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 Posted: Mon Oct 03, 2005 2:35 pm
This isn't really a problem more than it is research for my story, but what is it like to have and raise a child at 15? I've always been intrested in how people at that age are able to raise a child into a becoming a good member of society. *family was raised by a young'n* And I've always imagined it would be tough on the parent(s) to do so. Is it?
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Posted: Mon Oct 03, 2005 9:07 pm
I don't have any experience, but I would assume it would be hard. I mean, when your 15 you're doing things like school, parties, hanging with your friends, chores, etc... It'd be extremly hard, I suppose, to raise a child at this age. Not to mention what somebody's parents might say rolleyes
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Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 2:41 pm
I've had a lot of friends in similar situations. There's a lot of staring, especially by older people, and peers usually talk behind your back.
It's stressful, especially since many 15 year-old girls think that when they have a baby they will have uncondtional love from it and it's entirely not true. Babies are demanding and keep you up until all hours of the night, which a 15 year-old probably isn't used to.
You have more responsibilty and often the teen struggles with that concept. Often times they will think that they'll just bring their baby to whatever (party, school, etc) and then their bubble bursts when they learn that's not how it works.
It's expensive, especially if your parents don't help you out finacially.
And you lose your childhood. You're forced to grow up quicker so you can teach your own child how to grow up.
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Posted: Thu Oct 20, 2005 10:05 am
I have seen success and failure in this scenario personally. If you are willing to give up the parties and hanging out with friends to focus on school and your child your child will see that and thus live by example and hopefully became a good person. You have to make sacrifices for a child though I have made a whold thread about this before. People who dont put the future of there children first really shouldnt be parents. I you want to read my whole opinion on the matter check out my thread about it.
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Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 12:32 am
When 'I' had my first child (I'm the adopted father, long story, I'll explain one day) I was only 13 going on 14
Young I know, but like I said, it's not my biological baby.
The mum was 15-16, I can't remember which she was when Pippa was born.
It's pretty much easy going, if you have love a supprt, Pippa's grown into a fine girl n_n
Her and her mummy come over every weekend to spend time with Daddy
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Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 6:01 pm
I had a friend who gave birth at 14. Her parents raised the child as her brother. I don't think he's been told yet that she's actually his mother.
Now, it's important to keep in mind that women traditionally have their first children before the age of 15. To wait until her 20s or later is a relatively modern invention. The difference is that, traditionally, mothers have a lot more support in raising kids from her family. There would usually be a mother-in-law living in the home, as well as many other women to help.
And in this matter, it really applies to any age. It's extremely difficult to raise your first child. Having help from a mother makes it much easier (though sometimes more stressful sweatdrop ).
But I think that one of the biggest problems would be getting a job. It's incredibly difficult to find a good job at 15. It's even more difficult if the woman is in a low income bracket and can't afford day care so that she can pursue an education.
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Posted: Mon Oct 31, 2005 10:46 am
I got pregnant the first time at 19.
I know it's not as young as 15 or 16, but it's still somewhat young.
Even at my age, people STILL stared at me and gave me weird looks. Nevermind the fact that I am married to the father of my children (and have been for almost 6 years now)! For a 19 year old, I looked like I was 16 - and you'd be surprised how many people fail to notice a big shiney wedding ring on your finger. I even have had certain assholes actually SAY mean things to me because they ASSUMED I was some unwed, teenaged, highschool drop out, white trash, welfare case, drug addict, blah blah blah. Because everyone KNOWS that ALL young parents are useless idiots and drug addicts! rolleyes
Anyway....
I was out of highschool, so I didn't have that problem to contend with, but I did make the decision not to go on to college at that point. It was a difficult decision, but I stand by it. I'd much rather be the one raising and taking care of my children on a daily basis than some daycare or a relative or frined who babysits. Not to mention, good childcare costs a LOT.
