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for some reson me and mine are into it and its only been a little over a month now.... stare

We got married in july and still argue over chores and spending

Oh, it's normal.
My hubby and I fight randomly.. It gets intense very seldom, but we find a way to get past it.
It's always about the little things.. I'll come home, and he's sitting, watching tv/playing games.. And the house is dirty, nothing has been done..
It's in times like these that you learn to let it go. It really is NOT worth it to pick fights.

My husband and I don't argue a lot. But when we do we make it count! We normally end up fighting over really retarded things, like when I didn't want chili on my fries or when we couldn't see Pirates 3 on opening night. So its never a huge deal because its never anything important. Our problem is I get mad quick but I can forgive without a problem. Daniel's problem is he holds his anger in then pouts and holds a grudge all day haha.

But like I said, its rare that we argue.

I'm the one who usually starts it and end up looking like a total douche bag. I'm a very emotional person coming from a family that yelled a lot, but since being with my husband who's very chill and calm most of the time, I've learn to really really calm down myself also. Most of the time when we're arguing, it's me yelling and him just quiet and calm and that in turn makes me even more angry, hee hee.

I've learned to just tell him every time something bothers me and not keep it bottled up in fear of hurting his feelings. I tell him what's wrong and how it honestly makes me feel and how he can help me to make it better.

Like, people said, fighting is okay--not only that it's normal, but I don't know if constant fighting is necessarily or not. o-o; Me and hubby don't fight. We're kinda weird tho'... Not that we avoid fighting, but instead we have fierce debates, which--well, I'm a biologist, and he's an accountant, so we're very logical and detailed. And then, we usually bet against eachother. And who ever is more right--and the internet is always the judge-- xD We just compare our research--wins! Bets are usually like, if you win--then I'll do a load of dishes tonight! But if I win, then you get to do all the pots and pans!

... I, uh, also had one giant rule when Adam and I got married... which was that: I never do dishes. He said yes. xD I don't think he realized that I really meant it. I'll put them all away, I'll clean the whole kitchen. I hate dishes. He's all: Dishes don't really bug me. ^_^ So, he does dishes. <3 Makes life vastly easier. Dishes just irrate the hell at me. But if I lose a bet that I agreed to... then I finish the end of my bargain. ^_^

o.o; Also. I dunno. When we got married, we had already talked about chores and stuff. I work half time and go school, Adam works full time and goes to school full time. Therefore, I should do more chores than him, but he still needs to do some. -- And, er, Adam is much better with money than me, so he pays all the bills. ^_^ -- But, we also did something a little different also... We didn't get joint bank accounts. We were going to, but it ended up being a bigger pain in the butt than it was worth. So, all my money goes to food and gas. And all his money goes to bills and whatever is left over from his check, goes into savings. This way, no one over spends on food or bills because they simply don't have the money in their account. ^_^ And that's how we do that.

o.o; Also, men are a lot different from girlies, mentally. They don't see that the front room is messy. They would say something like, it's not "that" messy. So--I dunno. Read a book and have him read it with you. ^^ There's some really interesting information. It made mine and Adam's life much easier. ^_^ We read a great book about the married life, but the guy who wrote it was a psychologist and put this HUGE section in it about the mental pathways of men and women, the differenecs, the similarities. It was really really interesting! ^^!! So, now, we just dismiss some of our differences as a flaw/merit of our gender. :3 He's oblivious, and I can't find my way out of a paper bag. Those are distinct flaws common in men and women. Men don't notice their surroundings. Women have a much harder time with spatial orientation.

Gah. Long post. xDDD <3333 I'm done. Thanks for reading. I think I might've answered your question. Maybe. xD