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 Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 7:58 am
A couple of month ago i started to go to a new collage. I really want to make new friends there but i am having a bit trouble with that.
I ask one girl, that we became a bit friends, to go out togther but she turns me down sevral time.
Another girl that i am friends with live to far.
I even join student society, but have no luck there.
I learn 3 times a week one of the times is a long day, so no one want's to hang out after that, and the other times i have no luck with that. I was to streset out from learning at the begining.
Any one have sugestion on how to make friends?
I never really try to make friends before cuz i was bussy in other stuff all my life.
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Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 7:02 pm
hmm...the best thing i could think of is going around and talking to people. i have the same problem. but its because i don't even try. i go to school and go home.
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Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 10:39 pm
Meleny i do talk to others, but how do i take it to the next level (go out togther and stuff like that)?
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Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 11:22 pm
I can't really help too much cuz my situation with that was very different
When I was trying to make new friends it was almost always in classes that were optional ... like ceramics , art , and choir
otherwise I made friends when the teacher assigned group projects and asked people to help me with them
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Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:47 am
probably start inviting, it's not that hard to say
"hey, wanna hang out sometimes?", if they decline, don't fret, it's probably for good enough reason.
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Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 12:24 pm
Katt Smith I can't really help too much cuz my situation with that was very different When I was trying to make new friends it was almost always in classes that were optional ... like ceramics , art , and choir otherwise I made friends when the teacher assigned group projects and asked people to help me with them We have couple of group assignment, i found a partner just for one of this asignment, the others two i did alone, but mybe it cuz the girl i though was my friend allways have reason not to do this stuff with me. I am glad i did it without her at the end, cuz she didn't do anything with the project by herself.
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Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 1:05 pm
shani26 Katt Smith I can't really help too much cuz my situation with that was very different When I was trying to make new friends it was almost always in classes that were optional ... like ceramics , art , and choir otherwise I made friends when the teacher assigned group projects and asked people to help me with them We have couple of group assignment, i found a partner just for one of this asignment, the others two i did alone, but mybe it cuz the girl i though was my friend allways have reason not to do this stuff with me. I am glad i did it without her at the end, cuz she didn't do anything with the project by herself. I'm sorry it turned out like that for you ... I forgot to mention that some people just use others
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Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 1:52 pm
the best thing to got friends for me its talk to someone some time, know what they like, what are they interests, then leave the time do it´s work, anyway after this maybe they want you to be their "workers" with no payment but saying "if you dont do this we will not be friends any more", that kind of idiots dont deserve even to see them, but if thats not the case its perfect, or you can just wait, someone will have to talk to you sometime, i know almost every of my best friends like that way, someday you just talked with they asking for a pen, then you talk about everything and you didnt even noticed when the friendship started, hope that i was helpful if you understood me, because my english is like mmm, bad getting close to crap xp
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Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 3:55 pm
yes the best thing to do is just to hang around them for a while and when you feel that you guys are close enough you ask. hey want to go out?
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Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 10:34 am
meleny7 yes the best thing to do is just to hang around them for a while and when you feel that you guys are close enough you ask. hey want to go out? How do you know where is the time? I mean how do you know you are close enogh? hate long proces. Katt she didn't use me for the assignment. I think she knew she has less time then me to work on this stuff, and that is why she didn't want to do it with me. she work 8 hours a day, and she is late with most of her asignents. eduardk don't worry so far no one really wants to use me in college, on the other hand, poeple try to help me. There is one girl from the last year who wanted to do a work with me just to help me out cuz i am in my first year. I think teachers or student for teaching like to teach and help others. that why they chose this path in life. Yep there are good poeple in this collage, and i don't think there is a compition.
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Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 12:02 am
shani26 meleny7 yes the best thing to do is just to hang around them for a while and when you feel that you guys are close enough you ask. hey want to go out? How do you know where is the time? I mean how do you know you are close enogh? hate long proces. Katt she didn't use me for the assignment. I think she knew she has less time then me to work on this stuff, and that is why she didn't want to do it with me. she work 8 hours a day, and she is late with most of her asignents. friendships are supposed to be long processes be difination - my difination anyways ~ and if she had you do all the work that is useing you ... it may be understandable but still
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Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 12:19 am
Katt Smith shani26 meleny7 yes the best thing to do is just to hang around them for a while and when you feel that you guys are close enough you ask. hey want to go out? How do you know where is the time? I mean how do you know you are close enogh? hate long proces. Katt she didn't use me for the assignment. I think she knew she has less time then me to work on this stuff, and that is why she didn't want to do it with me. she work 8 hours a day, and she is late with most of her asignents. friendships are supposed to be long processes be difination - my difination anyways ~ and if she had you do all the work that is useing you ... it may be understandable but still We didn't do the asigment togther, so she couldn't made me do all the work.
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Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 1:18 pm
hmm I don't have that problem, I make friends easily but I usually don't have female friends because I like to hang with guys instead.
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Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 6:54 am
hHhhmmm...
i know it's quite hard to explain w/ not too much details...
but i ope this would help...
if you started talking to her/him and you feel:
close to him/her
>feel free to go out and bond w/ him/her sometimes (*don't fret when she declines, you could ask he for the reason)
>talk to her more and make her everyday happy (*don't focus much on her, you must balance it w/ other things)
>be nice and good, 'cause you'll never know when will the both of you became enemies(*don't OVER-DO it, ok )
you're not close to her
>try talking to her more, always start w/ a good topic (*don't panic if everything goes SILENT. think a better topic to chat about)
>be more friendlier (*again don't OVER-DO it)
>have some of you free time chatting w/ her, maybe she's just shy at first (*don't use ALL of you time w/ her. If you feel that she's really not the good person to be w/ don't waste free time w/ only her)
she hates you
>try the second time (*don't try this if she REALLY IS THAT BAD)
that's all...
these are just my opinions ok...
wish everything will be fine...! ! !
3nodding
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Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 2:35 pm
koolcat18 hHhhmmm... i know it's quite hard to explain w/ not too much details... but i ope this would help... if you started talking to her/him and you feel: close to him/her
>feel free to go out and bond w/ him/her sometimes (*don't fret when she declines, you could ask he for the reason) >talk to her more and make her everyday happy (*don't focus much on her, you must balance it w/ other things) >be nice and good, 'cause you'll never know when will the both of you became enemies(*don't OVER-DO it, ok ) you're not close to her>try talking to her more, always start w/ a good topic (*don't panic if everything goes SILENT. think a better topic to chat about) >be more friendlier (*again don't OVER-DO it) >have some of you free time chatting w/ her, maybe she's just shy at first (*don't use ALL of you time w/ her. If you feel that she's really not the good person to be w/ don't waste free time w/ only her) she hates you>try the second time (*don't try this if she REALLY IS THAT BAD) that's all... these are just my opinions ok... wish everything will be fine...! ! ! 3nodding - This makes me feel like i am filling a friend chart rofl Tha Chica Lana- Most of my class mates are girls, to me it was allways more eassy to be friend with guys then girls. Today i learn from morning till evening and I talk to a lot of my class mates, but it doesn't get far from that. No one asked me to get togther after class. crying The girl who i ask her sevral times to get togther after class or do assignment togther, and she refused, show me her poem. That was really wierd for me. She sit next to me in class, talk to me in brake. Show me her dipest poem, but she doesn't want to meet me after class. Does this stuff happens to you, when you felt someone try to get close to you, but doesn't have time to really get togther with you?
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