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 Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 10:47 am
Pretty much all summer, my ex was saying how much she missed me and how she wanted to spend time with me... and for a few weeks things were wonderful. But now, for the past... week and a half maybe... she doesn't answer my calls or my emails... I know she has been busy but It's been impossible to make any contact at all... I'm so lost. I don't think she'd lead me on because she has such a strong moral compass... but it hurts nonetheless.
A few weeks ago I gave her a letter saying how I felt and after I gave it to her for a few days she was kinda eager to see me but we never talked about it and then contact ceased with midterms... she told me this week would start clearing up but she's still not answering my emails or my calls... it just makes me feel like I am a worthless human being
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Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 12:45 pm
You shouldn't evaluate your self worth by the people in your life. Though, I will admit, it's an easy enough measurement. Instead, consider your talents, your gifts, your hidden goodnesses. And, if it helps, consider the comfort of knowing that there are indeed people who care about you--even a few who you've never met.
As for the actual concern of the girl, if she doesn't have time for you, move on. You've put in your time, and more, it sounds like. It sounds to me like her relationship to "her work" is more important to her than human contact, which is never a good sign of an affectionate partner. A diligent one, sure. But until she finds a balance between "being busy" and "being social", she won't be the girl for you.
After all, if she won't return your calls--an ex, a friend, and a potential girlfriend--doesn't that speak to greater problems?
Love and Vale,
-LD
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Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 2:18 pm
Leavaros You shouldn't evaluate your self worth by the people in your life. Though, I will admit, it's an easy enough measurement. Instead, consider your talents, your gifts, your hidden goodnesses. And, if it helps, consider the comfort of knowing that there are indeed people who care about you--even a few who you've never met. As for the actual concern of the girl, if she doesn't have time for you, move on. You've put in your time, and more, it sounds like. It sounds to me like her relationship to "her work" is more important to her than human contact, which is never a good sign of an affectionate partner. A diligent one, sure. But until she finds a balance between "being busy" and "being social", she won't be the girl for you. After all, if she won't return your calls--an ex, a friend, and a potential girlfriend--doesn't that speak to greater problems? Love and Vale, -LD I can't move on... not yet. Not until I actually get to talk to her.. because I still have hope for us. She's given me more signs of hope than not. And she's very bad with communication... not just with me but with everyone.
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Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 7:03 pm
I guess you know what's best. But I still think that she needs to develop some serious people skills before the two of you start dating again. (Umm...out of curiosity, why did you break up the first time?)
-LD
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Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 9:04 pm
I say just giver her a little bit of time Baka. Its going to hurt waiting but I think thats really what is best right now.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 12:08 pm
Leavaros I guess you know what's best. But I still think that she needs to develop some serious people skills before the two of you start dating again. (Umm...out of curiosity, why did you break up the first time?) -LD Because I didn't understand how important her studies were to her... and we always either spent time together or time working... never both. But this year we spent a lot of time studying together... so...
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 12:09 pm
Shmoo-Chan I say just giver her a little bit of time Baka. Its going to hurt waiting but I think thats really what is best right now. I've just been waiting so long. I'm trying not to contact heruntil I have class with her... but it's been three weeks since I gave her the letter telling her how I feel... it's about time we talked about it.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 1:10 pm
Then confront her. What else can you do? At least you know each other, and there's a possibility of a relationship. That should be enough spur for you to talk to her. Wait for her after class, make an excuse to see her, call her. Do whatever it takes, or do nothing at all. But don't just go through the motions of things--really do it.
-LD
P. S. Oddly enough, I gleaned some wisdom from that. Huh.
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