourth, as far away as everyone here might seem, we can all see your incredible value as a human being. Even though some of us might not want you for a bed partner (I'm a married woman, so I don't think you really want me sexually, either), we ALL want you for a FRIEND. If you get back together with this guy, chances are we'll loose you because that sort of personality doesn't share well. Finally, please, PLEASE take what everyone is saying to heart. You know what is right, but it's up to you to have the balls to do it. We believe in you. I hope you can borrow a little of that and believe in yourself. heart heart heart **agrees wholehearteddly** I really think that none of us want to see you get hurt, hon. Please be smarter then this..
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 10:25 pm
"Your right, I guess...and hey..maybe I can ask...that red head guy out...right? I mean I still sake...and uhh...maybe he wont run away from me, like the last guy I umm..was 'with'? I won't go back..your right..it was stupid...and well, he did not change the last 5 years..why would he change now...right? Even with the pills....But....no one else wan'ts me....i'm gross."
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 4:39 am
xd hahaha! well, being single for now would be prefferable, but Joshy is a good guy, hell i almost asked him out myself once. but Ura, you gotta understand that you are NOT gross. you are beautifull, and sweet, and adorable, and an absolute darling. you are loving to a fault for crying out loud! xd the sweetest boy that i have ever met.
you are fine, and you will find plenty of future lovers. and as has been repeated alot already, get yerself some toys and play with yerself mate! whee it'll be good for you.
you know you can always PM me or Frost for advice, she wasn't kidding. smile i'm very open about this stuff, and pretty experienced. it couldn't hurt, so if you ever feel like you want some advice, don't hesitate. i'll even give you my phone number, it's (352) 373 2546. i'm available almost all the time.
quick thing to note, i'll be moving to Cincinnati Ohio soon, so the number will change, but i'll let you know. ^_^
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