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 Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2005 12:21 pm
This thread is now Laurel's Mini Blog. Yay-ness. Original first entry below.
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So I have this friend.... and last night I was at his house hanging out and stuff, My dad calls and says he's outside and I get up to leave and my friend grabs my wrist. He gets up and says something along the lines of "Laurel, wait. Maybe we shouldn't hang out as much, I starting to like you, and I don't want to like you. But I think you should still come over tomorrow like we planned." I gave him an odd look and I kinda of left really fast. I know he likes me, I knew it then. But him saying it outload was very creepy. I like him, he likes me. I don't want to like him, he doesn't want to like me.
Is it really possible to be infatuated with someone even if you don't want to be?
What should I do in this situation?
Why do teenagers seem to like every person of the opposite sex that they come in contact with?
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2005 12:52 pm
I think it has something to do with hormones or because our feelings get confused easily or something confused
Anyway I've noticed I've taken quite a liking to some of my male friends at times but it passes in a couple of weeks. If you don't want anything to happen between the two of you can just carry on as friends and mabye your feelings for each other will pass.
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2005 1:25 pm
It is almost like that song by Three Days Grace, I hate Everything About You. Sorry, that just came to mind.
I have gone through a similar thing, where I like one of my friends, and then he liked me, but we didn't want to like each other and then he turned gay...
Sometimes it is just a natural attraction, to want to feel close to someone. I would just let it be for the moment and then see where it goes. As CherryBlossom said, it passes in a few weeks, or at least in situations like that that I have had, it has passed.
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2005 2:02 pm
[CherryBlossom] I think it has something to do with hormones or because our feelings get confused easily or something confused Anyway I've noticed I've taken quite a liking to some of my male friends at times but it passes in a couple of weeks. If you don't want anything to happen between the two of you can just carry on as friends and mabye your feelings for each other will pass. yeah i agree with cherry.. just let it things be for a few weeks and see what happens.. if your feelings develop even more.. then you know something is up.. it may just be hormones though.
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2005 2:17 pm
A little biology lesson for the kiddos:
In life, mammals (and most every moving form of life) exists to reproduce to ensure the survival of the species. With that, nature designed organisms to actually want to reproduce, whether it be through sheer instinct or through physical attraction. However, nature threw a curve ball to use Humans concerning the physical and emotional attraction bit. You see, we've all heard of the woman saying "even if you were the last man on Earth, I still wouldn't &%*# you!" Nature, being the intelligent non-living entity it is, designed us Humans so that the above scenario, even in it's absolute remote probability, would solve itself. Basically, the more time a Human spends with something (anything), the more emotionally attached it becomes to said person/object. When emotions start rising, the opposite person actually becomes more physically attractive. Hence, if two people start hanging around each other a lot, it's only a matter of time until one person starts growing feelings for the other. Given the above impossible scenario, given enough time, that woman would be all over the man, no matter what he looked like. So you see, it's not that you're actually falling for this person, it's just your biological nature that you're feeling attached to him.
Now, the question is, what to do about it? Since you're already in the growing-feelings phase, your absolute best choice to avoid more feelings is to stop spending time with him. Tell him it simply won't work out, and that you need some time apart. This is why when a girl notices her boyfriend is spending a lot of time with another girl, she knows something's up (because don't forget, girls are biologically wired to root out lying men). If he's your friend, and you don't want to give up his friendship, then just tell him what's going on, and that you don't want to screw you two up.
Sometime's it's depressing realizing that even though we all think we have control of ourselves, we're just doing what we've been programmed to do.
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2005 6:21 pm
@Soleq: Thanks, you made me feel a lot better about it. And really, he's the one that has more of a problem and we've dsicussed this a bit. Since we don't want to stop hanging out- neither of us have any other friends- we just decided to ignore whatever strange feelings we develop. I think if I ever dated Michael.... the world would implode from the irony. So yeah...
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2005 6:23 pm
No prob Bob. Anything for teh Laurel.
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Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2005 9:49 am
Soleq No prob Bob. Anything for teh Laurel.
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Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2005 12:43 pm
No, I won't have sex with you! Geez, quit asking! xd
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Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2005 2:25 pm
Soleq No, I won't have sex with you! Geez, quit asking! xd
... I can still think of other things... xd
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Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2005 2:31 pm
Like....? Imaginations can run wild.
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Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2005 3:22 pm
Well, I think it's just like everything when it's something new and you're interested in it. You want to know a lot about it, you're not used to it so you feel it a lot, and you don't really understand it that much. It usually doesn't seem like it happens to adults because they have a better way of hiding it and they've experienced some of it for a while.
I wouldn't really worry about it too much. As I told you before it sounds like you guys just want someone there for you rather than you two being together. You guys sound like you could have a long-lasting friendship because as you know many high school relationships don't last after graduation.
It seems like he'd want to like you because you're a good friend and someone that he can trust and would want to be with. However, he's your friend and has probably realized that he doesn't want to ruin the friendship you guys have together either now or later on.
Better that he tell you and bring it up. If you ask me, he has a lot balls doing that.
What do I think you should do? I think you should talk to him about it and talk with him. He brought it up so you should take the initiative to talk about it too. Just tell him that you agree (because it sounds like that's what you want). Things might go along easier if you have that out on the table. Up to you on what you want to do though. I mean if you want to go out with him, go for it.
My opinion.
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 7:54 pm
That happened to me with a good friend.
When it came down to us both liking each other, but not liking that fact, everything became akward because I was too shy and we haven't really spoken in 2 years o_o;;
Just don't be too shy, and communicate that you don't want to lose the friendship.
Don't feel bad if you end up liking him in return, try it out if you so desire.
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Posted: Thu Sep 22, 2005 9:28 pm
Dunno if I mentinoed this or not at first, I do like him back.
Which makes this all the more bothersome.
He asked me today at 6:00 while I was at his house (I should've been at Peer Court...), if I would go out with him if he asked. I dodged the question and left shortly thereafter. Because I was already late for Peer Court. He walked with me to the train stop, halfway there I was teasing him about something, I called him gay or something similar, so he says "I will prove I am straight RIGHT NOW." and then he said something about kissing me as proof, I dodged him(dunno if he was serious or not) and ran ahead to the train stop.... yeah. After Peer court at 8pm, I was supposed to go home with my friend Kate, but instead I took a train to Michael's house again, and I was there for a little over an hour. We watched part of this horror movie that I didn't really understand.... and then I watched him lose at warcraft. Since funny things always happen right before I leave, I left fast and didn't give him a chance to say anything weird.
I really like Michael, as a friend. Damn, I don't want it to be ruined.
I wonder what tomorrow's gonna be like....
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Posted: Fri Sep 23, 2005 6:26 am
This all depends on if Patrick is still in the picture. If he is, then it's a choice you have (*Yoda-ish "yes, mhmmm!"*). The best relationships often start as great friendships, but if you still have feelings for Patrick, that should come first. Btw, you do realize that this guild is Private, and not Hidden?
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