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 Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:11 pm
How do you all feel about spanking a child? Do you think its ok, wrong, or what?
I believe that spanking should be a last resort, that other forms of punishment should come first.
I also believe that spanking is one thing, and beatings are another.
For example a child does not respond to groundings ect. So you smack them on the bottom to get your point across so they wont want to do bad things again that will lead to another spanking.
A beating to me is when you go overboard and leave cut, welts, and dark bruises on a child. I do believe some one that does that to a child should go to jail.
What do you all think?
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Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 9:51 pm
I was thinking about this a couple weeks ago, actually.
My opinion is much the same as yours; a spanking should not be to injure a child, but teach them a lesson when you need to get your point across.
Though children seem to be getting more spoiled and more... terrrible, so more often than not I've heard about punishments of parents taking away use of a game system or cellphone.
I don't often think about punishments for children, as I was never, and am still not someone who would often or knowingly get in trouble.
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Posted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 10:47 pm
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Mhh personnaly I've never been spanked, because I was a rather good kid.
My big sister was, and I do think it was necessary.
Anyway she's never been traumatized or such things. We're both healthy etc. xD
Sometimes words are just not enough, and you have to make sure the kid understand.
However, if I have kids one day, I don't think I'll use this way.
I'd prefer to make the kid sits in the corner and tell them to say sorry and then hugs them.
I don't judge people who spank their kids though!
As long as the kid is not injured (exept for the red mark on the butt) ;P
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Posted: Sun Nov 08, 2009 10:35 pm
I was never really spanked either. I think my mom might have smacked my hand, or my bottom once or twice as a warning, but it didn't really hurt. It would scare me though, because I was the youngest, and I heard stories of her spanking my siblings. So that kept me in line.
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Posted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 9:36 pm
I think you are right laroka spanking should just be as a last resort if they listen to you the first time and dont' ever do it again there is no reason to spank, smack or, "whoop" any child by any matters or means
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Posted: Mon Nov 30, 2009 3:02 am
As the youngest I didn't really receive too many SPANKINGS per say, I just was threatened with them. When we were in public it was "Do you want to go to the "bathroom?!"" Which was scarier than anything in the whole world.
As a last resort I do believe in spankings. Call me a bad parent, but when my son gets older if nothing else works, standing in the corner with his arms held up over his head...(Trust me this will make a child apologize faster than anything as I had to do this many times when I was a kid...) or having to write lines...Whatever. If nothing else works I'll spank him. One or two swats on the behind. Nothing like what I received mind you, but he will get a few little swats.
Because I'm sorry, too many people out there try to REASON with their children. I'm sorry, a three year old isn't going to understand that they shouldn't do something without some sort of negative feedback. And just saying no over and over again doesn't work. An aunt and uncle of mine tried reasoning with their daughter when she was two. And she almost got hit by a car because their idea of telling her she couldn't go play by the street was to reason with her.
And then you have the schools who tell the kids that "If mommy and daddy spank you call the cops."
Spanking isn't bad. BEATINGS are bad. Bruising is bad. I'm sorry...
I'm ranting again.
Maybe because when I was really little I received both, and I know the difference, I don't know...I just...A spanking is one thing. It instills in a child a sense of discipline without the fear of mommy or daddy hating them. I guess. At least that's how I felt.
Beatings...They make a child feel unloved, unwanted, and just plain hurt.
So I am for spankings, because they tend to work so long as the parent doesn't use them too often, and doesn't go overboard.
Because like anything something used too much will become obsolete.
Don't have to agree with me. I'm sure many of you won't.
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 12:46 am
I'll listen to all the paediatrics and child psychologists in the world who are screaming in unison "BAN THIS CRAP".
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 9:44 am
blazedybomb I think you are right laroka spanking should just be as a last resort if they listen to you the first time and dont' ever do it again there is no reason to spank, smack or, "whoop" any child by any matters or means I also agree with this. There are so many children and even adults who get hurt for no reason.
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 5:56 pm
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"I agree completely and 100% with PhoenixHenkan. As for Laroka, I agree except I think that abusive family situations should try to be fixed and mended. My mom is a foster mom, and as such I know a lot of kids who have gone back to their families and their parents have honestly learned from their mistakes. I also have horror stories about children whos parents make child soldiers from Africa babysit them, and these babysitters are almost as abusive as the parents, who have different belts for different diciplines and who smother their children with pillows when they cry in their room.
