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 Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 4:30 pm
So I have a problem... I recently broke up with my bf because he wanted to do things that i wouldn't do....What would you do in my situation? because i am dying here!!!! exclaim
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 5:27 pm
I'm not so good with giving advice >.< Sorry... I would probably go to my mother we can talk about everything and she always has the right words.
Would also go to my best friends to help me.
But probably I would even avoid getting in a situation like you by telling him in the beginning what he can and can't expect from me. If he doesn't agree with my way of living he probably doesn't love me enough.
Once I talked with a school friend about his believes (he's not Christian) and mine and I also told him what I can and can't do. He told me that isn't a problem for him because being a good boyfriend to his girl is more important to him.
But it probably just depends on the person.
I am sorry for not being much of a help. *hug* I hope some one will come with something better for you soon. <3
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 9:43 pm
Man, this may sound harsh, but that is not my intention.
First I have to say, "You go girl!! Stick it to him!!"
Okay, I think you did the right thing. Living the standards is soooo important.
There is someone out there--more than likely many someones--who won't demand something like that from you.
I just say listen to the Spirit in dating situations.
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Posted: Fri May 23, 2008 6:04 am
All right I'll give you some guy advice. Not saying you have to listen to it. Unless he changes, its important not to date him. Believe me, living the standards will give you a much happier life. I'll give you an example, I used to have a swearing issue, but I prayed for help, and tried my best to stop, and I no longer swear. Now what does this have to do with dating and standards? Once I stopped swearing, I've had a much happier life. So live the standards and don't do anything stupid or against your will and you will feel great! biggrin
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Posted: Fri May 23, 2008 7:00 pm
Ouch... That's hard. sweatdrop
But yeah, I agree with everyone else. If he's doing something that makes you uncomfortable, he ain't worth it! It'll take time... but if you do what you know is right, you'll meet the right guy. 3nodding
Hang in there!! *hugs*
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Posted: Fri May 23, 2008 7:20 pm
thank you everyone... It is nice to know that there are others out there living the same standards as me..... biggrin
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 4:02 am
It would probably also help you to keep in mind the kind of person you want to marry someday - to find the right one you have to be the right one. What type of standards will you want from the person you marry? Will you want them to have learned to control their passions and impulses before they get married - because just because you are married does not mean you will no longer be tempted! Sacrifice is only putting off what you want now for something you will want much more later! Remember that Heavenly Father is proud of your choice and so are we here!
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Posted: Sat Jun 07, 2008 11:09 pm
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Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 7:26 pm
Boys are stupid, throw rocks at them...
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Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 10:11 pm
I applaud the courage and integrity you showed by ending the relationship instead of keeping it going and letting things get too far. I know a lot of people who are not strong enough to do that, and the results are disastrous.
I believe that in the face of any tragedy, there are two words that can make it easier: eternal perspective. This doesn't mean that you don't pay attention to what you may be feeling right now, but that you remember where everything fits in a much greater plan that your Heavenly Father has for you. What's more important- a relationship where your standards were being tested and questioned, or the goal that you have set for yourself to marry a worthy priesthood holder for time and all eternity in a holy temple? Remembering these things makes problems and upsets seem a lot less earth-shattering than they may feel at times.
Also, I find that in a tough situation reading my patriarchal blessing helps me feel a lot better about life. If you have yours, I suggest that you prayerfully ponder what it has to tell you.
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Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 1:34 pm
jambare Boys are stupid, throw rocks at them... Thaaanks thats nice of you
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Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 10:09 pm
syvarris_chick_is_alyth So I have a problem... I recently broke up with my bf because he wanted to do things that i wouldn't do....What would you do in my situation? because i am dying here!!!! exclaim well. you dont have to deal with him anymore. if i was in your situation i wouldnt do anything. i'd still be his best friend and i wouldnt make it a big deal.
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Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 10:11 pm
Quote: It would probably also help you to keep in mind the kind of person you want to marry someday - to find the right one you have to be the right one. What type of standards will you want from the person you marry? Will you want them to have learned to control their passions and impulses before they get married - because just because you are married does not mean you will no longer be tempted! Sacrifice is only putting off what you want now for something you will want much more later! Remember that Heavenly Father is proud of your choice and so are we here! or you could just not get married. then you dont have to worry about it.
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Posted: Fri Jun 13, 2008 9:11 pm
just don't associate with him. (works for guys too...don't associate with that type of person)
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