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 Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 1:09 pm
My mom and i are comletely 2 different people.
~she's headstrong.
~easy to get angery
~only cares abot herself and her 2 kids
~hates everything and everyone
~isn't afraid to tell her own feeling(even if it'll hurt the other person)
~doesn't like to change for anyone.
~will kill u.
~treats me like a slave.
i'm almost the exact opposite.
~i'm alot more shy
~i love art, music and nature.
~i don't say hateful thing s about people
~i care about my friends and other family members
~i get scared or upset easily
~just a simple mean comment would get me upset
~wouldn't hurt u ( unless u drove me to it.)
the thing is, i can't stay in the same room with her without wanting to cry. She thinks because i'm her daughter i'm supose to be just like her but i'm not. She says mean things about things i love the most and i hate it. It's so bad that if i have to go downstairs to get something to eat i have to carry my ipod and turn it up high enough to drown out her voice. The way my family is, it's like everyone is a brick wall. They are raised in the way that all their emotions just drain out of them and theirs nothing left. I'm always thinking my mom went wrong with me and now she thinks her comments aren't supose to hurt me. I really love my mom and i do my best not to upset her, but i can't do what i want or what i love to do without her getting her upset. I can't be myself around her. now i can't stand it.
i don't know wat to do.
pls don't tell me to talk to her. not only am way too shy to do that but my mom is unaproachable. She hates it when i talk and so i don't anymore. She thinks i should solve all my problems with my fists and keep my problems to myself. (she said that herself)
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Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 4:03 am
You poor thing, I'm sucha softy I just wanna give u a big hug, I know how you feel as I had a Mum pretty much the same and it stinks!!!
I don't know what advice to say, you're probably too young for me to say move home... that's what I did when I was 21, it was the best thing I ever did. You know sometimes al u can do is try and stick in there, things will change and your life moves on, one day you might even like her again. I hated my Mum when I lived with her but now we can have a laugh together. (We did have a major row where I told her what I thought of her, it was horrible but cleared the air and now if something bugs me I can be honest and tell her straight).
Obviously that's many years on from where you're at now and I understand that you can't talk to her, it's probably not the best time anyway.
Maybe you could join clubs or do things that can take you out of the home a bit more? You both could probably do with some space???
Good luck smile
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Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 6:38 am
thanks for the advice.
i think i just might join more clubs or ask my friends to go somewhere. xp
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Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 3:56 am
It must be really hard as when you're that age it's tricky being independant. My main concern 4u is to try not to get into the wrong crowd of people or it could ruin your life more than the problem you have with your Mum. GL x
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Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 9:22 am
That's horrible. I'm really sorry to hear that. But it sounds like you know not to use your fists to solve your problems - instead talk about them. And sometimes parents can't be talked to and it sounds like yours can't. But that's what all of us are here for. We are here to listen to your story and help you out with anything. So, you should add me as a friend and you can message me sometime or something and we can chat it up smile
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 5:52 pm
Oh, dang. Your home life is messed up in the extreme.
I'm glad that you have interests that are constructive and the ability to identify what is making you upset: Instead of "My parents are stupid", it's "My parents are suppressive and belligerent". I give you extra special credit for remaining sane, as well.
It's hard to be sensitive and live in a home like this. I really wish you could talk to your Dad or Mom about this; I think they don't understand how you deal with things like this.....It'll probably be a few years before you can move out...so, ah...
I say you should try to find a good buddy, and a way to deal with this constant emotional abuse (Because that's what it is, don't try to downplay it) other than just trying to tune it out. TUning it out is a good way, but you still get the bad feelings. Perhaps a constructive hobby to focus your energy on? I'd really like to give you more advice...
Feel free to PM me, I'd like to help.
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Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 7:45 pm
the really sad thing abt this, for me at least, is that I think I kinda know how you feel. my sitch is different, yet the same. I dont get along with my mom at all, but I don't have any other siblings, and I don't have a dad. I just recently had a falling out with my mom's closest family member (her mom, my gramma) and now my gramma wont talk to either of us, which has my mom extremely angry at me, and blaming me for it... but I am not shy, I have no problem shouting right back at her... personally, since I have absolutely no artistic or scholarly talents, I fell into reading. first books, than fanfiction, then manga, and now back to fanfiction. I barely speak to her, I barely even see her, though we live in the same house. But now, at 16, I'm moving away from her to go live with one of her long-time friends that I kinda grew up thinking of as my second mom, in a state that takes my mom three days to get to from here, cuz she'll be staying here. I really don't know what to suggest to you, other than find something you can bury yourself into in order to hide from her. Don't let it affect you so much. eventually, when you're on your own, you might be lucky enough to realize that, although you love her, and she is your mother, your opinions and feelings are more important, when it comes to you and how you live your life, than hers are. I hope this helped... if not, sorry sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Jun 11, 2008 1:40 pm
i feel bad for u pj. u neva sed that it was like that at ur house!!! if u don't want to talk to her, write her a letter. if that doesn't work...idk wat u should do. confused
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Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 8:36 pm
sassfire-sam i feel bad for u pj. u neva sed that it was like that at ur house!!! if u don't want to talk to her, write her a letter. if that doesn't work...idk wat u should do. confused
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 9:49 am
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Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 8:10 pm
Ohh my! Sounds just like my Father (wasn't ment to sound mean lol). I love him, but he dosn't let me be me! I know what your going though there hun. *Computer huggies!* There's really no one at my house I can trust to say anything to them. They just bring my mood down. It'll get better if you just talk to her
<3
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Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 10:22 pm
I highly doubt that... but I'll try again.
The thing is though, I've talked to her before.
She only get's stubborn and everything becomes worst.
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