The latter should have their children taken away and should be dealt with more severly. Obviously they're treating their children worse than animals.
PhoenixHenkan said something interesting. Writing lines ALWAYS worked for me as a child. I was devastated by them, especially because I didn't know how to write very well. I've never taken to spankings. In fact, I used to wag my butt in my moms face yelling "DO IT!" If she threatened to spank me. So it was a game to me. My parents needed alternatives.
I never had to stand in the corner with my arms up though lol that's a good one.
My friends Edwardo and Tito (brothers) say that when they were really bad together this is what she'd do: pour salt on Edwardo's back, then make Tito lick it off. Then vice versa. LOL. They said they NEVER tried whatever they did again XD"
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 2:52 pm
dixieboy I'll listen to all the paediatrics and child psychologists in the world who are screaming in unison "BAN THIS CRAP". ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I beg to differ. My mother is a pediatrician, and I too was spanked as a small child.
Honestly, I agree with pretty much what everyone else's saying. Spanking and abuse are different, but sometimes reasoning with children just doesn't work (as stated by PHoenixHaken.) Honestly, my little brother is the biggest brat I know. My mom is WAY too soft on him (and me for that matter; I just got lucky and turned out decent) and because she is too soft on him, he is the brat he is. Then again, my mother was always not so good with punishments.
I had a friend whose mother completely believed in spanking. She turned out just fine! In fact, once, her mother spanked her sister with a spoon and broke the wooden spoon. Even then, the sister was no worse for wear, but it sure as hell taught her a lesson.
So yeah. Woot for last-resort spanking!
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 4:16 am
I do believe in spanking children. Like, no punching in the face or anything, just a slap on the butt with something like a belt.
To me, if you don't spank your kids, they just won't take you seriously.
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 4:59 am
So you all assume that no parent in the world is capable of handling their kid?
That's... depressing.
Here's the thing though: I am unable to find a single organization of professionals that think spanking is a good idea.
Some want the crap banned, others think it's an inferior way of parenting, and some have no official stance on the subject.
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 7:15 am
dixieboy So you all assume that no parent in the world is capable of handling their kid? That's... depressing. Here's the thing though: I am unable to find a single organization of professionals that think spanking is a good idea. Some want the crap banned, others think it's an inferior way of parenting, and some have no official stance on the subject.
I have a question for you...Were you ever spanked?
Did you ever know anyone that was ever spanked?
Because now a days people confuse SPANKING with abuse so often that it's hard to tell the difference.
I had both. I was both spanked. And abused. The spanking worked to discipline me. The abuse worked to terrify and traumatize me. If anything would be said to have lasted longer into my life and made a stronger impact on what is right and wrong it's the spanking. Because it taught me that "this is wrong. Don't do that."
The abuse taught me that people are awful creatures capable of horrid things and will do those horrid things. There is nothing in this world more deadly than man. And if you don't agree with spanking, fine. But don't trash on anyone else who KNOWS that kids are a handful and a lot of punishments won't always work.
Talk to parents, all sorts of parents. And see what they have to say about the subject. You'll hear all sorts of different things. But don't judge them because you don't agree. So long as the child is happy and healthy, that's all that really matters, isn't it?
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 1:19 pm
That is all that matters, yes.
However the consensus here seems to be "Spanking helps achieve this result"
Which, according to pretty much everyone relevant, is not only false but the complete opposite of the truth.
Also: How is me having been spanked or not relevant?
Like, at all?
If I wasn't spanked and consider it wrong, does that make me any more/less right?
Hell naw.
If I was spanked and consider it wrong, does that make me any more/less right?
Hell naw.
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Posted: Mon Dec 28, 2009 10:41 pm
I think spanking is alright so long as you don't go overboard there's a limit to where it's effective and to where it becomes a regular thing to someone. I was spanked as a kid and I think it was necessary sometimes but then somewhere along the line it was probably overdone haha and I still became a hooligan, overdoin it though might tough a kid up if that's what you're goin for. This is an interesting topic, if not just to read replies.
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