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 Posted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 1:18 pm
okay well heres what i need advice on.
me and my boyfriend have almost been together 5 months. we meant and got together 3 days after i started school. everything was fine up until last week. last week he finished school. then monday he started work.
since he left i havent talked or seen him. i get that during the day he has work and spends time with his daugther. but he wont answer my txt or calls at nite. and i dont understand that.
so do you think you could give me some advice because i honstely dont know what to do about it anymore. should i just give up or wait to see if i hear from him.
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Posted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 5:40 pm
I would say it depends on how strong your feelings are for him. The stronger you feel, the longer you wait.
Try calling him. If he doesn't answer, try again later. If still no luck, feel free to try again the next day. After several phone calls, if he still doesn't answer, then odds are either something is wrong, he is ignoring you, or is out of town.
I try and never assume someone is ignoring the other, because it really sucks if you think that, and it turns out he/she was just out of town.
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skittlemaster42 Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 6:02 pm
If he has to spend time with his daughter then could you join that to spend time with him? If you guys aren't even talking then I'd break up.
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Posted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 6:37 pm
to skittle: ive tried that and it still get nothing and i call his cell phone because he doesnt have a house phone but you may be right about being out of town.
to joker:he wont let me spend time with him when hes with his daughter because when he does spend time with her his ex which is his daughter mom and she doesnt know about us being together.
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Posted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 8:17 pm
lillaur to joker:he wont let me spend time with him when hes with his daughter because when he does spend time with her his ex which is his daughter mom and she doesnt know about us being together. Why's it a secret? That sounds suspicious to me, no offense.
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Posted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 8:41 pm
PulchritudinousFartJoker lillaur to joker:he wont let me spend time with him when hes with his daughter because when he does spend time with her his ex which is his daughter mom and she doesnt know about us being together. Why's it a secret? That sounds suspicious to me, no offense. i really dont know he says it so she wont get mad and tell him hes not allowed to his daughter anymore
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xXFoxfaceToastXx Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Mar 16, 2010 10:24 pm
I understand that he wouldn't want to lose his daughter since she is a part of him but if he is gone he might have gone back to his ex, but I don't know the whole situation and I won't dig that far. Don't take my word for it. Wait for him, if he comes back and apologizes for not being in contact then your waiting will improve the relationship, if he's cheating or running away (Who knows) then he will hopefully get more guilt and if you believe in karma it will bite him good. I hope you get back with him and that he's not a jerk.
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Posted: Wed Mar 17, 2010 11:44 am
thanks i think things are getting ready to take a turn for the best because he txted me today saying that hes sorry and that hes going to try harder to make time for me. so for now im going to wait and see how it goes
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Posted: Thu Mar 18, 2010 8:48 pm
so just when i though things were turned around and all good i find out that my bf cheated on me today with a friend of mine my friend told me and he tried to deny it biut then said yeah i stopped by and seen her i told him thats messed up that you would go visit her and not me then asked me if i was mad and of course im my mad
than after all that he was like i love you and miss you and cant wait to see you baby and now i dont even want to see him and i refuse to say i love you and miss you to him but that could just be since im mad right now.
so im just really confused and torn between what to do right now.
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Posted: Thu Mar 18, 2010 10:13 pm
lily- i really don't like people getting hurt you should break-up with him, somewhere out there there is a man who will treat you right
it took me awhile and at one point i lost hope, but i think i found mine =)
you need to just forget about him anyone who cheats on you obviously don't love you bcaz when you love someone you don't even think about being with anyone else ..i hate it when people through the word love around =/
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skittlemaster42 Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Mar 18, 2010 11:20 pm
I agree with cappy.
I was cheated on too. Of course, i happen to have a hard time holding grudges, so about half a year later i finally opened my heart back up to this person and started forming that bond again, only to have it trampled on once again.
In my opinion cheating is one thing that deserves no second chance. It becomes apparent the bond is one way after a while...
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Posted: Thu Mar 18, 2010 11:26 pm
=) ya all cheaters do is cheat and lie i've been hurt many many times I actually quit dating for 3 years until I met my current Bf and we have been together a year he understands the cheating thing and he also had trust issues =/
thats what you need to find lily someone who has been cheated on too so they won't do it too you lol =) you'd both have to learn to trust each other thats the only problem =l
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 8:41 am
thanks but right now its just really hard because he says he didnt do anything and that my friend was lying. so i have no idea what to do. im suppose to see him this weekend so when i do im gonna talk to him.
but right now im torn between what to do because me and another friend have grown closer since evrything happened and hes been there for me and cheered me up.
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 9:32 pm
ya but you gotta ask why your friend would lie about that don't pick guys over friends
your friend wouldn't just randomly be like hey your bf cheated on you with me ..who would wanna start crap like that =/
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