My husband went into the Air Force shortly after our first child was born, so that was how we supported ourselves. Flash forward four years, and we're still doing fine. We now have two children and things are fine with us. I am making plans to get back into college now that my children are getting old enough to go to school themselves, and I am happy with my decisions.
Sure, things may have went differently if I hadn't had a child that young, but I certainly don't regret it. I am pleased with the way things are going in my life and wouldn't change it!
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2005 9:06 am
badloki I got pregnant the first time at 19. I know it's not as young as 15 or 16, but it's still somewhat young. Even at my age, people STILL stared at me and gave me weird looks. Nevermind the fact that I am married to the father of my children (and have been for almost 6 years now)! For a 19 year old, I looked like I was 16 - and you'd be surprised how many people fail to notice a big shiney wedding ring on your finger. I even have had certain assholes actually SAY mean things to me because they ASSUMED I was some unwed, teenaged, highschool drop out, white trash, welfare case, drug addict, blah blah blah. Because everyone KNOWS that ALL young parents are useless idiots and drug addicts! rolleyes Anyway.... I was out of highschool, so I didn't have that problem to contend with, but I did make the decision not to go on to college at that point. It was a difficult decision, but I stand by it. I'd much rather be the one raising and taking care of my children on a daily basis than some daycare or a relative or frined who babysits. Not to mention, good childcare costs a LOT. My husband went into the Air Force shortly after our first child was born, so that was how we supported ourselves. Flash forward four years, and we're still doing fine. We now have two children and things are fine with us. I am making plans to get back into college now that my children are getting old enough to go to school themselves, and I am happy with my decisions. Sure, things may have went differently if I hadn't had a child that young, but I certainly don't regret it. I am pleased with the way things are going in my life and wouldn't change it! I feel you completly I was pregnant and had my son when I was 18 I still look young I get stares and I am almost 22. It is hard with patronization to assert yourself in a big family too. All the older members of my family tell me I am either to hard or soft on him its a nightmare. I looked 15 or 16 when I had him and now I look 17 or 18 fun fun. (I am sure I will be happy I am aging well when I am in my 30's but right now it stinks)
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Posted: Wed May 10, 2006 10:03 pm
well i'm 16 and yes i am a mother...my daughter is 5 months old at the time....and yes at times it is really hard..but i have a lot of support from family and friends.....so i still get to go to school...but if anything its not that bad for me to b a mother...
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 10:35 pm
My brother and his girlfriend are 16 and she's pregnant. (Not of no relevence: I don't like her. stare ) But yeah, I'm only 14 myself. But watching them day after day, I realize how...well...not HARD, perse, but...what's the word I'm looking for? Tough? Different? Egh, it'll come to me.
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 10:37 pm
.J.a.c.k.e.r.s. When 'I' had my first child (I'm the adopted father, long story, I'll explain one day) I was only 13 going on 14
Young I know, but like I said, it's not my biological baby.
The mum was 15-16, I can't remember which she was when Pippa was born.
It's pretty much easy going, if you have love a supprt, Pippa's grown into a fine girl n_n
Her and her mummy come over every weekend to spend time with Daddy Aw, that's cute. n.n
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Posted: Tue Aug 15, 2006 7:23 pm
Kaizoku Kaitou Anne My brother and his girlfriend are 16 and she's pregnant. (Not of no relevence: I don't like her. stare ) But yeah, I'm only 14 myself. But watching them day after day, I realize how...well...not HARD, perse, but...what's the word I'm looking for? Tough? Different? Egh, it'll come to me. Perseverence?
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Posted: Fri Oct 13, 2006 1:40 pm
okay so, i haD Gotten pregnant at 15, and had my son at 16, 7 days after my b-day, it wasnt so bad as long as you try and not stress about it to much i guess but sometimes you cant help it, hes allmost 2 now.that and i had gotten pregnant again *yay for missing a pill* and now i have 4 month old twin daughters, its buisy ill tell you that much but i love them to death, just keep your head up and keep going no mater what. heart
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